Poll: Being 'Whipped.'

[sam42ification]

I'll admit, I'm completely whipped to my girlfriend. My friends give me a lot of shit about it but I really don't care. I enjoy being whipped. So what are your general thoughts about being 'whipped'? Are you whipped? Do you like having a whipped partner?

 

[DugMachine]

Frankly I don't enjoy it when my buddies are completely whipped over their new girls, same with my girl friends that get new boyfriends (or girlfriends) and feel they can't hang around because of the way that other person would feel.

I pretty much put my foot down in relationships at the start, i'm open to compromise but don't try to change who I am or even try to stop me from doing what I really want to do. Give me my space and you'll get yours type of deal.

 

[Stasisesque]

Moral dilemma. I want to say I think two people in a relationship should be completely equal, as that is what I truly believe. It's just... I'm not very good at putting it into practice. While I would never think myself better than my significant other, I do have a tendency to use my, ahem, feminine wiles for evil.

He (usually) will say I do just as much for him as he does for me, but I think that's just wishful thinking on his part. Oh dear.

It's odd, as far as I remember, our relationship began with me basically following him around like a lovesick puppy (not literally, I just fancied the pants off of him and he used this to his advantage (though not in any way I would object to)). I don't know when the power balance shifted, or even if it did. This could all be in my head; I've a habit of judging my own actions more severely than those of others.

Edit: See post below. Seems I have completely misunderstood the meaning of 'being whipped'.

Reading the rest of your posts, it seems I don't know what being whipped means.

I thought it meant being able to get your SO to do things for you, that you were completely capable of doing yourself, but for one reason or another, didn't. Apparently it means not being able to spend any time apart?

If the latter is the case, then I'll have to revise my previous post. Neither of us are whipped.

 

[Raven's Nest]

People who are whipped generally just make me laugh.

When my best mate was so whipped that he refused to come out for a pint because he wanted to stay at home and sit by the phone just incase his romantic interest (not gf) had a bad day and needed emotional support, i had to drive over to his house, slap him and shout MAN THE FUCK UP!!!

He never saw the errors of his ways...

 

[Esotera]

Being whipped seems like a relationship is unhealthy in that two people can't bear to spend more than a day apart from each other. Unfortunately there doesn't seem to be a negative option on this poll...

Basically, it's fine to want to spend time with your significant other, but if you start regularly blowing off friends for pre-arranged activities, or have to answer every single phone call/text immediately, it's not a good thing.

 

[Evil Smurf]

it is so funny when people are whipped. I can be whipped but do fight back

 

[Colour Scientist]

I'm definitely not whipped and my boyfriend isn't either.
We do our own thing and we don't feel the need to text or talk all of the time either. I couldn't be in a relationship where my SO expected me to be there for them all of the time and I also wouldn't be happy in a relationship where my SO didn't stand up for themselves.

I think being "whipped" only happens in young/early relationships.

Being whipped seems like a relationship is unhealthy in that two people can't bear to spend more than a day apart from each other. Unfortunately there doesn't seem to be a negative option on this poll...

Basically, it's fine to want to spend time with your significant other, but if you start regularly blowing off friends for pre-arranged activities, or have to answer every single phone call/text immediately, it's not a good thing.

Also this. People need to have friends and a life outside of their relationship. I think I'd actually go insane if I spent every free hour I have with my boyfriend.

 

[Stasisesque]

Reading the rest of your posts, it seems I don't know what being whipped means.

I thought it meant being able to get your SO to do things for you, that you were completely capable of doing yourself, but for one reason or another, didn't. Apparently it means not being able to spend any time apart?

If the latter is the case, then I'll have to revise my previous post. Neither of us are whipped.

 

[Overusedname]

I have no idea what this term means anymore. I thought I did, but not anymore. So I guess I can't respond.

Well...I think any relationship that isn't 'parent/guardian and child' and 'teacher and pupil' should be equal, so yeah.

And yes, I count military as sort of a 'teacher and pupil' thing. Not that bad leaders, teachers and parents should be called out for it.

 

[ICantBelieveItGoesBoom]

We're pretty much mutually whipped, all of our friends seem to think I'm whipped because I love to see her happy and spend time with her but really she lets me make most of the decisions about what to do or where to go so I guess we're pretty much equal.

 

[ms_sunlight]

I've been with the same guy for a very long time. There are abusive relationships and there are consensual relationships, and both of these take many forms. In any event, the idea of calling someone "whipped" seems absurd and childish.

 

[Colour Scientist]

Friend of mine goes to college in Scotland. We went to a club on the 13th february. At midnight he left to find a pay phone to call his girlfriend because their anniversary was the 14th. Now I'm not from Scotland, I know no one there and this guy left me in a club on my own because he couldn't just wait until say noonish to call his girlfriend. Then the entire time I was there he'd leave to talk to her for like two hours on the phone or just go on Skype.

Long distance relationships are hard yeah, but if you spend more time talking to your girlfriend than people who live with their girlfriend you have an issue.

I also have a friend who won't come to clubs with us because we have friends who are girls and his girlfriend doesn't like him going to clubs with girls.

I'm guessing that was their first anniversary?

Also,

 

[Eclipse Dragon]

I encourage my boyfriend to have a life that doesn't revolve around me.
I have a life that doesn't revolve around him and feel this should go both ways.

I want him to be independent and make decisions for himself,
not hang on my every word.

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EDIT: I don't believe a person who forsakes friends to be with a partner is considered "whipped".
It's perfectly okay to want to spend time with your partner.

The problem arises when your partner doesn't want you to spend time with your friends,
when that's what you'd rather be doing.

 

[Relish in Chaos]

I?m unfortunately not ?whipped?, as I don?t have a girlfriend. But my friend noted that our friend has been spending more time with his girlfriend than us. I didn?t really notice it, since I kind of just put it down to friends naturally drifting apart from each other over time, especially with him now going to college and my aforementioned noting friend and I being in sixth-form. We?ll probably only get to see him at parties.

Oh, and back in Year 9, my friend almost literally just stopped hanging out with us when he got his first girlfriend, and just started hanging around with her and her friends, despite the fact that he wasn?t friends with her friends and we often saw him just standing awkwardly at the edge of the group. Jesus, I don?t think they ever actually kissed. Maybe that doesn?t necessarily count as being ?whipped?, though, since it was one of those crappy short relationships between 13/14-year-olds where both parties are too frigid to do anything because they?re new at ?mature? relationships.

 

[krazykidd]

I'm whipped and love it . It takes all the guesswork out of relationships . There is a certain freedom in being told what to do all the time . The requirements for making her happy is clearly layed on the table . As opposed to wondering what would she want me to do or what would make her happy .

 

[Phasmal]

I don't really know what `whipped` means.
I mean, my boyfriend has been accused of being `whipped` for looking after me when I had the flu. I got accused of `running around after him` for looking after him when he had glandular fever (apparently some people believe you should just run for the hills if your partner gets sick!).

And people have commented that me and boyfriend are `joined at the hip` because we go most places together and do a lot of stuff (like gaming) together.
Still, we love each other to be able to say `Ugh, I love you but I feel shitty so leave me alone for a bit, k?`.

So, yeah, I don't think either of us is whipped.