People, what do you think if a girl hangs out with mostly guys?
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Last year, at university, I shared a flat with two girls. Both were great people to hang out with and I consider them both to be some of my closest friends. Nobody I knew felt it was weird, despite the fact that I would hang out with one of them specifically a hell of a lot. We worked together on the committee of the university film-making society. Both these girls had boyfriends, and I got on well with said boyfriends too (although it was awkward with the fact our flat had very thin walls, if you know what I mean...saoirse13 said:
).Right now, at the place I work, the staff around my age (21, and give or take a few years) are mostly guys. There are two girls working on one section, both of whom I consider friends, and a few girls have just started working part-time on my section. The girls who were already there mostly hang around with us guys, and in fact we're all going paintballing in a few weeks and the girls are coming too, even though it'll mostly be something of a sausage fest.
Finally, I went to an all boys grammar school, that allowed girls into the Sixth Form for A-Level. As a result, in the final two years I was there, we had maybe fifteen girls and over a hundred guys in our year group. The girls tended to hang around with the guys, and everyone thought it was fine.
The point of all this is purely to describe my own experiences within this field. On the whole, I see no problem with girls hanging out mainly with guys, or with guys having mostly female friends either. At the end of the day, we're all just people. Sticking to society's outdated notions of guys and girls having to remain in their own social groups is just silly, and rather immature too. Reminds me of primary school, really...
Heterosexual to Homosexual = sexual orientation spectrum that almost everyone is on somewhere.
Heterosocial to Homosocial = social orientation spectrum that almost everyone is on somewhere.
Historically, different societies care more about one that the other. In Ancient Rome, homosexual wasn't a big deal, but heterosocial meant you were really weird.
For me, in 21st century America, I don't really care where people sit on either of those spectrums.
Interesting, fun people are what I look for; the rest is irrelevant (at least now that I'm married - prior to that, sexual orientation had some interest to me if I was attracted to them, but had completely asexual friendships with both genders).
Heterosocial to Homosocial = social orientation spectrum that almost everyone is on somewhere.
Historically, different societies care more about one that the other. In Ancient Rome, homosexual wasn't a big deal, but heterosocial meant you were really weird.
For me, in 21st century America, I don't really care where people sit on either of those spectrums.
Interesting, fun people are what I look for; the rest is irrelevant (at least now that I'm married - prior to that, sexual orientation had some interest to me if I was attracted to them, but had completely asexual friendships with both genders).
I get along well with both men and women. I have one or two more male friends than female friends, but I have a good number of female friends as well. I like shopping, chatting, going to bars with my lady-friends and playing games, listening to music, and drinking beers with the guys. Everything is roses as long as everyone is friendly and treats everyone else like human beings. No need for anyone to be so judgmental.
As a man whose circle of friends is primarily female, I find that there are very few men I enjoy spending time with. I get tired of my two male friends much faster than my female friends, one of which also happens to be my best friend.
I would imagine it might be the same of a girl who hangs with guys most of the time.
Are we expected to find more in common with others based solely on having the same gender? 'Cause that's inherently flawed.
I would imagine it might be the same of a girl who hangs with guys most of the time.
Are we expected to find more in common with others based solely on having the same gender? 'Cause that's inherently flawed.
I'd weigh in that perhaps females that surround them self with guys just find the loyalty the guys devote to friends growing up over the kinda backhanded approach most girls had in school. ( this is just my observation and memory from school its been a approach) or just a simple difference in interests move them along with the male piers in there group. as for men with mostly girls meh I don't know I have always thought I've had about the same of each but I could go for the obvious answer about his sexual orientation. However I'd like to try to look at it more mature if I'm able perhaps the guy in question was just raised by his mom so hes closer to girls more trusting of them. Even just not very competitive regardless of interests males tend to show some interest in being competitive.
Most of my friends are guys, although my group of friends from high school is all girls.
I just always got on better with them because we shared more geeky interests and I'm not really a girly girl and don't really gossip or anything so it's harder to find girls like me (luckily I do have some great female friends like me which I'm very happy about)
That and also last year I lived with two guys, and so made friends with all their friends who are mostly male or I hang out with my boyfriend's friends who are again mostly male.
I would happily have more female friends, I just happen to know more males who share the same interests as me. If I find a girl who hangs out with mostly guys then I wouldn't really have an opinion, but if all the guys were geeks then I'd probably think "ooh she might be awesome, I should try be friends with her"
I just always got on better with them because we shared more geeky interests and I'm not really a girly girl and don't really gossip or anything so it's harder to find girls like me (luckily I do have some great female friends like me which I'm very happy about)
That and also last year I lived with two guys, and so made friends with all their friends who are mostly male or I hang out with my boyfriend's friends who are again mostly male.
I would happily have more female friends, I just happen to know more males who share the same interests as me. If I find a girl who hangs out with mostly guys then I wouldn't really have an opinion, but if all the guys were geeks then I'd probably think "ooh she might be awesome, I should try be friends with her"
I (being male) have a majority of female friends, why you might ask, simple. They don't act all macho, spout homophobia/racism and they're the nicest people I know..
I suppose I'm more feminine than most guys so it suits, I also find them easier to understand and get along with as friends.. relationships with females are much much harder..
As to the question, who cares friends transcend gender, no one thinks you're gay just because you hang around members of the same sex most of the time so why should they think you're a slut/etc. because you hang around the opposite sex.
I suppose I'm more feminine than most guys so it suits, I also find them easier to understand and get along with as friends.. relationships with females are much much harder..
As to the question, who cares friends transcend gender, no one thinks you're gay just because you hang around members of the same sex most of the time so why should they think you're a slut/etc. because you hang around the opposite sex.
Anyone that thinks people need to confine themselves to their own gender needs to have the stupid slapped out of them in my opinion.
If a female chooses to have more male friends than female, that is her own prerogative, and one I for one would never judge her by, whether as a coworker, another friend, a potential lover, or someone completely uninvolved. Now, I would be perfectly willing to judge how she treats/regards those friends, and/or the specific individuals she chooses as friends, but those are separate issues.
If a female chooses to have more male friends than female, that is her own prerogative, and one I for one would never judge her by, whether as a coworker, another friend, a potential lover, or someone completely uninvolved. Now, I would be perfectly willing to judge how she treats/regards those friends, and/or the specific individuals she chooses as friends, but those are separate issues.
umm...that she's not very sociable with other girls? Or she doesn't have as many female friends maybe?
There's nothing wrong with it at all, my ex's best friends were male...well that might not be the best example, but my point still standssaoirse13 said:
Means that he's more feminine and she's more masculine.
Nothing much to say about that, pretty normal.
Nothing much to say about that, pretty normal.