Poll: Are Going To Try to Stay Abstinent Until Marriage?

[The Maddest March Hare]

That ship sailed. Then I sank it with a missile.

I find it stupid to try to save yourself for marriage.

*waits for people to start disagreeing*


Ok, my position.

For the female: Do you really want to experience the pain of first time sex on such a highly anticipated night? Not to mention the nerves that go with it as well as having your new husband, rather than fully give in to you, be worried the whole time since he's causing you discomfort?

For males: Do you really want to save yourself and give her all 14 seconds of bliss on her wedding night? Not to mention all the nerves that go with it, being insecure completely and requiring her to, rather than enjoy the experience, coax you into feeling comfortable with it.

Well I spose it evens out. 14 seconds isn't long enough for much discomfort. Didn't think of that did ya? xD

Although I agree with the awkwardness bit.

 

[S53]

I find it stupid to try to save yourself for marriage.

*waits for people to start disagreeing*


Ok, my position.

For the female: Do you really want to experience the pain of first time sex on such a highly anticipated night? Not to mention the nerves that go with it as well as having your new husband, rather than fully give in to you, be worried the whole time since he's causing you discomfort?

For males: Do you really want to save yourself and give her all 14 seconds of bliss on her wedding night? Not to mention all the nerves that go with it, being insecure completely and requiring her to, rather than enjoy the experience, coax you into feeling comfortable with it.

Then call me stupid. It's a personal choice. There's no problem doing it. Not like I'm harming anybody. I see your point. And it makes a lot of sense, but it won't change my personal conviction.

 

[AroLombardi]

Hell no. If she'll let me, and we atleast have condoms, it's all fair game.

 

[Cliff_m85]

I find it stupid to try to save yourself for marriage.

*waits for people to start disagreeing*


Ok, my position.

For the female: Do you really want to experience the pain of first time sex on such a highly anticipated night? Not to mention the nerves that go with it as well as having your new husband, rather than fully give in to you, be worried the whole time since he's causing you discomfort?

For males: Do you really want to save yourself and give her all 14 seconds of bliss on her wedding night? Not to mention all the nerves that go with it, being insecure completely and requiring her to, rather than enjoy the experience, coax you into feeling comfortable with it.

Then call me stupid. It's a personal choice. There's no problem doing it. Not like I'm harming anybody. I see your point. And it makes a lot of sense, but it won't change my personal conviction.

Stupid. Ok, now that that's out of the way (though I don't know why you wanted me to call you such) I can just say that I think it's stupid to wait. I. Me. I think. Others think otherwise and I can understand their position, the only one I couldn't understand would be a religious reason. *shrugs*

 

[Cliff_m85]

That ship sailed. Then I sank it with a missile.

I find it stupid to try to save yourself for marriage.

*waits for people to start disagreeing*


Ok, my position.

For the female: Do you really want to experience the pain of first time sex on such a highly anticipated night? Not to mention the nerves that go with it as well as having your new husband, rather than fully give in to you, be worried the whole time since he's causing you discomfort?

For males: Do you really want to save yourself and give her all 14 seconds of bliss on her wedding night? Not to mention all the nerves that go with it, being insecure completely and requiring her to, rather than enjoy the experience, coax you into feeling comfortable with it.

Well I spose it evens out. 14 seconds isn't long enough for much discomfort. Didn't think of that did ya? xD

Although I agree with the awkwardness bit.

Think of this when you say "14 seconds isn't long enough for much discomfort".....

*throws you down and yells "Surprizzors!!! 14 second Buttsecks!"*

 

[The Maddest March Hare]

That ship sailed. Then I sank it with a missile.

I find it stupid to try to save yourself for marriage.

*waits for people to start disagreeing*


Ok, my position.

For the female: Do you really want to experience the pain of first time sex on such a highly anticipated night? Not to mention the nerves that go with it as well as having your new husband, rather than fully give in to you, be worried the whole time since he's causing you discomfort?

