One of my closest friends is a female and neither of us have ever had "feelings" for the other. Funnily, a large part of this for me is that she has a good three inches on me. This sounds stupid but it keeps me from being sexually attracted to her and wanting something more. She's pretty and were she my height or shorter I probably would have tried to become something else to her. In summary I think the answer to the question bears largely on sexual attraction. I don't think you can be close friends in the way the OP described if one person is attracted to the other.
Poll: Can males and females simply "just be friends"?
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not for me, me and this girl were really good freinds, but we ended up dating for about a year, but, what can i say, i cant resist a redheads charm...
This is actually quite convient since I'm having girl troubles as I'm posting. I'd have to say it depends. I'f your like me than no but if you set your standards sky high than definitley.
For the most part, I think it's possible. I'm just friends with a lot of girls, in fact one of my first friends was a girl. Have there ever been any feelings? No. But I can understand that sometimes it happens.
well technically speaking, anything is possible but I don't think it's possible to be that close and one person not have any romantic feelings at all at some point. Especially when you spend so much time building up such a great relationship that the two of you just get so close to each other, it's really hard not to.
I guess the answer would have to depend on what your definiton of "Just friends" and "Feelings" are, but I'd have to say yes.
I beileve it is certainly possible, but it has never happened to me sadly. Because there are no girls I get along with. To clarify the only other time I talk to other teenagers besides the internet is church. And none of those girls have anything incommon with me.
Yeah im pretty sad D=
Yeah im pretty sad D=
i really don't see why not, and it depends on the type of 'love' you talking about, i love most my closer friends, there like family to me
You can love people without being in love with them. It's possible. The human experience explores a variety of relationships. Some are romantic, some are sexual, some are frienemies. Every relationship demonstrates a different dynamic. One problem is expectation; people can expect long-term friendly relationships to develop into something more. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't. Don't expect anything from any relationship, it is what is. Nothing more.
-I don't have many deep relationships like that, so I treasure every one. I've had very close female friends, but they were just that, close friends. I never thought of them in that way, because that wasn't part of the dynamic. Some people you date, some you fuck, some you hate, others you just share with. Never be afraid to try to be happy, if having a close friend become a romantic interest can bring you two happiness, just go for it.
-I don't have many deep relationships like that, so I treasure every one. I've had very close female friends, but they were just that, close friends. I never thought of them in that way, because that wasn't part of the dynamic. Some people you date, some you fuck, some you hate, others you just share with. Never be afraid to try to be happy, if having a close friend become a romantic interest can bring you two happiness, just go for it.
Odds are most men and women cannot be best friends. Think about it. You are telling each other personal things about your life, which is usually reserved for someone you are in a relationship with (or with the same sex because they can relate). And since that is the case, one party, typically the guy, starts thinking "Hey! If we're already this close, it would only be a minor step to actually start dating". This will pretty much always happen if the female is attractive.
A gay could be absolute best friends with a lesbian, then no matter how you would normally answer the question, neither would have feelings toward the other.
Whaa? What was that in there for? That wasn't part of the original topic.Hopeless Bastard said:
Sure they can, provided both people are unattractive. As soon as someone's hot, there's the whole forbidden fruit angle to make things juicier.
My straight guyfrinds say "No offence, but if I were to hit on you, it would be like hitting on one of the guys." They also say "Everyone knows you're into yaoi, & no straight guy would ever date you because everyone would think he was gay."
My gay guyfriends say "I know you're like one of the guys & all, but you're not man enough for me."
The only guys who hit on me are the ones who don't know me personally. I really am very unfemanine. Doesn't bother me though; I have Trichophilia & have no romantic incline for men with short hair. I also have Trichotillomania & a revultion to facial & bodily hair. That means that a man would have to look like a woman for me to have any more-than-friends interest in him.
My gay guyfriends say "I know you're like one of the guys & all, but you're not man enough for me."
The only guys who hit on me are the ones who don't know me personally. I really am very unfemanine. Doesn't bother me though; I have Trichophilia & have no romantic incline for men with short hair. I also have Trichotillomania & a revultion to facial & bodily hair. That means that a man would have to look like a woman for me to have any more-than-friends interest in him.
Yes of course. I have a couple of really close friends that are girls that I could never think about dating now. The thought had crossed my mind once, but I found out they would be better to have as friends.
Yeah. For example, one of my friends and I, we've been friends since we were five. She hasn't really tried any "romantic" crap on me, and I haven't to her. In fact, I think it's more of a brother-sister type of thing at most.
[small]...Though she is really hot..[/small]
[small]...Though she is really hot..[/small]