Online dating syndrome.

[shrekfan246]

-Snip-

When I got back from lunch today I had 8 notifications.

I was like, "Oh God... what did I say this time?"

Well damn, aren't you popular. The most I've had at one time is three, I think.

Notifications you say?!

Somebody should really clean out your inbox. A clean inbox is a happy inbox!

Just join user groups and don't turn off chat notifications and yours can look like that as well!

Oh yeah, tell me about, when I first joined the Brovengers, turning off chat notifications was one of the first things I did. I get OCD about making sure I don't have unread notifications, so having them pop up every five minutes is very distressing.

Well, that somebody won't be me! I'm pretty sure there's an auto-delete function...because the number will randomly drop sometimes...

You're a sadistic person. WHY WON'T YOU ADHERE TO MY CRAZY IDEALS ABOUT THE WEBSITE INBOX?!?! I JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND.

[sub]That was a joke. Mostly.[/sub]

Erm. Wait, I can still tie this back to the original topic. Yeah, getting replies gives me a mix of a warm, fuzzy feeling, and the sense of "Oh no" dread. And then I hate and love seeing those numbers pop up at the top of my bar. It's like "Oh boy, I got noticed!" but at the same time "Dammit, that number is there again!" And then equal parts "I wonder who's raging at me this time?"

 

[Dectomax]

-Snip-

When I got back from lunch today I had 8 notifications.

I was like, "Oh God... what did I say this time?"

Well damn, aren't you popular. The most I've had at one time is three, I think.

Notifications you say?!

Somebody should really clean out your inbox. A clean inbox is a happy inbox!

Just join user groups and don't turn off chat notifications and yours can look like that as well!

Oh yeah, tell me about, when I first joined the Brovengers, turning off chat notifications was one of the first things I did. I get OCD about making sure I don't have unread notifications, so having them pop up every five minutes is very distressing.

Well, that somebody won't be me! I'm pretty sure there's an auto-delete function...because the number will randomly drop sometimes...

You're a sadistic person. WHY WON'T YOU ADHERE TO MY CRAZY IDEALS ABOUT THE WEBSITE INBOX?!?! I JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND.

[sub]That was a joke. Mostly.[/sub]

Erm. Wait, I can still tie this back to the original topic. Yeah, getting replies gives me a mix of a warm, fuzzy feeling, and the sense of "Oh no" dread. And then I hate and love seeing those numbers pop up at the top of my bar. It's like "Oh boy, I got noticed!" but at the same time "Dammit, that number is there again!" And then equal parts "I wonder who's raging at me this time?"

Bwahahahaha! Each time you reply, it gets worse!

 

[DevilWithaHalo]

I've come to the conclusion that all girls on these sites have delusions about finding their prince charming one day. After that, I couldn't take it seriously again and just shake my head at the thought of it.

There are kind of a lot of... passive women on them? The kind that are basically like

"Hi, I have no drive, motivations, hobbies or education. I just want a nice guy to sweep me off my feet and take care of me!"

I'm, personally, not really into babysitting.

I was dangerously close to wetting my computer screen.

If they aren't passive, they are overly hostile...

"Where are all the REAL men? Tired of dating creeps and losers! I'm not going to have sex with you, so don't bother! I'm a REAL woman, REAL women have Curves; not some barbie doll! Think you can handle me?"

Oh boy, I can have a sexless relationship with an angry self entitled confrontational fat chick; where do I sign up??!!

There are so many gems, I can't help but look from time to time for a good laugh.

 

[Attercap]

I should point out I'm not waiting on a response to first contact, I'd be fine with that. But we've been talking for over a week and getting on rather well, then suddenly no reply.

When I first started using dating sites, I was "that guy." I'd get along with a gal, but stumbled over the right phrasing to take it to the next step and go silent for a while. Either that or I'd be chatting with multiple females and, once things started moving along with one, would essentially cease communications with anybody else. Hopefully your case is more the former.

By the way, I've matured since then. Now I join dating sites and don't communicate with anyone!

 

[The_Waspman]

It's almost as bad as online package tracking; refresh, refresh, refresh. Anyone ever used one of these sites and gotten paranoid over why someone isn't replying even though you can see they're online?

Oh and if you happen to be on the escapist too, reply you cad!

