Poll: Are you a "top" or a "bottom"? Why?

[Free Thinker]

I have no experience. /sadface
Anyway, back to thoughtful discussion, I actually don't mind being on the bottom, whatever feels better, I'll do it...bow chicka bow wow.

 

[ryukage_sama]

Oh.
I thought for a moment that this was a thread about muffin parts.

 

[YamadaJisho]

I'm mainly a top, as it were. I like to switch it up every once in a while (or will again when I get the chance), but most of the time, i just end up on top. It's not that I like to look down on the girl (though I do like to LOOK at the girl), it's jsut teh way it usually rolls for me.

 

[rebus_forever]

Switch, mostly by necessity. A few people I know just love being controlled, so I do my best to make them happy. But at heart, I really just want someone to pamper me.

same, I just want ot be showered with attention and such, but sometimes I switch it up cause I like to make my partner happy.

I like to think there is a nice compromise somewhere wherein the dominant partner can make the submissive partner act for the dominant, always found the typical dom ideal a bit of an effort, much more fun getting the perks without the pressure.
The idea that the dominant must work for or with the sub rather than the sub earning the attention of the dom always confused me.

 

[Dragunai]

Too much pride and self control to allow myself to be submissive in anything. Work, gaming and relationships.

Once in a while I might feign weakness in a relationship if it's worth it but otherwise my male pride and ego won't let me.

 

[rebus_forever]

Well top then, never met anyone who kept me under them without a smile on my face.

 

[TheLastSamurai14]

Uh... I'm a bit inexperienced in such... activities. But if I were to engage in those... actions, I'd think I'd let her take control. She knows her body better than I do, and really, if I was in such a... situation, my goal would be to make sure she's in... full enjoyment, rather than myself.

This. Every single word of it. Unless she rather be on the bottom, of course.

 

[lettucethesallad]

I'm a female bottom. On a daily basis I have to be in charge of a lot of decision making, I have a lot of responsibilities and I need to take charge and tell people what to do in work situations. I love being able to just let all that go and be completely submissive, it's like its own personal mini-vacation.

I occasionally go on top to make my boyfriend happy, but I'm not big on it really.

 

[deathninja]

Top, I'm pretty dominant/alpha, and I've had to be all my life; both for myself (tough school/college) and later others (father abandoned the family, and I have a knack for ending up with vulnerable partners). Makes me sound like an asshole, but I'm just (over?)protective.

 

[ReservoirAngel]

I'm a male bottom because... well, being the top never held much interest for me. Plus I really enjoy being the bottom, it's awesome!

I'm not gay, but I have a similar point of view on this topic. That said, I don't mind being on top of it's what she wants.

Same concept with me. I've topped occasionally but really, I don't get the appeal. It's nice to do, but I much prefer being on the receiving end of such activities. But if my boyfriend's in the mood to be on the bottom, I will happily oblige. If I'm not asked to, I never would though.

 

[Escapefromwhatever]

Female switch, but mostly bottom.

 

[Mandalore_15]

How about the answer for people like me: I'm neither, because I have never been and will never be in a romantic relationship? Not all of us are blessed with good looks and nice personalities.

Yuh now what? That's a fair point. I'm sorry.

Wow, way to further crush that person's self-esteem... =/

 

[AdeptaSororitas]

How about the answer for people like me: I'm neither, because I have never been and will never be in a romantic relationship? Not all of us are blessed with good looks and nice personalities.

Yuh now what? That's a fair point. I'm sorry.

Wow, way to further crush that person's self-esteem... =/

No! I'm sorry *reglobs your self esteem into roughly the original shape* I wasn't saying you prolly aren't handsome or nice (or naughty) I was saying it was rude of me to assume everyone has experience with this matter -.-' don't hate me.

 

[uncanny474]

Wait, crap, this ISN'T a post for bondage fetishists? It's just about regular old relationships? well, poop.

I'm a switch, because pain is a beautiful thing. The ability to cause pain, to bring a person past their breaking point, to destroy their mind and remold it so that it worships you, is truly a beautiful thing to behold. But there's something beautiful about being dominated, too. About giving over your free will, about devoting yourself to another person's pleasure, that is simply intoxicating.

 

[Byere]

I'm a bit of both, so I put switch. With guys, I'm a bottom... I just can't top a guy. With women, I'm more of a top, though I do like to just be pushed down and taken... I like to be subby sometimes :3

 

[OmniscientOstrich]

Same answer to my sexuality, I can go either way. I suppose my personality could be pegged as rather submissive, but to me that's a completely different mindset to the one you have in the bedroom.

 

[garjian]

well... i hide my dominating tendencies behind a false shy and silly front... in my last social group thing, i started by being strange so they dont learn how i behave, they get sucked in by curiosity, and told them stuff that goes against how i was acting for confusion. then in any debate i never backed down, i showed strong opinions, and constantly used minor, playful physical violence (headlocks, etc. for almost no reason) ...stuff like that.

but yeah, if you cant tell, i dont like people and i never make real friends... and ive certainly never been in a proper, "normal" relationship... but i really enjoy coming up with little schemes and plans for personalities like this... even stupid people are more complex puzzles than anything in a game can offer, and getting them to think a certain way about me, or anything in particular is a fun challenge... and im very fond of the male top position, so i guess i would go for that in said normal relationship.

and ill bet barely anyone believes a word of that due to the all lower case, alternatively punctuated mess of a post style i use... but you can get away with a lot of things if you appear naive and stupid. ^^

(adverts in the captcha... seriously? :/)

 

[JB1528]

Male top,I guess thats just the old fashioned "macho-ness" in me but I have to be the one that's the top in the relationship. Sure I'm open for compromise but I still have to be the top.

 

[Elf Defiler Korgan]

I see it like this, sex is like warfare, rhetoric or martial arts--every strategy can be used, every position can be known and tried, and one must always be adaptable and responsive to the rhythm of the flow of war/passion. Lose yourself in the void, focus when you need to, be the top, the bottom or whatever works with the partner and you.

Or, relying on a more esteemed authority, listen to Miyamoto Musashi:
The Way of strategy is the Way of nature. When you appreciate the power of nature, knowing the rhythm of any situation, you will be able to hit the enemy naturally and strike naturally.

"Hit it" naturally.

 

[Spookimitsu]

Depends on what the circumstances call for. Sometimes you gotta put work in, so it's best to know what to do when you step up to the plate ^_^