Poll: A question for the guys . Sex on the first date, Yay or nay?

[krazykidd]

So with the current thread trend being , dating , relationships and flirting , i decided to make this thread .

So most guys i ask this question to always say yes . Most women i ask this too always say no . However , what people say and what they do are not always the same . This is why i decided to make this thread for you guys .

Will/do you have sex on the first date?

I do and will whenever i get the chance , i have start a few ( sucessfull )relaships after having sex on the first date . Of course i don't bang everyone i go out with , but if they attraction is there , i usually try and steal home ( baseball reference). It doesn't always work , but hell if i'm not going to try . Ironically enough , some girls who told me they don't have sex on the first date , ended up having sex on the first date . I personally don't like setting boundaries like that , especially since sex, for me , is very enjoyable .

Your turn.

Edit:

I want to apologize ( i rarely do that , so appreciate it bitches) . I had two major oversights in creating this thread . The first are for the " wait until marriage guys" . I litterally forgot to include you guys because of my permiscuous nature , i forgot this was even an option. You're input is very appreciated .

Secondly i wrote " sex with a girl " when i meant partner . I did not want to alienate my homosexual homies ! You're imput is also greatly appreciated .

 

[Heronblade]

Depends

Is this a first date with someone I only recently met? Or one with an individual I've known for months or years, and are just now looking into a romantic relationship?

If the former, the answer is no, at least for the time being. If the latter, yes

 

[Fappy]

Depends

Is this a first date with someone I only recently met? Or one with an individual I've known for months or years, and are just now looking into a romantic relationship?

If the former, the answer is no, at least for the time being. If the latter, yes

Yeah, I'd have to agree with this. If I didn't know the person very well I don't think I'd be comfortable jumping right into it. If I knew and trusted them well enough already, well, why not?

 

[BloatedGuppy]

Depends on the girl. And on you. You should have enough of a sense of the girl to know whether or not it's a good idea. And if you don't, it's not a good idea.

 

[Johnny Novgorod]

I would ordinarily say 'no', but since I did sleep with my now-girlfriend on out first date, I'm going to have to say 'yes', for authenticity's sake.

 

[Colour Scientist]

Why didn't you just ask to say what gender you are and then answer?

Oh well, to the next thread!

 

[Boris Goodenough]

Yeah, if I am attracted to her why not?
But usually I get the response "I am not that kind of girl." when the subject comes up.

 

[Kaendris]

Being that my cardinal sin is lust...

Yes, why yes I have and would again.

 

[kurokotetsu]

Yes. Why not? Is sex going ot ruin the relationship in any form? I don't see that if we're both interested not to do it because of a stupid social convention about when it is right to do it. I really don't see why not.

 

[tilmoph]

Given that I'm a rather unattractive sort, who only gets hit on by women so drunk it'd be a (literal) crime to have sex with them, my answer's rather hypothetical; no.

I'm not really that comfortable with my sexuality in the first place. As in, if they made an OTC pill tomorrow that rendered one asexual, I'd buy a lifetime supply, and damn the side effects. So a woman suddenly deciding I'm sexually attractive and that she'd like to sample my dick would just screw with me, as I have no precedent for that behavior. Then again, a women actually wanting to go on a date with me would be an equal OCP. I've gone out to hang out with female friends, I've hung out in mixed company, but an actual, scouting out romantic and sexual compatibility date is well outside my area of experience.

 

[Catfood220]

I have had sex with a woman on the first before, mainly because I was young and she offered it plate. The relationship didn't last more than a couple of weeks, we had nothing in common. Generally I leave it up to the woman as to when sex happens, though, I do try to nudge things in the right direction after a while.

 

[BlackJimmy]

Sure. If we're both up for it.

 

[Queen Michael]

The only girl I ever slept with, I went on two dates with before we had sex. Just to be clear: We had know each other for months and gone on two dates when we had sex.

But I will have sex on the first date if the girl wants to.

 

[game-lover]

I doubt it. I may be a virgin but I have sincere doubts I could ever look at sex as just... that. And let's face it, sex with a person you've only just met for less than a day probably doesn't have high hopes as being motivated by any emotional aspect.

So I think I'd have to be sure I felt some affection for the fella somewhere. And no matter how good a first date went, I don't count on it being the case.

 

[SquidVicious]

I have and it always ends badly. Within a few weeks you realize you're only into each other because of sex and once you spend time together not having it, you realize you can't stand the person and then have to awkwardly breakup with them, feeling like an asshole because you were only using them for sex.

If I'm actually interested in a woman then things like sex can wait while we have a good time eating out, going to movies, going on walks, playing laser tag, etc.

 

[krazykidd]

Given that I'm a rather unattractive sort, who only gets hit on by women so drunk it'd be a (literal) crime to have sex with them, my answer's rather hypothetical; no.

I'm not really that comfortable with my sexuality in the first place. As in, if they made an OTC pill tomorrow that rendered one asexual, I'd buy a lifetime supply, and damn the side effects. So a woman suddenly deciding I'm sexually attractive and that she'd like to sample my dick would just screw with me, as I have no precedent for that behavior. Then again, a women actually wanting to go on a date with me would be an equal OCP. I've gone out to hang out with female friends, I've hung out in mixed company, but an actual, scouting out romantic and sexual compatibility date is well outside my area of experience.

No one is that unattractive . Nothing , some proper clothes and a haircut can do ( iv'e see. It so many times )! And since you have female friends that means you're likable enough to be around , that is all you need. However , saying you're unattractive is an unattractive trait, and you should never , ever let anyone hear you say that, ever . Nothing turns a woman off than a man with low self esteem . Modesty is good , low self esteem is bad.

 

[SuperUberBob]

Rarely. I only date people who I respect. If I respect a person, it means that I wouldn't bang them on the first date.

If the girl initiated, then I guess I would. However, I would never initiate a serious relationship with that person. Sex on the first date implies friends with benefits, not a legit relationship.

 

[BOOM headshot65]

I answered "Im Old School", but your timing was off. Sex is waiting until we are married. If they dont want to wait, then tough. Although, everyone of my friends (and I would never date someone I wasnt friends with) feel the same way, and my girlfriend is even more strict about this, so the problem is solved.

 

[DefunctTheory]

Social Rule Number One of Being an Adult Man:

Don't stick it in crazy.

One date is not enough time to access the mental status of anyone to any degree of certainty.

 

[SckizoBoy]

Depends on a lot of things... but for the most part 'no'...

It's difficult for a guy to pull off having the girl try to have sex with him but gently refusing such that the refusal cannot be denied... but it makes it one hell of a first time when it does happen... apparently.

The only true 'first date' in four relationships was spent in complete and utter silence... lasted six years, so maybe that's not a good indicator for 'normal' folks.

EDIT - and contrary to Accursed's rule one, the above involved a great deal of 'sticking it in the crazy'... >_>