One of my best friend left me! please help!

[Arkhangelsk]

Why is everyone calling him a homophobe?

Chances are nobody here would know how to react, if their best friend suddenly turned gay over night(I know that's not what happens, but as one doesn't know anything until one day, that's what really transpires) let alone if we weren't told.

Think of all the showers(gym class/football/whatever) you had with the guy. Think of all the times you gave him a hug. Sure, not all gay men are attracted to all straight men, but the mind ponders - and realizing that your lifelong friend is gay and has been all the time, is a frightening thought.

Show some fucking respect for this guy, instead of condemning him without knowing any kind of circumstance. The OP is particularly vague in this post, and maybe we need more information to decide, if we should even decide on anything.

Everyone is different. Stop being assholes to people who aren't as "open-minded" as yourself. It's really getting old.

This is true.

It doesn't have to be that the person is gay. I have a close friend who stopped talking to me for a long while when she found out that I had a crush on her. She didn't talk to me again for a long time, and even now it seems sometimes that she's a bit uncomfortable. She's not a bad friend, she just got freaked out by that I wanted to be more than friends when she didn't.

Could be same here. If one of my friends came out as gay, sure, I wouldn't abandon them, but I would feel a bit weird and ponder on who he was thinking about (particularly, me). And finding out that someone is gay makes them an entirely different person to you. Deny it or not, but many get different perspectives when that happens. Maybe he needed time to think it over, or it was too much for him too handle. Whatever the case, don't call him out without the facts.

 

[Swny Nerdgasm]

the other guy taking time to get everything straight in his head.

I see what you did there

Oh Christ, someone get me a rimshot!

Ba-dum chhh!!!!!

 

[Jack_Uzi]

I don't understand the people who say things like: "I can understand his friend because you never know if he checked you out in the past."
What tha f*ck does that matter?! If one of my close friends all of a sudden told me he was gay, I would probably say something this: "Good for you, man. Now, are we still going to go out this evening?" ... I really do not understand the fuzz about it.
One of my good friend who I had an argument with and don't see anymore is gay (not regarding that subject) and as long as he doesn't have the intention to stick his finger up my bumbum, it's all cool.

*Edit: I forgot something... yeah.. if that 'friend' of yours is making such a problem about it, maybe he wasn't worth hanging out with in the first place. Sometimes hard times in life show peoples true face. So just get over it and give him the two fingered salute.

 

[Pimppeter2]

Yeah, I'm not going to jump on the bandwagon of condemning your pal based the sentence long explanation you gave us.

For all I know you could have come out of the closet by groping him.

Also you tried hitting on him. Fuck, this is insane how everyone is jumping on your side. I mean that's fucking creepy. I would stop talking to you too.

 

[Swny Nerdgasm]

I don't understand the people who say things like: "I can understand his friend because you never know if he checked you out in the past."
What tha f*ck does that matter?! If one of my close friends all of a sudden told me he was gay, I would probably say something this: "Good for you, man. Now, are we still going to go out this evening?" ... I really do not understand the fuzz about it.
One of my good friend who I had an argument with and don't see anymore is gay (not regarding that subject) and as long as he doesn't have the intention to stick his finger up my bumbum, it's all cool.

*Edit: I forgot something... yeah.. if that 'friend' of yours is making such a problem about it, maybe he wasn't worth hanging out with in the first place. Sometimes hard times in life show peoples true face. So just get over it and give him the two fingered salute.

two fingered salute?

 

[Jack_Uzi]

-snip- the two fingered salute.

two fingered salute?

The two fingered salute as shown here is just another way of telling someone to pike off.

*Edit: Can't seem to get it right. But if you search on the term, you will find it.

 

[Swny Nerdgasm]

-snip- the two fingered salute.

two fingered salute?

The two fingered salute as shown here is just another way of telling someone to pike off.

*Edit: Can't seem to get it right. But if you search on the term, you will find it.

Oh I see, it's more of an English/European things i assume, never seen it here in America

 

[Trebort]

One of my best friend just stopped talking to me because he found out i was gay, please give me some advice, what should i try to do in order for me to get him back? i don't wanna lose him. I knew him since sixth grade, that was about 4 years ago and yes i tried hitting on him... think thats why he was shocked.

You should not have hit on a straight guy. Get your GayDar fixed.

Also, if he does not want to be friends just because your gay, he's not a very good friend. Find another. (Although it sounds like he was just gobsmacked your on the other bus and tried to get him on there too)

 

[Badong]

He ain't your friend if he judges you by your sexual orientation.

 

[Optional Opinion]

One of my best friend just stopped talking to me because he found out i was gay, please give me some advice, what should i try to do in order for me to get him back? i don't wanna lose him. I knew him since sixth grade, that was about 4 years ago and yes i tried hitting on him... think thats why he was shocked.

You can't.
I lost a friend because he couldn't deal with me being a TS.

What's a TS?

On topic.

Calling him homophobic is a tad premature seeing as we only know what the laughinggod told us.

There could be many reasons why he would ignore you, the main one is that you hit on him, now he feels uncomfortable in your presence (can't blame him there).

Say a girl got hit on by her friend (male) she had no feelings for, I can imagine the same thing happening but that doesn't mean she is a lesbian and despises straight guys.


Have you tried apologising? Your frienship will probably never be the same again but you may get some slither back.