You know, there are a lot of reasons for which most of us find the actions of the people of the Westboro Baptist Church (the guys who protest military funerals) disgusting, but probably one of the most disgusting things they do, is act without sensitivity towards the feelings of those who are grieving the loss of a loved one. So let me ask a question here, what have you really done? By saying what you said, have you prevented someone else from drunk driving? Have you saved any lives? Have you changed anything for the better?
Or have you just told someone who is probably grieving the loss of someone that they cared for, that the person who died, and the other two who were in a coma, was stupid?
I don't think you are a bad person. I've said more than my share of stupid insensitive things that I came to later regret. You have said something terribly insensitive to someone who is in a lot of pain. At the time, maybe you thought you were just standing up for what you thought was right. That's understandable. But as you think over it some more, I imagine that you'll come to really regret what you've done. You're asking if you're a good person, because you already know that what you did was wrong. You already know that what you said doesn't make anything better, it only makes someone else feel worse.
If the girls who are in comas live, they'll have to carry the burden of their actions with them for the rest of their lives. We've all listened to someone talk who was drunk driving and killed someone. They NEVER get to forget what they did. They already know. Their loved ones already know.
You don't have to give to help them. In all honesty, I might not have given either. But saying that they're stupid to the people dealing with the loss, saying that they deserved it. That's immature, and it does nothing but cause more harm.
I drink alone some nights, and think about the stupid things I've said that hurt others, think about how much I regret saying what I said, and how much I wish I could change it, even though I can't. I imagine I'm not the only one. And if I were a betting man, I'd bet that the time will come when you'll drink at night and think about what you said too.