[heebie jeebies] I'm making captcha nervous with my crazy spinster talk.

Oh god no!

Actually, I bottomed out with this just last week. So yeah, I'm on a dating site, which I think is lame enough as it is, but I happened across the profile for this woman, she was attractive, and had a really detailed profile. Granted, she was out-of-my-league-hot but figured I should give it a shot.

She replied the next day, with a message that was overwhelmingly positive. Told me how interested she thought I was (so I lied about a few things - like how I might actually have interesting shit to say), how she'd be very interested to get to know me better, so on and so fourth.

After I replied, never heard from her again. Despite the fact she's been online, and read my message. So yeah, the overanalysis kicked in, what the fuck could I have possibly said to go from her saying 'I'd like to get to know you better, but if nothing comes of it, I don't see why we cant be friends' to absolutely nothing. Did I slip so me subliminal KILL THE WHORES messages in there or something?

My issue is that
1) From the girls I talked to, none of them seemed to know how conversation worked. I would write long replies, ask some questions, trying to inject energy and personality into them, etc. They just had short, slim replies that gave me very little to work with in terms of sending a reply back.

2) Akin to this, so many people are just BORING. How many people do you find that "love to travel, like some bands and play a sport"? Like 90% of the people on there are like that. They're just too normal for me. I guess I always liked the weird girls.

Also this. My social skills are skewed enough as it is, but when I'm given nothing to work with...

In addition (on the profile front) how many times do you find the phrase "I like nights in, and nights out." What other fucking options are there!?! I mean really!?! That tells you NOTHING!!!

*rage quits*

 

[Attercap]

My personal favorite along those lines has always been "I like to have fun." Thanks, that's helpful to know, profile writer. Did you know, I've noticed that breathing helps keep me alive!

 

[Mr. GameBrain]

Ok. Now I want to join a dating site just out of pure curiosity now.

Damn you people... Damn you...

 

[MrMixelPixel]

Bit of a tangent, but apparently there's a (fucking awful) news story just broken about a guy who hated his wife, so he went on Craiglist and made an ad pretending to be her, saying she loved raped fantasies, and she wanted strangers to force themselves on her in her home without warning, and two seperate guys thought this would be a good idea.

At the same time!? That most have been awkward for those gents...


Ot: I've never used a dating site before! I ,however, would certainly be one of the people gets a message and doesn't respond for awhile. On the rare occasion when I actually have girlfriend, I almost always forget to respond to texts. Sometimes I forget and sometimes I don't know what to say. Just because someone isn't responding doesn't mean they didn't like what you said though. Don't worry too much about it.

 

[Helloo]

I used to be that way (not particularly in regards to online dating as I've never tried it (maybe one day)) in regards to texting, facebook chat, msn et cetera until I learned that I was overthinking things way too much.

If they haven't replied, 9/10 times it's because they're busy doing something else. And 1/10 times it's because I've said something to offend them, they don't want to talk to me, I'm boring them et cetera.

That's the way I view things now and it's worked out pretty fine.

So yeah, ReadyAmyFire and the rest of the escapists suffering from this, stop overthinking things!


k'

 

[waj9876]

I honestly don't know if I'd want to even attempt at a dating site. First, if I DID manage to find someone interested, chances are I would grow to despise them if they weren't as anal about spelling and grammar as I am. Second, to even be considered on such a website if you're a guy, you have to either be perfection personified, or have a strange quirk. Like being foreign, overly muscular, or...bisexual...


Huh...I wonder if I could get some responses on a dating website. Are young, dirty blond, shoulder-length-haired, bangs barely covering eyes, intelligent, bisexual/pansexual men who enjoy cooking still considered attractive nowadays?

 

[shrekfan246]

But I get paranoid that I said something stupid whenever I get the little notification that I've been quoted or replied to or something.

Even though I never say stupid things.

[sub]Again, I kid.[/sub]

Happens the same to me, and I did say a lot of stupid things, but now it's more that I start thinking if I was too rough on someone. I'm active on forums since 2007 and was usually a calm easy going person, but in this last couple of years I've been more direct, sometimes arrogant and overconfident. So every time I see a quote I think to myself "Maybe I was too harsh and hurt his feelings" Then the reply is usually harsh too and we get into a harsh discussion, and this type of discussions usually doesn't benefit anyone, it just makes our blood boil.

