Poll: Are unrealistically high standards keeping people from finding love/getting laid?

[Smooth Operator]

Edit: redundant post is redundant

 

[cobra_ky]

yes dating will involve alot of dumb, silly, stupid things and huge amounts of embarrassment on your end...

And when that embarrassment ends up with me getting arrested and imprisoned? What then? Do you think I'm just going to shrug that off?

if dating is landing you in jail, then you are doing it incredibly wrong.

What the F* were you thinking of here, I implied you need to entertain not kidnap people or whatever else you were doing.

i thought i did the quote right. it's fixed now.

 

[Smooth Operator]

i thought i did the quote right. it's fixed now.

Ah I see, never mind then

yes dating will involve alot of dumb, silly, stupid things and huge amounts of embarrassment on your end...

And when that embarrassment ends up with me getting arrested and imprisoned? What then? Do you think I'm just going to shrug that off?

I can't even begin to fathom how trying to impress girls got you arrested, what the hell were you doing?

So I guess I haveto stress now that there are legal limits you shouldn't cross (and if you do please tell us the story)

 

[cbert]

"I couldn't get past where women are referred to by their private part..."

This option doesn't make any sense, but... sure?

For the record, my not finding love/getting laid/getting [colloquial synonym for "house-cat"] has nothing to do with my high standards; I cannot let such petty things interfere with my sworn duty to fight crime, protect the innocent and keep tabs on Equestria.

 

[rutger5000]

For me bollocks. The ammount of energy a person has and how he/she radiates that is what makes a person actractive for me, I think this is also true for most women subconsiously, if you just radiate the energy of a cheerfull nice honest open guy and take the initiative to start talking it ought not to be too hard.

 

[MidnightCat]

My problem isn't high standards, but rather my own awkwardness. I went to an all-female secondary school and I don't have any male friends. I'm quiet and self-conscious, making it hard for me to approach others, and other people (guys) rarely approach me.

My standards are pretty reasonable, I'd like to think. The problem is that I've never been in a position where I could exercise them.

 

[Moc]

Well in my case the problem is a bit convoluted, first of all I am very introverted so it is difficult for me to talk to people who are foreign to me. Secondly I have some philosophical problems, picture this: The girl I like is a christian and the few times the topic "Religion" came up, she made it very clear that she is entiled to her faith and also she has some kind of hatred for atheists, but I am an atheist/agnostic so the only ways this could work out is like this: I tell her I am an atheist and she hates me, or I tell her and she is less fundamentalistic then I think and it works out well, or I tell her nothing and live a lie, or I forget about it and stay in my safety blanked

 

[similar.squirrel]

The standards can't be that high, since I've had sex with a beautiful person. Without having to pay for it.

 

[shitoutonme]

Well in my case the problem is a bit convoluted, first of all I am very introverted so it is difficult for me to talk to people who are foreign to me. Secondly I have some philosophical problems, picture this: The girl I like is a christian and the few times the topic "Religion" came up, she made it very clear that she is entiled to her faith and also she has some kind of hatred for atheists, but I am an atheist/agnostic so the only ways this could work out is like this: I tell her I am an atheist and she hates me, or I tell her and she is less fundamentalistic then I think and it works out well, or I tell her nothing and live a lie, or I forget about it and stay in my safety blanked

Or, you know, you could find another object of your infatuation. Some pursuits just aren't worth the trouble, but that should probably be determined after the first dialogue in which feelings and intent are made known to the other party. Meh, whatever works.

 

[Crazycat690]

For some, like my friend, my problem is that I get uninterested after I succeed with the hunt, I don't like it but it's kept me from getting laid for quite some time

 

[AhumbleKnight]

I used to know a guy who would simply call it:
"Setting a new benchmark."

Not my thoughs exactly but worthy of note

 

[KaizokuouHasu]

What's with this obsession of "getting laid"? Why is the ultimate goal in life for a guy to get as much pussy as possible? I never quite got that...

(Also the words "finding love" make me puke rainbows.)

I think mostly because sex is kind of... VERY significant in the cycle of life. Also because of testosterone and the whole alpha in a pack mentality.

Sex is hard-wired into out brains from birth. Hell, infants explore sex and sexuality in the uterus! Don't tell me they don't! YouTube 'baby humping a teddy bear' or whatever it is and you'll see proof of such exploration post-birth. The only reason we tone down out curiosity of sex in early stages of life is because it is taboo. Cultural bias and imprinting from parents and other role models. That said, sure, in society there are too many people (not only men, or 'guys') who see sex as the goalpost for any endeavour. I for one, however, will say that these people haven't necessarily got it all wrong. It's just the scaling and moderation bit that needs a few tweaks.

 

[franconbean]

For me, it'll happen when it happens. I've spent to long worrying about it and I'm getting kinda sick of it.
What I don't get is that in My School (6th Form), all the guys in relationships seem to treat their girlfriends like shit. I guess the saying "treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen" holds true...

 

[Macgyvercas]

I don't think my standards are too high (cute, to me at least, nerdy, willing to put up with me, non smoker, bonues for glasses).

My problem is that while there are girls who fit that criteria (and I have met quite a few), they were either in a relationship or not interested.

So nowadays, I'm kinda laid back about the whole thing. I mean sure, a girlfriend would be nice, but I'm not going to go too far out of my way to find one.

 

[Kathinka]

i kind of oppose the notion of the original post.i personaly wouldn't try for anything less then perfection. of course, that is a matter of my personal taste. i get people who would rather get someone ugly at least instead of nobody at all. but i'd rather have nobdy for extended periods of time for the chance of being with someone great and, yes, out of my league in the end.

coincidentally, this is pretty much what happened to me, i tricked a guy who could have any girl he wanted into dumping his totally gorgeous girlfriend, who was a thousand times better looking than me, and being with me instead. so now i'm very glad that i never settled for anything less.

 

[Smooth Operator]

I should stress that this is a hypothetical case, but one that would be shockingly likely if I were to engage in romantic conversation. The fact is that I cannot reconcile my heterosexuality with my aromantic nature, and that creates a verbal trainwreck which is absolutely not endearing to women. It really is the "eyeroll and try to get to the other side of the room without being spotted" scenario; you can't follow that up unless you want to be arrested.

See what I said about personal standards, stop trying to uphold that image of yourself, "oh I'm not the kind of guy who would ask for sex" well if you want to get some then you better be.
So what if it's a verbal trainwreck and they roll their eyes, you should not give a shit just learn what works and what not, we crawl before we walk and we walk before we run.

As for just going after sex, go to party, get a little drunk (always helps when trying to get out of your skin), impress girls who get tipsy and frisky, and you have it made.

 

[Zantos]

I'm told I have no standards, and I'm still not getting any