Poll: Am I too picky?

[Gigano]

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As a Gnostic, it's a very real possibility to deal with this on a consistent basis. That's the only real breaking point, though.

Does being Gnostic require one to talk publicly about one's faith? IRL I've never been asked any questions about my (lack of) faith, nor brought up the subject with anyone else than a few close friends (and all you loveable internet strangers), so why would anyone but your family, girlfriend-to-be, and friends have to know of your specific convictions if publicizing them is a potential liability to your love life or opportunities in general?

No need to actively hide it, but no need to promote it either. Unless you want to, of course.

 

[ThreeWords]

So what you're looking for is a clever girl who respects you, shares your interests, and will put up with your beliefs and career choices.
Honestly, you are using the right criteria; you lusting after supermodels, detailing her required pedigree or selecting by eye colour. Instead, you're looking for an equal who will treat you as one, and stay by you.

Keep it up, and good luck!

 

[Naheal]

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As a Gnostic, it's a very real possibility to deal with this on a consistent basis. That's the only real breaking point, though.

Does being Gnostic require one to talk publicly about one's faith? IRL I've never been asked any questions about my (lack of) faith, nor brought up the subject with anyone else than a few close friends (and all you loveable internet strangers), so why would anyone but your family, girlfriend-to-be, and friends have to know of your specific convictions if publicizing them is a potential liability to your love life or opportunities in general?

No need to actively hide it, but no need to promote it either. Unless you want to, of course.

No, but being the sort that enjoys spiritual, philosophical, and religious discussion tends to require an establishment of my own basis.

 

[Commissar Sae]

Those were pretty much always my standards, took a while but I did find a girl who pretty much fills them all. As long as you're not the type of person who drives their religion down everyone elses throats it really shouldn't be that hard. As long as you tolerate other peoples views you should be able to find someone who does the same.

 

[Clarkarius]

No real opinion

"Think of them less then rules and more like guidelines" (Barbossa 2006)

Sorry.

 

[Zaik]

if it wasn't for the chase you halfway round the world just because thing it'd be not picky enough, however it'd seem that with that added on it's pretty much too picky unless you're fine dating a total social recluse who has no relevant people tying them down to a place.


Also, without assuming anything, if you're female you probably stand some amount of a chance, while if you're male you're pretty much screwed unless you've got a lot of money or you're pretty attractive.

 

[chainer1216]

the things you say are perfectly fine, the travel thing will probably be the biggest obstacle.

on that note! you're bit about tolerance has caught my attention, i need to stress to you that this needs to go both ways, i speak as a person who's been in a relationship that went south because of differing religious views. when we started dating i told her it didn't matter to me that she was very catholic, and that i wasn't gonna say anything directly against her faith despite some of my grievances with it, and she told me she wasn't going to try and force her beliefs on me. i kept my half of the agreement, she did not keep hers and broke it off with me because i refused to "accept jesus into my heart"

just keep in mind that you're beliefs aren't the only important ones and you should be fine.

 

[Hashime]

My Standards are impossibly high. This is for a reason, it allows me to justify to myself if in doubt why I am not pursuing a relationship.
Also, I found out they are not actually impossibly high as one of my university friends hits every point, it is kind of scary. (Not that I am interested in her, she is "Interesting")

 

[manic_depressive13]

No, but being the sort that enjoys spiritual, philosophical, and religious discussion tends to require an establishment of my own basis.

I don't think you're aiming particularly high, but you've basically narrowed your potential partners down to Gnostics with similar beliefs, or very moderate Christians. The only time I've ever heard of a relationship with partners of differing beliefs working is when at least one partner isn't very firm in their beliefs or doesn't care about spirituality/ lack thereof. However, if you want to be able to discuss these things with someone interested enough to know what they're talking about, you won't be able to sweep it under the rug and I believe it will cause unecessary tension.

It's still not that big a deal (depending on where you live).

 

[quiet_samurai]

No, everyone has standards... those are just yours. The only reason people give you shit about something like being too picky is because you don't comform to what they consider to be normal, in other words, you are not doing what they would or think you should be doing. I get it all the time from my mates, they are constantly hounding me for something like...I don't nail the fat, sloppy, loud ***** at the bar that has taken a liking to me, and they would have, cause that's how they roll. In really don't care, and sure they get laid more then I do, but i wouldn't trade in one girl I hook up with for ten of theirs.

So just do the best you can, and if you meet someone that may not meet all the characteristies you have listed above you should still give them a chance, because they might have something you may find out you admire later on.

 

[Jedoro]

Reasonable standards to me. I mean, it's potentially the rest of your life you're planning for: if you're not happy from the get-go, it's just going to suck the whole way.

 

[Naheal]

No, but being the sort that enjoys spiritual, philosophical, and religious discussion tends to require an establishment of my own basis.

I don't think you're aiming particularly high, but you've basically narrowed your potential partners down to Gnostics with similar beliefs, or very moderate Christians. The only time I've ever heard of a relationship with partners of differing beliefs working is when at least one partner isn't very firm in their beliefs or doesn't care about spirituality/ lack thereof. However, if you want to be able to discuss these things with someone interested enough to know what they're talking about, you won't be able to sweep it under the rug and I believe it will cause unecessary tension.

It's still not that big a deal (depending on where you live).

You forget that Mysticism, Buddhism, and Wicca are also open like that. Hell, even agnostics and atheists tend to have good spiritual conversations as well.

The big hang up that I have is on travel, though. Since I plan to move around, I don't think I'm going to be able to find someone until I actually settle on a place and get there.