I usually just duck out of an argument if it gets too heated, because there's no reason to get all worked up over the internet over stupid things like a video game trailer. I'll read topics that tend to blow up into massive flame wars, but I rarely post in them and I prefer to stick with the silly or at least less-serious threads.

I don't come to a video game forum to debate philosophy.

 

[Blow_Pop]

I'm on a dating site for friends only (y'know since it is a friends AND dating site) and since y'know men have this inability to read even though i have it stated repeatedly in my profile that I am not here to date or to find someone to fuck, I constantly get shit like "hey baby what's up? wanna fuck? or wanna date me?" Reminds me again why I despise men right now and makes me thankful that dating wise I've given up men for a while in favour of women who don't pull that shite normally.

Also, yes I do get paranoid especially when we're in a really good conversation about books or video games

 

[BNguyen]

It's almost as bad as online package tracking; refresh, refresh, refresh. Anyone ever used one of these sites and gotten paranoid over why someone isn't replying even though you can see they're online?

Oh and if you happen to be on the escapist too, reply you cad!

[heebie jeebies] I'm making captcha nervous with my crazy spinster talk.

It's really annoying. All of the local women on the site are the complete opposite of my type and the women that I think would be worth perusing a relationship with are miles away.
On the rare occasions I do find someone local worth talking to, they seem to stop responding with no rhyme or reason.
Urgh.

exactly, and every one of them says "if you have questions, feel free to ask" and when I ask politely like "what kind of movies do you like?" they completely ignore you and with me on one case, she completely blocked me
I really can't see how acting like a ***** will get you a date

 

[Odbarc]

It's almost as bad as online package tracking; refresh, refresh, refresh. Anyone ever used one of these sites and gotten paranoid over why someone isn't replying even though you can see they're online?

Oh and if you happen to be on the escapist too, reply you cad!

[heebie jeebies] I'm making captcha nervous with my crazy spinster talk.

I was a little more interested in why 100% of the people refused to read my emails and deleted them instantly without ever reading them or looking at my profile.

 

[TheNamlessGuy]

DELETED

 

[Blunderboy]

It's almost as bad as online package tracking; refresh, refresh, refresh. Anyone ever used one of these sites and gotten paranoid over why someone isn't replying even though you can see they're online?

Oh and if you happen to be on the escapist too, reply you cad!

[heebie jeebies] I'm making captcha nervous with my crazy spinster talk.

It's really annoying. All of the local women on the site are the complete opposite of my type and the women that I think would be worth perusing a relationship with are miles away.
On the rare occasions I do find someone local worth talking to, they seem to stop responding with no rhyme or reason.
Urgh.

exactly, and every one of them says "if you have questions, feel free to ask" and when I ask politely like "what kind of movies do you like?" they completely ignore you and with me on one case, she completely blocked me
I really can't see how acting like a ***** will get you a date

I know. If you're not interested, just say so politely.

 

[neonsword13-ops]

"dorko will love you long time"

Made my night. XD

OT: Being only 16, I can't say I have any experience with dating sites.

I can, however, say that's how I feel on this site, especially in my user-group. I'm always ecstatic posting news and waiting to see if someone wants to share their opinion on it, and no one replies in the chat section. Makes me a bit sad...

But nevertheless, you must remain confident. I'm sure you'll get some replies soon.

 

[MammothBlade]

Dating sites do work from time to time, I recently found an interesting, attractive girl on one and we're going to meet soon.

Admittedly I did have this sort of messaging anxiety whenever girls took their time to respond.

I'm on a dating site for friends only (y'know since it is a friends AND dating site) and since y'know men have this inability to read even though i have it stated repeatedly in my profile that I am not here to date or to find someone to fuck, I constantly get shit like "hey baby what's up? wanna fuck? or wanna date me?" Reminds me again why I despise men right now and makes me thankful that dating wise I've given up men for a while in favour of women who don't pull that shite normally.

Also, yes I do get paranoid especially when we're in a really good conversation about books or video games

That's a bit of a generalisation, maybe your profile is set up so only douchebags message you? Kidding, kidding, but with guys like that on dating sites my polite messages maybe have a chance.