For males: Do you really want to save yourself and give her all 14 seconds of bliss on her wedding night? Not to mention all the nerves that go with it, being insecure completely and requiring her to, rather than enjoy the experience, coax you into feeling comfortable with it.

Well I spose it evens out. 14 seconds isn't long enough for much discomfort. Didn't think of that did ya? xD

Although I agree with the awkwardness bit.

Think of this when you say "14 seconds isn't long enough for much discomfort".....

*throws you down and yells "Surprizzors!!! 14 second Buttsecks!"*

Ah logic. My arch enemy. We meet again.


Touché.

 

[latenightapplepie]

This is a ploy to find out who's still a virgin!

Im 14 sue me!

I'm 19, sue me for more!

 

[standokan]

i'm still a virgin but it doesn't matter because i'm only 14 =.= and i'll probally do it before marriage.

 

[Shuvy]

Abstinence. Silly Americans . Please tell me someone here watches Penn and Teller? or at least that episode of south park with the chastity rings?

 

[necromanzer52]

I'm not gonna get married. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free.

 

[ExodusinFlames]

Premarital sex isn't bad. And it being demonized sucks. That ship sailed 14 years ago for me, not a single regret there.

Virginity isn't bad and being oversexed isn't bad. Lemme rephrase, both things are bad if they interfere with life or cause folks to get preachy.

Lets scale it.
Gentlemen: Being good takes practice. The more you use it, the better it is. And remember, that tool has a shelf life. In the case of some guys, it can start to go on you as early as 20. Additionally, sex is unbelievably good for your health. Engaging in sex is not only good for your heart, mental health, and various other things, but between 18-25, if you engage in intercourse 4+ times per week, it reduces your risks of prostate cancer later on in life.

Ladies: Physical contact between men and women is a much more responsive form of affection and love. Saying "I love you" and having it reciprocated with your other half can feel great, getting physically intimate, infinitely moreso. It helps to solidify the bond a couple can have. It will also make you happier, making you feel more whole (though your partner's gender is irrelevant there) The health benefits for women are equally as potent for women as they are for men. It can help to regulate hormone levels, and I'm not being rude, dead serious. A regulated hormone level (its theorized) can help to reduce the risk of female cancers. It's fantastic for your skin as well.

The health benefits alone clearly outweigh the potential of finding "Mr/Mrs. Right" or which ever reason people obstain. Sex as exercise burns calories to produce health benefits. Sex relieves stress, boosts the immune system with higher levels of immunoglobulin A, improves cardiovascular health, increases self-esteem, improves intimacy, reduces pain by production of the hormone oxytocin, reduces the risk of prostate cancer, strengthens pelvic muscles, and promotes good sleep.
Link to Some info [http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/10-surprising-health-benefits-of-sex]

And ask yourself this. Would it be worth it to wait for the wedding night, till everything is perfect, waiting for the moment to come and realise that there is no spark?
How would you feel after tossing all that money away, investing all that time, and coming to the conclusion that it was all for not. Or hell, not even coming to that conclusion at all and having one of the two dissatisfied members of said union, run off for an extra-marital party.
Worth it?

 

[S53]

I find it stupid to try to save yourself for marriage.

*waits for people to start disagreeing*


Ok, my position.

For the female: Do you really want to experience the pain of first time sex on such a highly anticipated night? Not to mention the nerves that go with it as well as having your new husband, rather than fully give in to you, be worried the whole time since he's causing you discomfort?

For males: Do you really want to save yourself and give her all 14 seconds of bliss on her wedding night? Not to mention all the nerves that go with it, being insecure completely and requiring her to, rather than enjoy the experience, coax you into feeling comfortable with it.

Then call me stupid. It's a personal choice. There's no problem doing it. Not like I'm harming anybody. I see your point. And it makes a lot of sense, but it won't change my personal conviction.

