Poll: Attracting the "wrong" gender:

[Dags90]

I haven't been particularly plagued by this champagne problem. The only really relevant time has been one time in high school when one of my brother's friends basically tried to deflower me. I literally had to lock her out of my room because it got so awkward. As if being someone's trophy fuck isn't gross enough, they could at least have been the appropriate gender, maybe even attractive?

 

[Xman490]

Oh i have no such issue, since i attract no gender at all.

I know how you feel too bro. *gives brohug*

One day we'll find the right ones. Till then.... *goes off to play Gears 3*

Thanks bro *goes off to play Third Party Developer Bundle on Steam* weeeeee

Same here. One day... one day... *goes off to play Minecraft while listening to The Escapist's latest podcast and crossing fingers*

 

[JemothSkarii]

Yeah, I seem to attract the attention of guys more than girls, which kinda disappoints me since I've recently realized I'm straight and the whole bi thing was merely curiosity. Oh, and I already have a girlfriend (though I fear not for much longer).

Heck, I had to tell my best friend (who is gay) that confessed that he loves me that I can't even give him a chance.
Feelsbadman.

 

[Danceofmasks]

This is less fucked up than chronically attracting women who just want to have babies with superior genes.

 

[Jadak]

Has anyone else a problem like this, either straight people who attract gays or vice versa?

Vice versa? Being what, gays who attract straights?

 

[chaosyoshimage]

Throw me in the attracts neither sex column, then again, I don't think I've ever met another gay guy...

 

[Firia]

I'm a gay girl, and I attract men. Feeeeh. :\

 

[dorkette1990]

Also, I'm sorry bisexuals, this doesn't really apply to you i'm afraid.

Actually... I'm bisexual and I attract asexual people. I've been asked if I'd consider going out with them or entertaining a romantic (but non-physical) relationship. It's very strange for me, especially since I'm an overtly sexual person. So I understand the feeling, even if the problem is more expectations than gender

Plus, when I thought I was straight, other girls asked me out constantly. So many opportunities passed by thanks to ignorance...

 

[Wheeleybird]

I'm gay but i get a lot of attention from women and barely any from guys... In my opinion women are a lot more determined with their pursuit than men

 

[AquaAscension]

Anyone else not sure if they attract others? I think that I do, but I don't usually get confirmation of that. Sometimes I get the feeling people are a little afraid to approach me because I either put off an air of confidence or one of "leave me alone." Quiet for the most part and not terribly outgoing, I often find it takes longer for other to get to know me.

 

[Scappo]

I've had that issue before...it happens to a lot of men that aren't aggressive in demeanor or convey a lot of confidence all the time, so they're perceived as being "submissive" or "effeminate", and therefore, in the eyes of the unobservant or ignorant, "gay".

Just politely say "Sorry man, I'm straight but thanks for the compliment" and keep on truckin'. Eventually everyone'll get the message .

 

[Aetera]

I have this problem all of the time, only in reverse. I'm a gay girl, and I keep attracting guys. Guys that know that I'm gay. I had a male stalker in high school that carved my name into his arm with a knife. Another guy in high school fell in love with me. One of my male friends in college asked me out, knowing that I'm gay. Another male friend in college asked me to be his fuck-buddy.

What the hell? I'm not even a lipstick lesbian. I'm scrawny and flat-chested, have super-short hair, tattoos, piercings, and usually am wearing a tank, ratty jeans, and steel-toed boots. And I smoke. I do not understand.

That said, I've never had any trouble attracting girls either, thankfully. My "straight" Catholic roommate in college fell for me, even. Us dating made things awkward for our other roommate in our triple who also happened to be Catholic, though. xD

 

[Rabid Toilet]

I'm a gay girl, and I attract men. Feeeeh. :\

Well at least that one is easy to explain. Men are attracted to anything with breasts.

On topic, can't say I've ever been hit on by gay guys. I do occasionally get asked out by girls though. Maybe I just look straight...?

 

[MegaManOfNumbers]

Asking me that I attract the wrong GENDER (U mad bro?) implies that I am attractive, which I'm sure I'm not.

This is alright though, I try to resist my heterosexual lust and try to remain as asexual as possible. Yeah I don't like people. *shrugs*

 

[keideki]

I wound not say I attract them per se, but I have had gay men hit on me in the past. To be honest I find it quite flattering. I gently turn them down, much in the same way I would turn down a woman that I was not interested in.

OT:

Have you tried analyzing where you are getting hit on most often? Rather than it being a function of putting off the wrong vibe or acting like a beta male, maybe the areas you are hanging around in just have a higher ratio of gay men than other areas.

 

[Biosophilogical]

Sex. You mean "sex." You attract attention from the wrong SEX. Will people please stop using anthropological terms in ways they were not meant to be used!

Thank you! (I'm actually doing introductory anthropology as an elective this semester, so I know what you mean. Heck, I did my tutorial presentation on the topic) I was going to say this, but I was beaten to it (took longer than I thought for someone to bring it up actually).

OT: I've attracted all of one person in my near-18 years. I am an asexual (by default; for now I'm pegging it up to being a late bloomer to the sex-drive game) so you'd imagine there isn't a 'right' sex, but really, I'd just take it as a compliment. So I've had one person be attracted to me (we are friends, I talked about it with her then we went on being friends) and while it wasn't the right sex, I don't consider it the wrong sex.

EDIT:

Actually... I'm bisexual and I attract asexual people. I've been asked if I'd consider going out with them or entertaining a romantic (but non-physical) relationship.

How did they go about it? If I don't start becoming more sexual (as in, if I am actually asexual, and not just a late bloomer) I may need to learn how to do it, and it isn't like I'm you, with asexuals throwing themselves at me.

 

[Darknacht]

I don't attract men but my wife tends to attract females.

 

[Smooth Operator]

Trust me you attract both equally just that girls will almost never show it because there is still that whole social stigma of "guy hasto do the work".

So while dudes will come up to me and actually put some effort into flirting the max I get from a girl is a "hi", on a good day maybe even a name, and then she will wait for me to do the bloody work for her... fun times.

 

[Berk]

Has anyone else a problem like this, either straight people who attract gays or vice versa? If so, how do you deal with someone liking you without being really awkward about it?

Happens frequently, actually! I typically just take the gesture(s) as a compliment, but let the other party know that I'm not interested whatsoever. If you just do it politely, and let him/her know that you appreciate it, it normally ends well. Oh, and give them a smile while you do it.

 

[Tryforlive]

my friend who is gay says im hot in my head that makes me think that im the best dressed guy who doesnt want a girlfriend in the world