Poll: Another Relationship Question (without sex)

[hyperhammy]

I spend a couple years in America and met this really great girl. After seeing her a couple times I had to move back to Germany. After 5 years of no contact I found her on Facebook. Now we chat a lot and we are really getting along. I mean REALLY getting along. Now I'm going visit some friends this summer and I'm staying at her house for a couple of days.

The question is, should I try getting closer to her? I'm not looking for a serious relationship but it would finally lead to some closure, since we never actually had something, even though we were both in love with each other.

No sex, just a summer fling.

I read some of the replies and I guess it is kind of a relationship. =)

 

[DigitalSushi]

No rejects, so yes go for it.

You just want to fuck her?
No relationship or nothing you just want to have sex with her?

In my opinion your being a bit of a twat.

Men are such pigs aye.

We need sex to feel loved, women need to feel loved to have sex, its not our fault.

 

[hyperhammy]

You just want to fuck her?
No relationship or nothing you just want to have sex with her?

In my opinion your being a bit of a twat.

Not so much sex... I don't think either of us are ready for that.

 

[KaiRai]

Well, if you live so far away, I doubt a relationship would work. If you 'get it on' with her, it'll just lead to a lot of confusing feelings.

 

[Rarhnor]

I'm oldfashioned so sorry for the sane answer

Don't chase after rainbows, that never end. If you're not looking for anything serious, you might as well drop your hard-on and friend-zone her.

 

[Blackadder51]

So just for a fling....

Well your dicks in the right place :/

Dont do it man, just dont.

Shes not an object for your fun.

EDIT: Oh for fuck sake your 15. And is willing to go so far for one girl? Yeh sure go, just dont expect not to get hurt.

 

[Celtic_Kerr]

Well either:

A) You want a relationship (You denied this)
B) You want sex (You've denied this)
C) You want what I assume to be a fling where you hold hands and kiss and cuddle and do the cute things... Oh wait, I meant a RELATIONSHIP

EDIT: Sorry dude, eitheryou have a relationship (even a mild, slow version of one), you have sex; or you go for both.

 

[Czargent Sane]

I dont understand, but I am inclined to say no

if you were both in love then you DID have something. if you dont want a serious relationship then why would you? hell, why would you stay with her? or resume contact?


did you just use the word closure to refer to this situation?

EDIT
I am confused, if you did not mean sex then by what did you mean "get it on"? in fact, what are you even asking?

 

[Marmooset]

My advice? Stop at the local conveno-mart and by some beverages to stock up the fridge. Hosts get a wee annoyed when you wake up in the middle of the night and drink all their juice.

One small piece of the puzzle, but hey.

 

[hyperhammy]

I dont understand, but I am inclined to say no

if you were both in love then you DID have something. if you dont want a serious relationship then why would you? hell, why would you stay with her? or resume contact?


did you just use the word closure to refer to this situation?

Yes, closure, because I really loved her and I was heartbroken when I had to leave.

 

[Trivun]

As long as the cards are on the table from the start and you're both aware that it won't last longer than this very brief period, unless the two of you are mature enough to handle a long-distance relationship, then I'd say so. Go for it, if it makes you both happy, however briefly. That being said, make sure you both know where you stand right from the start. If it looks like things won't go well for even just one of you, emotionally or otherwise, then don't even risk it. Just be very careful, especially with this girl's feelings.

 

[hyperhammy]

My advice? Stop at the local conveno-mart and by some beverages to stock up the fridge. Hosts get a wee annoyed when you wake up in the middle of the night and drink all their juice.

One small piece of the puzzle, but hey.

That's actually a good idea. =)
Thanks!

 

[Jaranja]

You just want to fuck her?
No relationship or nothing you just want to have sex with her?

In my opinion, you're* being a bit of a twat.

Well, that's men for you.

 

[hyperhammy]

You just want to fuck her?
No relationship or nothing you just want to have sex with her?

In my opinion, you're* being a bit of a twat.

Well, that's men for you.

Like I already said, I'm probably not going to bone her.

 

[Folio]

Make a schnitzel for her parents for extra points!

Well if you think you can keep this long term do note that you are far away. It will take time and endurance if you want to see eachother again.

...What is a fling anyway? You want to chuck her over something?

 

[Xyliss]

I think you should, but you have to explain to her that is only a summer thing beforehand an you both have to understand this

 

[hyperhammy]

Make a schnitzel for her parents for extra points!

Well if you think you can keep this long term do note that you are far away. It will take time and endurance if you want to see eachother again.

...What is a fling anyway? You want to chuck her over something?

Yeah, I'm planning to throw her somewhere once I leave.

 

[Jaranja]

I dont understand, but I am inclined to say no

if you were both in love then you DID have something. if you dont want a serious relationship then why would you? hell, why would you stay with her? or resume contact?


did you just use the word closure to refer to this situation?

Yes, closure, because I really loved her and I was heartbroken when I had to leave.

Spoiler: *sigh*

You realise that if you "get it on" with her, you're going to feel like absolute shit when you leave, right?

Lusting over this woman, then leaving, was hard enough.

Now put sex in the equation and, BAMN, you don't want to leave.

 

[Czargent Sane]

I dont understand, but I am inclined to say no

if you were both in love then you DID have something. if you dont want a serious relationship then why would you? hell, why would you stay with her? or resume contact?


did you just use the word closure to refer to this situation?

Yes, closure, because I really loved her and I was heartbroken when I had to leave.

you said "since we never actually had something" "should I get it on with her?" "I'm not looking for a serious relationship"

yep, sounds like my reaction to being reunited with a lost love.


also:
I'll give you a pass on this one: "get it on" means sex. unless your doing some sort of strange competitive thing, in which case it could mean "go!!!"

 

[Jaranja]

You just want to fuck her?
No relationship or nothing you just want to have sex with her?

In my opinion, you're* being a bit of a twat.

Well, that's men for you.

Like I already said, I'm probably not going to bone her.

That's what they all say