Poll: A question for the guys . Sex on the first date, Yay or nay?

[Frankster]

I'm rarely that comfortable with people on a first date.

The pressure of having to have sex and making it a memorable night where you bring out your A game would just stress me and likely result in a limp unsatisfying performance.

So a no from me, more power to you if you got the urge to do it asap, but im more one for taking my time.

 

[Fox12]

Well, I wouldn't want to have sex on the first date. I would rather get to know the person before I had sex.

But I'm the guy who wants to wait until marriage, so I'm hardly in the mainstream : P

 

[krazykidd]

This is a joke, right?

If you have to ask the question , a thread like this is needed . Your welcome .

Most likely no. Mainly because I'm mostly asexual, so its very unlikely that I'm going to be thinking with my dick any time soon.

That's not to say I'm repulsed by sex, I just find the prospect of it a bit boring.

As such, I instantly become suspicious whenever someone comes onto me (it has happened... on occasion... and on occasion... I've even noticed).

Its just plain weird to me, plus... I have some other hang-ups about it that I'd rather not get into here.

I'll be honest . As a heterosexual , sex obsessed man , when i actually sit down and think about the act of sex , it's quite disgusting . When you think about the bodily fluids , and the things being done , it's not appealing in the least . That's when i'm alone and think about it . Now when it's time to do the deed , i forget all that stuff and enjoy the hell out of it . Without going into details , i hate vanilla sex , which makes thinking about the things iv'e done ( or will do ) even more jarring .

But i get where you are coming from . Sex is kinda nasty when you think about it . But lord is it satisfying in the moment ( and shortly after).

 

[Blood Brain Barrier]

If the girl is wanting to have sex on the first date with anyone, regardless whether it's me or not, I don't hold out much hope for a long-term relationship no matter if we actually do it or not. So the question is irrelevant. A "date" is something I see as possibly leading to a relationship and I wouldn't normally go for the type that sleeps with someone they barely know. I have before, of course, but those weren't dates and they didn't lead to anything, as I expected at the time.

 

[Deathmageddon]

Only if your first date just happens to be your wedding lol.

FINISH HER! ...MONOGAMY!!!

 

[Playful Pony]

Depends, sometimes I do. A few casual dates for me end in equally casual sex if I and the woman in question are- Oh, for guys... Sad pony will play elsewhere D=.

 

[BleedingPride]

Never been a fan of the three date thing, but I've only gotten into my first successful relationship as of recently, so I guess I wouldn't know.

 

[LegendaryVKickr]

If she's offering it, I'm taking it. End of story.

(Given the assumption that by dating her in the first place, I find her attractive)

Pretty much this. If the girl is offering, and I'm into her, than why would I say no? From my experience, girls usually wanna wait, and I'm not gonna push it. I'd much rather wait if the opposite is seeming pushy and inconsiderate.

But if a cute girl wants to give me a shot? Heck yes.

 

[TheDoctor455]

This is a joke, right?

If you have to ask the question , a thread like this is needed . Your welcome .

Most likely no. Mainly because I'm mostly asexual, so its very unlikely that I'm going to be thinking with my dick any time soon.

That's not to say I'm repulsed by sex, I just find the prospect of it a bit boring.

As such, I instantly become suspicious whenever someone comes onto me (it has happened... on occasion... and on occasion... I've even noticed).

Its just plain weird to me, plus... I have some other hang-ups about it that I'd rather not get into here.

I'll be honest . As a heterosexual , sex obsessed man , when i actually sit down and think about the act of sex , it's quite disgusting . When you think about the bodily fluids , and the things being done , it's not appealing in the least . That's when i'm alone and think about it . Now when it's time to do the deed , i forget all that stuff and enjoy the hell out of it . Without going into details , i hate vanilla sex , which makes thinking about the things iv'e done ( or will do ) even more jarring .

But i get where you are coming from . Sex is kinda nasty when you think about it . But lord is it satisfying in the moment ( and shortly after).

I didn't say 'disgusting'... I said 'boring.' There's... a bit of a difference there.

