Poll: Are Going To Try to Stay Abstinent Until Marriage?
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I'm not into the whole 'marriage' thing. I'm not saying I won't get married, just that I don't see it as all that important because if I did fall in love with someone then I wouldn't really care if she was my wife or not, so long as we were together. However, if she didn't want to have sex before marriage, then I would respect that and marry her if she wanted to.
heh.. I ruined that one about 14-15 years ago...but Im married and have kids no, so this one is beyond the point of no return.
I'm waiting. 
Unfortunately, there don't seem to be a lot of guys who both 1) understand and respect why I'm waiting, and 2) seem interesting enough to make my wait worthwhile. Hopefully I will find one though!
Unfortunately, there don't seem to be a lot of guys who both 1) understand and respect why I'm waiting, and 2) seem interesting enough to make my wait worthwhile. Hopefully I will find one though!
That ship has already sailed as I have slept with both boys and girls. I totally don't regret it, but I think it is really sweet if people save it for marriage.
What if you end up marrying someone who's really bad in bed though? D=
What if you end up marrying someone who's really bad in bed though? D=
I don't plan on staying abstinent, no. But I don't plan on sleeping with some random girl, it's only gonna happen if I am in a serious relationship.
I'm 15 by the way.
I'm 15 by the way.
Yes, I will. I intend to only ever have sex with one person, and I see no reason not to marry said person. (Note that the monogamy here is more important to me than the marriage, which is only a social institution.) Also, to everyone making this into a religious issue: I'm an Atheist.
I'm a late bloomer, who's turning 21 in a couple of weeks and yet have had my sexual debut. However, I don't "plan" on saving myself. To me, marriage is just a pointless ceremony, made to give people the impression that you're sealing some sort of pact that will make you and your partner together forever... Just saying you don't want to leave the person would work for me personally, though I might propose to whoever manage to melt my heart and stay with me for some time, not that I have anyone... But no, I personally don't mind pre-marital sex.
I mean, imagine marrying someone and then you realize that night that your "lawfully wedded" wife/husband is a complete bother to have sex with?
Bad sex can lead to bad marriage. You want to risk that by being abstinent? In that case don't complain if you find out you're not sexually compatible with whoever you marry : /
I mean, imagine marrying someone and then you realize that night that your "lawfully wedded" wife/husband is a complete bother to have sex with?
Bad sex can lead to bad marriage. You want to risk that by being abstinent? In that case don't complain if you find out you're not sexually compatible with whoever you marry : /
I wouldn't buy a car without taking a test drive. Sex is a massive part of any relationship (well, any relationship I'm going to stay in, anyway).
I do not plan to do so and see no reason to.
Also, one thing that bothers me is when people say something like "save something for marriage." I'm bothered by it because marriage in itself is already a big deal. I mean, weddings are incredibly expensive and take lots of planning, you don't need to make it more special.
And on the perverse side of things, having some "practice" beforehand would make for an enjoyable wedding night as opposed to an incredibly awkward one.
Also, one thing that bothers me is when people say something like "save something for marriage." I'm bothered by it because marriage in itself is already a big deal. I mean, weddings are incredibly expensive and take lots of planning, you don't need to make it more special.
And on the perverse side of things, having some "practice" beforehand would make for an enjoyable wedding night as opposed to an incredibly awkward one.
lol, my response was going to be "That ship has already sailed."
and then I saw that was a poll option.
yeah, That Ship has already sailed, and if I had the opportunity to do it again, I'd totally sail it again. When I get married, I want to be able to actually pleasure my wife, and reading those cues and acting on them in the right manner is a skill that you can learn. AND LEARN IT I SHALL.
and then I saw that was a poll option.
yeah, That Ship has already sailed, and if I had the opportunity to do it again, I'd totally sail it again. When I get married, I want to be able to actually pleasure my wife, and reading those cues and acting on them in the right manner is a skill that you can learn. AND LEARN IT I SHALL.
No. Not only don't I plan on getting married, but waiting until marriage is generally a bad idea.
If you wait until you get marriage to have sex, and then that magical night/day comes, and you do it.....only to find out your new, "I'm never, ever going to have sex with anyone else" agreement has just tied you togther with someone physically incapable of satisfying, well, you're up the creek aren't you?
Because that kind of issue can't be medicated or "therapied" away - its there to stay. And that can have major psychological impacts on a person, even dooming a marriage.
If you wait until you get marriage to have sex, and then that magical night/day comes, and you do it.....only to find out your new, "I'm never, ever going to have sex with anyone else" agreement has just tied you togther with someone physically incapable of satisfying, well, you're up the creek aren't you?
Because that kind of issue can't be medicated or "therapied" away - its there to stay. And that can have major psychological impacts on a person, even dooming a marriage.
sorry i didn't reply earlier. i was on holiday. but thanks for the support. yeah its cool to believe in what ever you wish just as long as you don't put people down for it. that's what i believe in.ExodusinFlames said: