People'd only get in your van if you acknowledge that Violets are, in fact...Cpt_Oblivious said:
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Just ask...seriously
The worst she could say is 'no' which will put you right back into the position you were in before, except now you know.
If you don't take the risk, you'll never reap the rewards
The worst she could say is 'no' which will put you right back into the position you were in before, except now you know.
If you don't take the risk, you'll never reap the rewards
Kinda seems sucky but at the end of the day you just have to tell her you like her if you feel that strongly about it. Asking her to do something just the two of you like lunch, cinema or an activity along those lines will let her know that you like her.
If you are lucky she will get the message a little and tell you if she is or isn't interested. If she doesn't pick up on it just tell her. At the end of the day you will keep feeling the same way until some sort of progress is made.
If you are lucky she will get the message a little and tell you if she is or isn't interested. If she doesn't pick up on it just tell her. At the end of the day you will keep feeling the same way until some sort of progress is made.
Phenom828 said:
just do what i did with my gf! Ask her out, tell her what you feel for her! But as my friend told me dont go fucking Shakespeare on her with you feling. Be calm and breath and if shes not intrested, well there is other girls out there....i think. In short go for it brother! and keep us updated!
Yeah! I actually think I will just ask her out, just have to work up the courage to do it. and then figure out something to do on our (not so plausible) date. (I've never asked anyone out before) But yeah I'll keep you updated if you really care : )i did it 4 the lulz said:
I am in no way an expert on love. I'm learning a lot of rough lessons at the moment, and I find it hard to be optimistic, but it's in my nature to be that way, so I'll give a shot for you anyways. My recommendation would be to ask her out some time and see how she reacts. Don't just spring how you feel on her without any warning. She may view you as a friend, but that can always be subject to change. And even if she does view you as a friend, just ask her out to go and have fun going bowling (I don't find it fun, but some people do), or going to a movie, or any type of common interest thing. She might just want to hang out with a friend.Phenom828 said:
And the most important thing, is believe in yourself. You can't win every battle, but you can try nonetheless. So just go for it, and don't worry. That's all I got
Do a slow job at this one. What you have to do is be very friendly, opening doors for her, when she is walking in the hall look at her and smile and say hello. Be the friendly-ist person she has. You know. Be a boyfriend, without the boy in it.
But you also have to do a little stalking. Asking out a girl who has a boyfriend WILL get you into trouble. I'm not talking about stalk her home and send creepy messages about how much you love her by sacrificing chairs to her.
This would normally take about 2-4 weeks for her to notice you, faster if you have a facebook and be a friend with her*. Then when you have a good spot, reasonable alone, you can't be by her friends or your friends as they will pressure her into saying no, a group of people that you barely know and ask her out.
*You have to have a good facebook profile: 250+ friends and make it seem like you had it for awhile. Start liking her statuses, pictures, or notes. But never do it too much. Why? No one likes an annoying person.
But you also have to do a little stalking. Asking out a girl who has a boyfriend WILL get you into trouble. I'm not talking about stalk her home and send creepy messages about how much you love her by sacrificing chairs to her.
This would normally take about 2-4 weeks for her to notice you, faster if you have a facebook and be a friend with her*. Then when you have a good spot, reasonable alone, you can't be by her friends or your friends as they will pressure her into saying no, a group of people that you barely know and ask her out.
*You have to have a good facebook profile: 250+ friends and make it seem like you had it for awhile. Start liking her statuses, pictures, or notes. But never do it too much. Why? No one likes an annoying person.
I can't stress enough that you need to ask her out now. If you don't and she ends up with someone else, you'll be devastated. Don't say you love her 'cause that's a bit strong (even though you feel it); she may be a bit shocked and feel under pressure to say she loves you back (which she may do, obviously, but if she doesn't it could scare her off).Phenom828 said:
Seriously, ASK HER OUT. I regret not asking this wonderful girl (I would describe her how you described your particular girl) out a few months ago, she's now going out with someone else, and man the pain was awful. DO IT DO IT DO IT.
Personally I'm not sure that the "friend" approach works, at least not for me, (I have like, 9 girl friends) and I'm already friends with her on facebook. Though, from your description I might have already blown it, I don't have 250+ friends, and I've commented on just about everything she's put up.. so... yeah... <.<breadlord said:
I lol'd very hard at that, that was comic genius, and I shall be using it =PCpt_Oblivious said:
OT: I never got how you can fall in love with someone unless you're with them. I can understand obsession, but real proper love? I just think you have to be with someone to get that.
