Poll: Can males and females simply "just be friends"?

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DefunctTheory

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Andalusa said:
One of my best friends is a guy. There have never been any "romantic" feelings between us.
On YOUR side maybe.

Poor guys probably posting in another forum about the horrors of 'the friend zone.'
 

Giantcain

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yes but in my school even talking to a girl you are remote friends with apparently means you go out but that's probably because most girls in my school are just plain mean apparently don't have more than 5 braincells when it comes to the prospect of not going out with someone cause to them to even talk to a girl you know means you go out with them its really annoying when you are trying to get through any sort of examination and you've got people asking you if you go out with so and so and then only hearing yes no matter what you say.
 

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Kortney said:
Note: I am not asking if males and females are capable of having a friendship. We all know they can. What I am asking is that do you believe it is possible for males and females to be close friends without one person having feelings for the other at some stage throughout the duration of the friendship?
Well, when you phrase it like that, I would say no. At some point, one party will feel that way, even if only for a short time and if it never comes to light.
 

Amberella

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I've been friends with a few guys for more than 9 years and we've been nothing but friends. So yeah, it can be done. =]
 

DefunctTheory

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Giantcain said:
yes but in my school even talking to a girl you are remote friends with apparently means you go out but that's probably because most girls in my school are just plain mean apparently don't have more than 5 braincells when it comes to the prospect of not going out with someone cause to them to even talk to a girl you know means you go out with them its really annoying when you are trying to get through any sort of examination and you've got people asking you if you go out with so and so and then only hearing yes no matter what you say.
No, its because your in SCHOOL.
 

AstylahAthrys

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Yes, because that's all ever guys want to be for me ><. I have a couple really close guy friends who I talk to about personal stuff and they're dating my two closest female friends. I have some other not as close guy friends and still they don't have any romantic feelings. I guarantee it. So, yes, it is very possible, I am a living example of it.
 

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Kortney said:
This may seem like a silly question, but I want you to really think about it.

Note: I am not asking if males and females are capable of having a friendship. We all know they can. What I am asking is that do you believe it is possible for males and females to be close friends without one person having feelings for the other at some stage throughout the duration of the friendship?

Remember, I am talking about close personal friends here, the ones you share everything in your life with, not just acquaintances or even good friends.

The reason I am asking this is that my closest friend just told me he had feelings for me. This has completely thrown the dynamics off and it is nothing short of awkward now. It got me thinking and I have never seen a close friendship between a male and a female where at least at one stage, feelings weren't involved.
One of my best friends is a girl, having her been one of the only people who stuck by my side when my life turned to shit this year.

She is attractive, and I suppose its not illogical to think I would be attracted to her, but in all honesty I am not. I have no interest in her whatsoever, even if she was interested me. She's like a sister to me and we both enjoy the fact that we have a friend of the opposite sex who is not trying to sleep with us.
 

Kingemoney

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I dunno. I think you can, but in my case I don't think I've ever had a close personal female friend who I haven't at least thought about dating.
 

rainman2203

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Depends on the people I suppose. I have a bad habit of falling in love (or at least being infatuated) with just about every girl I meet or become friends with, so for me personally, no. Does that mean anything will come of it? Not likely. You can have close friends that you wouldn't mind bagging. That doesn't mean you can't still be friends.
 

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jwien001 said:
Kortney said:
Note: I am not asking if males and females are capable of having a friendship. We all know they can. What I am asking is that do you believe it is possible for males and females to be close friends without one person having feelings for the other at some stage throughout the duration of the friendship?
Well, when you phrase it like that, I would say no. At some point, one party will feel that way, even if only for a short time and if it never comes to light.
That's what I think too.
 

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I believe so, as I have at least one good female friend.
 

RanD00M

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Kortney said:
I am not asking if males and females are capable of having a friendship. We all know they can. What I am asking is that do you believe it is possible for males and females to be close friends without one person having feelings for the other at some stage throughout the duration of the friendship?

Remember, I am talking about close personal friends here, the ones you share everything in your life with, not just acquaintances or even good friends.
It is indeed possible.But it is not very common.Seeing as how most guys have no control over their sexual needs.Or so it would seem.
I personally avoid this by avoiding most human contact.
 

Hellion25

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It depends I guess. In my personal experience, I find that its usually the guy who develops feelings at some point, then it either blows up or they get past it. On the rare occasions I've known where the lass admits feelings to a guy, it always seems to me like it was mutual and they end up together.

Usually though, the guy gets lumped into the friend zone and either has to deal with it or move on. At least in my experience.
 

Meggiepants

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Most of my good friends are guys and not gals. I don't have romantic feelings for any of them.

And there is a difference between sexual attraction and having romantic feelings for another person. I can appreciate how attractive, say... George Clooney or Liam Neeson are. But that does not mean I have any romantic inclination toward them. I just find them sexy.

This sexual attraction does not mean that given the opportunity I would like to have a relationship with them. It just means they are appealing to the eye.
 

Swadodragon

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im gonna say hell yes i live with a girl and we are freinds no more simply put we are every close but never have i wanted anymore thats just me though everyones different
 

DeepComet5581

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I am close friends with a person called Rosie. We originally became friends over a mutual hatred of someone else, but it quickly went beyond that. However, it will just remain a close friendship, as she is getting married next summer, and I have romantic pursuits elsewhere.

And by close, i mean we share personal secrets with each other.
 

DMonkey

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Depends on the people involved, really.
Some have the patience for the other gender to be tied to them without romantic feelings, some don't.




I fall into the "don't" category.