Poll: Another Relationship Question (without sex)

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Lionsfan

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Go get her. As for reasoning? Why the fuck not? If you try and get horribly shot down, well I know that sucks but:
1. She's in America and your in Germany so you don't have to worry about being reminded of it everyday. It would be easy to cut ties completely (if you wanted to do that)
2. You know you tried to make it work
3. And finally like you said, Closure. In 10 years you won't have this in the back of your head about how she got away or how you wish you had made a move.

So no regrets dude, balls to the wall and best of luck
 

Brandon237

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Discuss it with her, if you want a one week relationship and so does she, then yes. If you two agree that it is a bad idea, then don't. You have to ask her, not us.
 

child of lileth

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Well, since you said it's not for the sex in the OP, then I guess go for it. But of you're lying, and are just doing it for the sex, then no. But I'm sure most people would still do it anyway.
 

Doctragon

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Firstly, you're 15 right? And I THINK you said five years ago you loved her. Meaning you were 10? I'm not so sure but can you be in love with someone when you were 10? Someone clarify me on this.

Secondly, this is for a week or three months? I'm confused on that part.

Thirdly, since you're going to be living in the same house and you try to explain to her that yes, you have not had much contact in a few years but you want a 'fling' will most likely not go down well. You could be setting yourself up for a week/month of awkwardness and hurt. What happens if she tells her parents (I assume they live there too)? They may send you back home or kick you out completely. Two 15 year olds, assuming she's the same age, having a, as you put it, 'fling' will not go down well with parents.

Fourthly, let's say this works out. Let's say she agrees and you do whatever you want to do then you have to leave. What then? You part ways and possibly never see her again? You felt bad enough not knowing if it would work or not but now you're going to part ways while you're both happy and really having feelings for one another? How would that help, exactly? I understand the closure thing but really, won't this just cause more problems? Unless you be with her from the time you start dating to which you don't want to be with her any more, you'll still wonder what may have happened.

In conclusion, I think this is a bad idea. Yes, you may like her and she MAY like you but don't force something to happen. Don't go up to her and say something like "Hey. I know we haven't talked in a while but how about a summer fling?". It will most likely NOT go down well. And even if it does, you will probably just feel worse at the end of it. Especially since you're 15 and probably don't have a way of seeing her regularly. Plus you'll probably still want to have a shot at a long distance relationship and she may, or may not, find someone else in the mean time. Who knows.

Of course, you don't have to and probably won't follow my advice but that's what I think. Good luck either way and I hope you inform us what happened.
 

True Nero

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ok. why are you asking the escapist? really, this isn't a joke. a relationship is something that you need to make the decision for. if you honestly can see something more with this girl than go for it, if not, just have fun. you don't need anyone else's opinion on this. im not trying to be funny but when all the after-school specials say follow your heart, its not really joking.
 

Alon Shechter

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If you plan on sex which is not going to continue into a relationship - confirm your feeling with her!
If you have sex and then dump her then just do us all a favor and throw yourself off a cliff.
 

HeatVisionPaolo

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hyperhammy said:
HeatVisionPaolo said:
What's her name? let us facebook her and we'll see if shes worth it :p
Yeah, how about I don't?
Then I cannot provide any reliable advice. Your loss.

I kid. If I were you I would steer clear of having 'a fling' if you two still want to keep a positive connection with each other, otherwise you're probably both going to want to carry on the relationship or it will be awkward being 'just friends' whilst your in separate countries. Long-distance relationships, spanning two continents, from what I know probably won't end well. I've got a friend who was in a long-distance relationship which ended because he couldn't be there for his girlfriend who was living in Canada, so she turned to other guys. Hopefully that won't happen to you.

I recommend that you should probably just keep her as a friend, otherwise one of you at least is likely to get hurt. Good Luck.
 

Trivun

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JanatUrlich said:
Dude, why no sex?!??!
To be honest here, I do have to agree with this. If you like her, after all, OP, then why no sex indeed?
 

AmayaOnnaOtaku

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I say go for it. As in hang out and maybe go on a few dates with her to see where the chemistry is.