Poll: Can males and females simply "just be friends"?
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It all depends. Of course it can often happen in a close relationship that someone develops romantic feelings. It's also common for them to simply go away again. Or to never have them at all. Again, it all depends, so it'd be silly to say it's inevitable.
Yes, though I can certainly see the point of people who say no. I guess in Mythbusters terms I'd have to file it as "Plausible." One of my best friends is a woman I've known since we were both five years old. She's pretty attractive, smart, sarcastically-humorous, likes a lot of the same stuff I like, yet there's never been anything but a solid friendship bond between us.
...at least on my side, anyway. If she's ever felt anything else for me, she never told me about it or gave any signs of it.
...at least on my side, anyway. If she's ever felt anything else for me, she never told me about it or gave any signs of it.
I could totally be just friends with a girl.
I mean, it's not going to stop me from thinking about fucking her. But still, I wouldn't act on it.
Probably.
I mean, it's not going to stop me from thinking about fucking her. But still, I wouldn't act on it.
Probably.
Society would have us believe not. Every time i get into that sort of a relationship with a girl everyone starts asking me if I've fucked her yet. So far i have proved them wrong though, so i say yes. But chances are you wont, things will get awkward at some point and things will just head that way, but not always.
I voted No after reading your clarification. So long as the one who develops a romantic interest doesn't act on it, it shouldn't be a problem, though. In time, that can fade again and you go back to both seeing the other simply as friends. No sense ruining a potentially life-long friendship on a temporary spark.
Regular friends? Anyone can do that.
Really close bestest friends who spend loads of time together? Without feelings on either side I'd probably say they'd both need to be gay, otherwise I reckon there would always be 'something'; even if that something is just mistaking friendship for something more.
Really close bestest friends who spend loads of time together? Without feelings on either side I'd probably say they'd both need to be gay, otherwise I reckon there would always be 'something'; even if that something is just mistaking friendship for something more.
Well, for me personally, I find it to be quite difficult to be close friends with someone of the opposite sex, and not, eventually, develop strong feelings for them sometime down the road. Now this may be because I'm male, it may be because of a psychological matter. I am absolutely sure that it varies from situation to situation.
Of the the few close personal relationships I have had with women, I have developed feelings, or they have, or something like that. But that is just from my personal experience, I have viewed things a little different in different friendships, not involving me. Like close friends of opposite genders who don't have romantic feelings for each other (at any point). I think I'm just good at fucking things up.
Oh, and don't worry, things can get better (from the awkwardness). I've experienced that stage and gotten through it. So just try to regain your footing (that makes no sense to me, but just roll with it). If your friend means enough to you, you'll be able to get through it. Trust me.Kortney said:
Your being a bit on the picky side, and because of this I don't think you will get the answer to your question for the reasons you were looking for. Many people don't have "best friends", many have lots they would consider close personal. If were are going to go along with "best friends", then most people will go with the same sex, for the simple reason that they will tend to have more interests in common. It's often not a matter of sexual urges at all, which is what you appear to be trying to illustrate.Kortney said:
My two best friends are male, the first one I've been told I should date for as long as I can remember but even the thought of it seems silly. The thought of being intimate with him is alien to me, I can't imagine him touching me the way my boyfriend does.
The second friend I work with. I see him every day, I sit with him 45 hours a week, I eat with him, I go drinking with him, I talk about everything and anything with him but I've never once even entertained the idea of intamacy. Never considered dating him or anything below the belt really so yes, I believe men and women can be just friends even if they're close.
It's like saying that you can't be brother and sister without being attracted to one another. That's silly.
The second friend I work with. I see him every day, I sit with him 45 hours a week, I eat with him, I go drinking with him, I talk about everything and anything with him but I've never once even entertained the idea of intamacy. Never considered dating him or anything below the belt really so yes, I believe men and women can be just friends even if they're close.
It's like saying that you can't be brother and sister without being attracted to one another. That's silly.