ONLINE LOVE
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It is hard to really say what works for one person may not work for another, such as in the case of online romance. I've met a few people that way, some have developed into relationships while others did not. The true art of conversation has died a long time ago after instant messaging become more along the lines of texting (or sexting, I suppose) and people lost the basic ability to actually talk to another person. I really feel cellular phones have destroyed human communication, with no help from Facebook or Twitter. To compact your life into 140 characters or less is completely ridiculous, and I've had plenty of women dismiss me for the simple fact that I do not text message.
Back to the topic now that I'm done on my soapbox... I live a slightly complicated life wherein I am a caretaker for a parent, which makes dating a little awkward and difficult. In public social situations, I'm not really much of a person who talks a lot because I have a nasty habit of saying inappropriate things for the sake of both reaction and comedy, or because I hate awkward silences with strangers. If you've got nothing to say when you want to hang out with me, then why are we hanging out? I've been talking to someone I met online for at least ten months. We spent the first two or three months just instant messaging each other until I proposed we take it to the next level and start calling each other... online, of course. So we switched gears and embraced the ability to directly live communicate without having to deal with cellular costs and limited cellular coverage. We like each other a lot, and spend at least two hours a night talking to each other, sharing stories and our lives and having fun together. She lives well over twelve hours away, and we've never formally met in person. We've discussed it, but it is an awkward proposal for her because she is unsure of how she'd react to seeing me in person, whether I go to her or she comes here. Since planting that little seed in her brain, she's been strongly considering to come and see me instead of me going to her, but either her conscious or better judgement keeps her rooted at home within the scope of our current situation. She gets to maintain her life and I get the same ability without causing either of us to leave the respective comforts of our individual situations.
I'm not saying it is impossible to fall in love with someone through a computer. A relationship is the same, regardless of the medium used to convey the emotions, provided that the core fundamentals of a relationship are still respected. I hope you took away from this experience that complete honesty is a very key virtue to a relationship, especially from the beginning. People are so worried about their public image that they are willing to withholding volunteering personal information so that you don't develop a bad impression of them, but how messed is that? By not being honest, you are basically lying to someone. However, there is such a thing as too much honesty. I can recall a conversation I had with someone wherein we had a good first online encounter. We talked for a while, things were going pretty well and before we ended the conversation, she asked if I loved her. That is certainly where I think the line should be drawn. For one, you can't decide if you love someone based on a single conversation, especially without actually meeting them in person.
Some people are very inexperienced and starved for attention of some sort, and are willing to sacrifice the time required to develop a relationship fully before wanting to jump into a situation with both feet before understanding exactly what they are getting themselves in to. I'm certainly not saying this is the case in this particular situation, but bear it in mind before trying this again.
Back to the topic now that I'm done on my soapbox... I live a slightly complicated life wherein I am a caretaker for a parent, which makes dating a little awkward and difficult. In public social situations, I'm not really much of a person who talks a lot because I have a nasty habit of saying inappropriate things for the sake of both reaction and comedy, or because I hate awkward silences with strangers. If you've got nothing to say when you want to hang out with me, then why are we hanging out? I've been talking to someone I met online for at least ten months. We spent the first two or three months just instant messaging each other until I proposed we take it to the next level and start calling each other... online, of course. So we switched gears and embraced the ability to directly live communicate without having to deal with cellular costs and limited cellular coverage. We like each other a lot, and spend at least two hours a night talking to each other, sharing stories and our lives and having fun together. She lives well over twelve hours away, and we've never formally met in person. We've discussed it, but it is an awkward proposal for her because she is unsure of how she'd react to seeing me in person, whether I go to her or she comes here. Since planting that little seed in her brain, she's been strongly considering to come and see me instead of me going to her, but either her conscious or better judgement keeps her rooted at home within the scope of our current situation. She gets to maintain her life and I get the same ability without causing either of us to leave the respective comforts of our individual situations.
I'm not saying it is impossible to fall in love with someone through a computer. A relationship is the same, regardless of the medium used to convey the emotions, provided that the core fundamentals of a relationship are still respected. I hope you took away from this experience that complete honesty is a very key virtue to a relationship, especially from the beginning. People are so worried about their public image that they are willing to withholding volunteering personal information so that you don't develop a bad impression of them, but how messed is that? By not being honest, you are basically lying to someone. However, there is such a thing as too much honesty. I can recall a conversation I had with someone wherein we had a good first online encounter. We talked for a while, things were going pretty well and before we ended the conversation, she asked if I loved her. That is certainly where I think the line should be drawn. For one, you can't decide if you love someone based on a single conversation, especially without actually meeting them in person.
Some people are very inexperienced and starved for attention of some sort, and are willing to sacrifice the time required to develop a relationship fully before wanting to jump into a situation with both feet before understanding exactly what they are getting themselves in to. I'm certainly not saying this is the case in this particular situation, but bear it in mind before trying this again.
I meet my girlfriend online and we've never been happier, been together for year and half now I think?
No, I've only ever fallen in love with someone I met in person.
I do know a friend who had a weird online love situation in which one of her friends confessed her love to her over facebook. Next day she came to school saying she was scared to go on the internet now.
I do know a friend who had a weird online love situation in which one of her friends confessed her love to her over facebook. Next day she came to school saying she was scared to go on the internet now.
It was an arranged marriage?
Are you sure about that? Coz she could just be saying that to avoid hurting your feelings...
Just sayin'...
Are you sure about that? Coz she could just be saying that to avoid hurting your feelings...
Just sayin'...
