I think I was with my fella for like 7 months before we felt the time was right. We split up a couple months later :/
So umm...that ship has long been sailing.
So umm...that ship has long been sailing.
Poll: Are Going To Try to Stay Abstinent Until Marriage?
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Does having a completely and utterly pessimistic view on my chances of FINDING someone (0%) let alone having sex with them (-?%) count as planned abstinence?
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Win...Kinda with you on that one. Personally, I think if she wants it, you want it, you have protection and you love each other, then go for it.GrandAdmiral said:
My cousin is getting married this summer to her boyfriend of a little over a year. I doubt it is her main reason but she has said that one of the reasons she is doing it is because she doesn't want to have sex before marriage and they want to live together next year. This is the bit that I don't really get, if you don't think that your willpower is strong enough to live together without having sex then why would getting married seem like a good solution?
Personally I didn't see any point in waiting once I found someone I liked and trusted.
Personally I didn't see any point in waiting once I found someone I liked and trusted.
The term Nymphomania, does specifically apply to women, and satyriasis to males, based upon their respective root words. Both are listed as disorders in the DSM-IV (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders), and they remain a part of ICD-10 (International Statistical Classification of Diseases and Related Health Problems), each listed as a subtype of Hypersexuality.solidstatemind said:
Bah, guilt and regret are sides of the coin you yourself carry in your pocket. You can't feel em unless you choose it. If you do something you weren't ready for, pull the coin and start flipping it.solidstatemind said:
Believe me it doesn't always happen like that. All things considered, the taboo of both extramaritals and divorce are both fading heavily. Sexual compatability is one of those secrets to a healthy and stable relationship, running hand in hand with things like: Trust, Love, and attraction. Denying that, is denying yourself true pleasure.solidstatemind said:
The first time yes, turrible. Everyone's first time would be, and no one should want that awful embarassing crap on their wedding night. Every male wants to be a bloody super hero, and every gal wants to make her man so happy he'll never leave. Though I have made amateur stuffs, I resent the fact that ... oh you weren't referring directly to me.solidstatemind said:
But again promiscuity isn't bad, its personal choice.[/quote]
well im a Catholic and my PERSONAL belief for myself is to stay pure of body until the one you have sworn the rest of your life to is ready to "do it". and i would really truly appreciate it if no one argued with me about the catholic church or my PERSONAL beliefs.
No. If the time is right, I'll go for it. I don't see much of a point of waiting until marriage if the time is right beforehand. Putting it off for a belief could make you lose your chances of doing it. Also, I'm agnostic so I have little devotion to Christianity to follow.
And the longer you have to wait the further away you get from "if she wants to then i'll agree" (staying abstinent that is) :-DIdealistCommi said:
Marriage to me is a legal contract between a man and woman which says they intend to live the rest of their lives together as a couple. Sex does not necessarily have anything to do with it.
For me personally, if a suitable opportunity arises i would have sex before marriage. It helps to get experience and an expression of love to ones partner so strengthens the relationship.
Also, chances are that once married your partner will not be a virgin anyway.
For me personally, if a suitable opportunity arises i would have sex before marriage. It helps to get experience and an expression of love to ones partner so strengthens the relationship.
Also, chances are that once married your partner will not be a virgin anyway.
That ship has sailed. My first time was with a girl a year older than me. Summer of seventh grade. It was really awkward, but a funny story. Still, I don't regret it.
I look at pre-marital sex this way. Marriage is a lifelong commitment (or at least it should be). Sexual compatibility is a HUGE part of a successful marriage (those of you who aren't married, shut up. I speak from experience---it matters.) So why the hell wouldn't you find out if you were sexually compatible BEFORE you made a lifelong commitment that could cause you no end of misery and ultimately end up costing you half your stuff before you tied the knot?
You wouldn't buy a car without taking a test drive, would you? I absolutely believe that anyone who gets married without having sex first is a fool.
You wouldn't buy a car without taking a test drive, would you? I absolutely believe that anyone who gets married without having sex first is a fool.
>:3 Can it be a joint suit? *whines*latenightapplepie said:
As to the OP question...If I could marry (Damn you religious appeal for constitituional amendment. (no offense meant to any religious people here, that was just the MAIN driving force behind the damned constitutional amendment (Texas)) then No I would not wait till marriage. Furthermore I do consider anal (surprised?
) and oral (I've met people who don't think it was. I disagree. Oral SEX. Second word is key there :3) to both be cheating/breaking that. Fun fact if it hasn't been mentioned. A big percentage of people who took an abstinence pledge/club were more likely to do anal instead because it's "not sex" :3....I think the same thing of oral but I just know anal was mentioned in that. [/fun fact] ^_^Edit:
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