I'd go with weitenci (wait and see) but then I'm a hesitant prick that missed out on a fair few opportunities.
Since you work together, I would normally advise you not to date her. As the saying goes, don't shit where you eat.
But since I'm optimistic today, I think you should ask her out, see if it goes somewhere, if it does great! And if it doesn't... well then you'll just have to wait for another girl.
But since I'm optimistic today, I think you should ask her out, see if it goes somewhere, if it does great! And if it doesn't... well then you'll just have to wait for another girl.
I'd say go for it. My dream girl moved to Canada a few years back, before I really noticed her. We reconnected over facebook/texts etc. It's not until now I really realize how normal she is, which is plain awesome in my eyes (I live in a world full of crazy, I need a break everyone in a while).
Anyone else feel the same way, about the normal bit?
Anyone else feel the same way, about the normal bit?
Calumon: *YAWNS* Sorry... Didn't realise I was missed.TheNumber1Zero said:
If you like her, then tell her. Last time I saw two people who liked each other they were trying to eat each others faces. I hope Takato and Jeri don't end up doing that. Jeri has such a happy face...
First of all, the dreaded "friend zone" is never something you'll end up in if you simply refuse to allow it to happen.
Second, if the girl in question seems to have much going on in her life then you should "strike" ASAP, because if she has distractions already you need to make yourself into one of those distractions least she become swept away by one of them.
Third, take it easy with the thoughts about her being "the one and only" or "the girl of your dreams". Sure, she might be really special to you and that's good, but you'll not benefit from putting yourself in a position where you'll be utterly devastated if her feelings towards you aren't reciprocated.
Fourth, you'll most likely never know if she sees anything with you unless you ask, and the longer you procrastinate the more cemented her current opinion might get of you.
Fifth, feeling extremely nervous about coming clean about your feelings is NOT a bad thing. In fact if you actually own up to being nervous about it and it really shows that you are she'll see for herself that you're not just trying to bullshit yourself in under her panties.
Sixth, also make sure you don't lose your sense of perspective. SHe might seem like a sweet and compassionate woman, but there will be hundreds of thousands of guys who can attest to the fact that many women who seemed sweet and compassionate in the beginning turned out to be near psychotic heartbreakers who are notorious for just keeping guys around for their own benefit but never ever commit to one. So while you might be smitten and hoping that she'll want you back, keep an open eye for how events unfolds. If she insists on taking it too slow and refuse to give any straight answer, but still encourage you with compliments and such because shw doesn't want to lose you completely, then make sure you've kept a head level enough to know when it's done with hoping for something more and rather a deal of cutting your losses.
That's about all the advice I've got for you that I can think of right now...
Second, if the girl in question seems to have much going on in her life then you should "strike" ASAP, because if she has distractions already you need to make yourself into one of those distractions least she become swept away by one of them.
Third, take it easy with the thoughts about her being "the one and only" or "the girl of your dreams". Sure, she might be really special to you and that's good, but you'll not benefit from putting yourself in a position where you'll be utterly devastated if her feelings towards you aren't reciprocated.
Fourth, you'll most likely never know if she sees anything with you unless you ask, and the longer you procrastinate the more cemented her current opinion might get of you.
Fifth, feeling extremely nervous about coming clean about your feelings is NOT a bad thing. In fact if you actually own up to being nervous about it and it really shows that you are she'll see for herself that you're not just trying to bullshit yourself in under her panties.
Sixth, also make sure you don't lose your sense of perspective. SHe might seem like a sweet and compassionate woman, but there will be hundreds of thousands of guys who can attest to the fact that many women who seemed sweet and compassionate in the beginning turned out to be near psychotic heartbreakers who are notorious for just keeping guys around for their own benefit but never ever commit to one. So while you might be smitten and hoping that she'll want you back, keep an open eye for how events unfolds. If she insists on taking it too slow and refuse to give any straight answer, but still encourage you with compliments and such because shw doesn't want to lose you completely, then make sure you've kept a head level enough to know when it's done with hoping for something more and rather a deal of cutting your losses.
That's about all the advice I've got for you that I can think of right now...
I think you should wait a while then start to suggest fun things to do together. Although, having never been in a relationship with a girl before I'm probably not the best person to take advice from. I've liked the same girl for 3 years now but she's always with someone else :/