 

[MHR]

What, you all gay? When the woman offers sex and she is not terribly fat/uggo/crazy/diseased you take it 9/10 times.

Of course I would take the sex on the first date. There's no reason not to unless you or her are an emotional klutz that will ruin things by having sex, but if you're normal that shouldn't happen.

 

[Miyenne]

I'm a girl, but I'll respond anyways.

Sure! If we got along well and felt comfortable.

That being said, never done it. But I think that's more a lack of dates than any sort of prudishness or needing to get to know him better.

 

[DefunctTheory]

Spoiler

This is a joke, right?

If you have to ask the question , a thread like this is needed . Your welcome .

Most likely no. Mainly because I'm mostly asexual, so its very unlikely that I'm going to be thinking with my dick any time soon.

That's not to say I'm repulsed by sex, I just find the prospect of it a bit boring.

As such, I instantly become suspicious whenever someone comes onto me (it has happened... on occasion... and on occasion... I've even noticed).

Its just plain weird to me, plus... I have some other hang-ups about it that I'd rather not get into here.

I'll be honest . As a heterosexual , sex obsessed man , when i actually sit down and think about the act of sex , it's quite disgusting . When you think about the bodily fluids , and the things being done , it's not appealing in the least . That's when i'm alone and think about it . Now when it's time to do the deed , i forget all that stuff and enjoy the hell out of it . Without going into details , i hate vanilla sex , which makes thinking about the things iv'e done ( or will do ) even more jarring .

But i get where you are coming from . Sex is kinda nasty when you think about it . But lord is it satisfying in the moment ( and shortly after).

I didn't say 'disgusting'... I said 'boring.' There's... a bit of a difference there.

If sex is boring to you, you are most certainly doing it wrong.

and (for her) because I am "A good man because you dont want sex from a girl." (her words on this).

While I'm not going to say anything about your conservative views on sex (I'm going to take a guess that your Catholic, judging by your mistrust of contraceptives and plans to influence your children not to have pre-marital sex), that's a pretty messed up view your girlfriend has. Does she honestly look down on those who have sex before marriage?

 

[Sectan]

Depends...Was it a date charged with subtle hints, double entendres every other second with an emotional connection? Hell yes I would. If it was a bad date obviously no. Probably a no as well if it was just a pleasant night out getting to know somebody. Chances are they would want to go out on another date and that's just another chance to get to know them better and possibly get physical.

 

[JemothSkarii]

With me it's a tad strange;

My current GF was introduced to me by my best friend and his (now) wife. Only problem was that she was overseas. But still first night we talked we hit it off and we talked like crazy the few months before we met. Since the wedding was in the US and I was the best man, I went over and was able to meet her for a wedding. Did some little things the first night together, second night was the full deed.

Didn't take her on a proper 'date' till 10 months later and due to how she was feeling there was no sex.

So...I guess if I know them well enough beforehand with romantic feelings towards them, yes. If I don't really know them and are dating for the sake of dating someone, no.

 

[Hero of Lime]

If it was a sort of blind date like through a dating site, or shortly after meeting for the first time, no flippin' way! I wouldn't feel right doing it with someone I just met, but if I like them enough a few dates will certainly change my mind.

Now for f it was a girl I've known for a long time, and was into for a awhile, it would be very tempting, but I would still not push it. Besides, I probably wouldn't find myself dating a girl who would want to do it on the first date. Not saying that is the only girl I would date, but them modest, just because that is how I am.

 

[AlbertoDeSanta]

I wouldn't, under certain circumstances however, I might. Depends on the person, how long I've known them, etc. Many factors would add up, but it'd generally be a 'no'. And, if she doesn't like that, it tells me that she isn't worth the time.

 

[Images]

If the fire's there. Hell yeah.

 

[MortisLegio]

Since I've never had a girlfriend (I'm straight), I don't plan to have sex after just a single date*. So I put Nay.

*However, if we have known each other awhile and this is just the first "official" date then maybe but unlikely.

 

[LetalisK]

If sex is boring to you, you are most certainly doing it wrong.

Damn straight. That's what whips and chains are for.