Poll: 1 in 5 Women Have Dumped Their Boyfriend Over Videogames

[atalanta]

And watch out for the girl who says "I'm a gamer too" because one of two things is going to be true:

1) She plays Bejeweled and other casual games and will be just as unforgiving toward your World of Warcraft/Fallout 3/Oblivion/whatever habit as the non-gamer-girl.

2) She'll be hardcore, sure...and she'll be a dull conversationalist, a terrible domestic, and...well...my ex-wife. Nerds are just as uninteresting when they have vaginas.

...seriously?

I find nerdy girls dull. Plus, their "intellectualism" is inevitably so narrow as to suggest they don't have a thought in their heads beyond those little things that catch their focus.

I would much rather find myself in conversation with a girl who talked about something besides anime, video games, or whatever the fuck else nerds are into these days (I'll be honest, I don't keep track. I'm a jock who happens to be a gamer.)

I'm all in favor of having a girlfriend who likes strategy games (instant lots-in-common), but if that's all I have in common with her, if she doesn't like sports and restaurants and classic rock and going bowling and everything else I'm into, that's going to be a very hollow relationship that at the very best is headed for friends-with-benefits territory. Gaming is WAY down the list of things I find attractive.

"Nerd", by definition, implies boring, one-dimensional people. Who wants that? Besides maybe other boring, one-dimensional people who can share their one and only interest in common with somebody else. But that's just sad.

Fair enough I was mostly objecting to the either-or statement -- I assure you, you're not the only person who has a life outside of video games, and being accused of being an intellectually shallow mouthbreather is made exponentially more irritating to me when it comes from someone who shares the same (or similar, at least) hobby.

 

[Anti213]

Aw cmon, lets not fufill the stereotype of misogynistic nerdy individuals so engrossed and obsessed with video games that if given a choice between video games and a girlfriend, we'd choose the former! Well, it's more understandable that there would be a bias in favor for videogames in such a site, but replace "video games" with another form of escapism such as say, television, and the video gamer instead looks like a selfish couch potato more interested in the pretty flashing colors than for their significant other.

Which actually might be how non-video gamers see gamers, and, (lets admit it), not totally without reason either.

 

[wench]

Wife is a gamer. We met because of games. This is a complete non-issue.

Second this. My guy and I met via Everquest. The only gaming arguments we get into are along the lines of who gets to use what console/PC.

Statistically speaking, making that first question combine both "gaming" and "internet" means that of course they were going to get a huge number. Loaded question.

I have to ask, what the hell kind of women are you guys dating? I don't know any women like what you're describing. Either I've got incredible taste in girl/friends, or you guys have really crappy taste in girls. Do you just pick them by looks and hope for the best, or what? Why would you date someone who's a self-obsessed twat? The sex can't possibly be _that_ good.

 

[Gamergyrl]

Geez, relationships are about balance. Any guy who does too much of ANYTHING, not just video games, is gonna be an issue. Sunday and Monday night football? Cool, I'll probably join you. Football plus video game weekdays and poker Fridays? Not so cool. Women who want relationships long term are willing to work with a man's hobbies, because she has some of her own and she wants the same treatment. I mean, I'm a gamer, and I don't have a problem with guys who also love games, but I don't want to spend five hours watching YOU game alone. There are ways to have time for your girl AND your games.

 

[theultimateend]

In other news 5 out of 5 of the men are happy.

The first 4 are no longer with someone who wanted them to be someone other than themselves and the last 1 has found an awesome girl (I should know ).

 

[Nurb]

I'd rather be alone than be forced to give up my hobbies, but then I don't do anything to an extreme degree.

I'm sure many of these women are just princesses angry about their boyfriends not lavishing enough attention or money on them

 

[Belbe]

I wish my boyfriend played more games so I could play more without him QQing or feeling left out...sigh

 

[CakeDragon]

What you say works both ways.
My boyfriend gets angry because he comes to see me and I'm too busy playing videogames.

WHHHHAAAAAAAATTTTT? i could see if you didn't let him join in but. that guy should count his lucky stars cause girls that are that into games are hard to come by (and in my experiance usually pretty hot[wel the console ones anyways]) it's most guy's dream to have a gf that'll comeover and instead of having to watch pride and predjudice (and zombies lol) get to play cod or rockband or other multiplayer vid games all night. what is this world comming to?

Lol the best thing I did was buy Assassins Creed 2 before he did and when he came round I played it all day just to piss him off

I don't think either partner should have to give up what they like doing just because their other half doesn't like it. Yeah gamers girls are harder to come by than gamer guys so I suppose guys have the difficulty of choosing between his non-gaming girl and gaming, which is pants!

And I wouldn't watch Pride and Prejudice anyway, it's rubbish

 

[VanityGirl]

Chicks can be so selfish.

Actually, I'm going to call bullshit. I game as much as my boyfriend, but and there is a big BUT, to make a relationship work (and work well) you need to spend time together.
The only reason gaming's not the best way to spend time together is because you're not focused on each other, rather what's going on in the game.

What you said could be turned around on you, so be careful.
"Chicks can be so selfish", even said as a joke, is not 100% true.

Is it not also selfish for you to spend more time in front of a TV then to the girl/guy you've devoted yourself to?

There's a different with gaming sometimes and having your ass glued to the TV.
I love gaming myself, but I make sure that my boyfriend and I do other things besides just game. Our relationship would be shit if we just sat in front of the TV and didn't get to spend more time connecting and getting to know each other.