Stupid. Ok, now that that's out of the way (though I don't know why you wanted me to call you such) I can just say that I think it's stupid to wait. I. Me. I think. Others think otherwise and I can understand their position, the only one I couldn't understand would be a religious reason. *shrugs*

I was being sarcastic, lol. It's not a religious reason either. I can't really explain why. Personal conviction is the only "explanation" I have.

 

[A Raging Emo]

If 'That Ship has already sailed' means what I think it means, then for me, 'That SHip has already sailed'.

 

[jat112786]

I'm not gonna get married. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free.

are you calling my girlfriend fat
nah dude. i think he called her a slut
hahaha
could not resist
anyways i think its personal choice

 

[Dys]

I can't really marry a virgin, but if I'm in a serious relationship with a girl who wants to (as unlikely as that is with my anti-christ lifestyle) I would endure a bout of Abstinance.

 

[Shuvy]

Premarital sex isn't bad. And it being demonized sucks. That ship sailed 14 years ago for me, not a single regret there.

Virginity isn't bad and being oversexed isn't bad. Lemme rephrase, both things are bad if they interfere with life or cause folks to get preachy.

Lets scale it.
Gentlemen: Being good takes practice. The more you use it, the better it is. And remember, that tool has a shelf life. In the case of some guys, it can start to go on you as early as 20. Additionally, sex is unbelievably good for your health. Engaging in sex is not only good for your heart, mental health, and various other things, but between 18-25, if you engage in intercourse 4+ times per week, it reduces your risks of prostate cancer later on in life.

Ladies: Physical contact between men and women is a much more responsive form of affection and love. Saying "I love you" and having it reciprocated with your other half can feel great, getting physically intimate, infinitely moreso. It helps to solidify the bond a couple can have. It will also make you happier, making you feel more whole (though your partner's gender is irrelevant there) The health benefits for women are equally as potent for women as they are for men. It can help to regulate hormone levels, and I'm not being rude, dead serious. A regulated hormone level (its theorized) can help to reduce the risk of female cancers. It's fantastic for your skin as well.

The health benefits alone clearly outweigh the potential of finding "Mr/Mrs. Right" or which ever reason people obstain. Sex as exercise burns calories to produce health benefits. Sex relieves stress, boosts the immune system with higher levels of immunoglobulin A, improves cardiovascular health, increases self-esteem, improves intimacy, reduces pain by production of the hormone oxytocin, reduces the risk of prostate cancer, strengthens pelvic muscles, and promotes good sleep.
Link to Some info [http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/10-surprising-health-benefits-of-sex]

And ask yourself this. Would it be worth it to wait for the wedding night, till everything is perfect, waiting for the moment to come and realise that there is no spark?
How would you feel after tossing all that money away, investing all that time, and coming to the conclusion that it was all for not. Or hell, not even coming to that conclusion at all and having one of the two dissatisfied members of said union, run off for an extra-marital party.
Worth it?

A+ answer. Immediately when you finished with "worth it",I had a mental picture of ascribing purity a dollar value and then comparing that with how many hours it would buy at street price

 

[NeutralDrow]

No. I don't think it's a good idea to do so. I'd kind of prefer having, you know, a good time on my wedding night.

About the closest I come is not wanting to have sex outside a committed relationship (which hasn't happened, yet, either...the sex, that is). At least that way, there are fewer legal and social strings attached, and there isn't the pressure of a deadline.

EDIT: Granted, if I find a partner who does subscribe to that idea, you can bet I'll use up a lifetime of charm and luck convincing her that oral sex and mutual masturbation don't count. Especially when I do it to her...

 

[similar.squirrel]

I don't intend on getting married, and if sex happens to rear it's head at some point, I probably won't refuse.

 

[BakaSmurf]

I say "Whatever happens, happens" 'cause I don't really care either way.

 

[NovaStalker]

The only time I would ever find the idea appropriate would be if you lived somewhere that still does prearranged marriages or you have a childhood sweetheart you know you're going to marry as soon as you're legal. Then waiting until you are married isn't completely stupid.