Sorry, but I had to say that.

 

[Casual Shinji]

Chicks can be so selfish.

Actually, I'm going to call bullshit. I game as much as my boyfriend, but and there is a big BUT, to make a relationship work (and work well) you need to spend time together.
The only reason gaming's not the best way to spend time together is because you're not focused on each other, rather what's going on in the game.

What you said could be turned around on you, so be careful.
"Chicks can be so selfish", even said as a joke, is not 100% true.

Is it not also selfish for you to spend more time in front of a TV then to the girl/guy you've devoted yourself to?

There's a different with gaming sometimes and having your ass glued to the TV.
I love gaming myself, but I make sure that my boyfriend and I do other things besides just game. Our relationship would be shit if we just sat in front of the TV and didn't get to spend more time connecting and getting to know each other.


Sorry, but I had to say that.

I was actually being sarcastic.

Of course a girl isn't selfish if she wants to spend time with you, because it's the complete opposite.
As a rather sad single myself, I don't understand why guys spend the majority of their time gaming if they have a relationship.

 

[strogi]

LOL reading the article i fell one of the lucky ones. I have a lovely fiance who loves gaming as much as me (if not more so).

 

[ckeymel]

When a woman is in a "serious" relationship, they considers all the time, effort, and attention of the man to be her property. She resents anything he does that doesn't directly benefit her in some way because she feels like he is taking something that doesn't belong to him.

99% of women's complaints go something like this: You spend too much time doing activity X (where X is an activity that does not benefit her) or You don't do enough of activity Y (where Y is an activity that does benefit her).

Since women can't understand logic and reason you need to work on their level, pay attention, and figure out how to produce the proper emotional response.

Practice this phrase until you can say it in a way that appears to be 100% sincere. "I'm sorry you feel that way." Then the proper followup is "Lets work together to make it better." This works because women are averse to responsibility, and "work together" implies that she is required to contribute to the effort. Then talk about how to make things better, agree with everything she proposes, then forget the conversation happened and do whatever the hell you want anyway.

If a woman wants to stay with a man nothing he does will keep her away, if a woman wants to leave then nothing he can do will make her stay.

Wow, congrats on showing everyone on this site how much of a jerk you are. Good luck on getting any girl, let alone one that you might actually WANT. I seriously hope you are joking.

 

[Twad]

YOur source, i want to see the real source of this poll, since both the source on escapist and PCworld lead nowhere near the actual poll. Until i see data, this poll is meaningless.

 

[soilent]

This just in:
20% of Women are overbearing control freaks.

and not the good, sexy kind..

 

[L9OBL]

What you say works both ways.
My boyfriend gets angry because he comes to see me and I'm too busy playing videogames.

WHHHHAAAAAAAATTTTT? i could see if you didn't let him join in but. that guy should count his lucky stars cause girls that are that into games are hard to come by (and in my experiance usually pretty hot[wel the console ones anyways]) it's most guy's dream to have a gf that'll comeover and instead of having to watch pride and predjudice (and zombies lol) get to play cod or rockband or other multiplayer vid games all night. what is this world comming to?

Lol the best thing I did was buy Assassins Creed 2 before he did and when he came round I played it all day just to piss him off

I don't think either partner should have to give up what they like doing just because their other half doesn't like it. Yeah gamers girls are harder to come by than gamer guys so I suppose guys have the difficulty of choosing between his non-gaming girl and gaming, which is pants!

And I wouldn't watch Pride and Prejudice anyway, it's rubbish

Lol nice AC2 is an awesome game probly the only one that i'm actually going to bother collecting all the feathers/small objects for the platinum (i hate doing that i can never find the last one!).

Yah i say if you can't accept me for who i am then BUGGER OFF! lol. because most girls that dont like me playing video games have never played them themselves so it kinda pisses me off. i'll usually just hand them a controller and say join in or get out. (well not exactly like that but you get my drift) and usually (if you let them kick your ass a couple times) they end up liking gaming and then.... all they wana do is come over and play cod which is fine by me so....

Yah pride and predjudice sux but its not bad with zombies lol.

 

[quiet_samurai]

To be honest, I think it's more of a convenient excuse to cover up for deeper issues than it is an actual reason.

Yup. Exactly waht I was going to say.

OT: I once had a girl get mad and go home because I didn't fell like going to sleep and cuddling with her after we fooled around. After a little rest I got dressed and sat down at the PC and jumped into a CS:S game, she was like "Are you serious?" Oh well, I see it as a way for us to get back at them when a 20 minute trip to the mall ends up being and hour and a half long ordeal, which usually ends up with them shopping and not buying anything.

 

[Abedeus]

Studies show that 20% of the women that leave their boyfriend think only about themselves.

And those 20% will be happily living the rest of their lives alone.
Harsh, I know.

You mean people are perfectly capable of being happy without having someone to care about, constantly talking to and focusing every minute of their life on indulging other person's whims. Non-stop. And if you don't, you are an asshole and a swine.

LIES! LIES AND SLANDER!

 

[miniwak93]

I'm in the UK, and here mentioning that you play games to girls tends to make them lose interest fast.

amen to that, mind you i'm an a-level student and to me after past experiences girls are just hassle at my age, nothing but trouble i dont have time for, my love can wait till after edumuncation