Poll: Can Men be just as Seductive as Women?
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What this discussion comes down to, is that it's not a black or white "Yes, men can be as seductive as women" or "No, they can't".
It depends massively on who the man is, as well as who the woman is and what she finds attractive. If a girl fits the stereotypical (and often, true) bad-boy loving persona, then a guy in a wife-beater with large biceps and abs would most definitely be more apt to seduce that girl. I've seen it in action.
In another sense, there's my girlfriend and I. We're both more introverted people, we like art, we like articulate language, and we're romantics. We can seduce each other on a pretty even level with well-crafted charm and intellect, rather than low-cut blouses or washboard abs.
And the setting plays a large roll as well. The formerly mentioned would be more successful in a club, or at a party, or at some other social event. The latter is more suited for a less "person-oriented" situation, i.e. not a social gathering. Whether it be just the two together, or in a small group, or somewhere where no one else is paying much attention to anyone else.
Again, it's entirely dependant upon the individuals, and the setting in which said seduction is taking place.
TL;DR, Yes, but only under certain circumstances.
And, also:
It depends massively on who the man is, as well as who the woman is and what she finds attractive. If a girl fits the stereotypical (and often, true) bad-boy loving persona, then a guy in a wife-beater with large biceps and abs would most definitely be more apt to seduce that girl. I've seen it in action.
In another sense, there's my girlfriend and I. We're both more introverted people, we like art, we like articulate language, and we're romantics. We can seduce each other on a pretty even level with well-crafted charm and intellect, rather than low-cut blouses or washboard abs.
And the setting plays a large roll as well. The formerly mentioned would be more successful in a club, or at a party, or at some other social event. The latter is more suited for a less "person-oriented" situation, i.e. not a social gathering. Whether it be just the two together, or in a small group, or somewhere where no one else is paying much attention to anyone else.
Again, it's entirely dependant upon the individuals, and the setting in which said seduction is taking place.
TL;DR, Yes, but only under certain circumstances.
And, also:
This.Outright Villainy said:Of course they can. Just learn from this man:
a lot of the people on her seem to confuse seductive with attractive. But these are two very different things. There are people out there that are very attractive in most peoples opinion but still can be as seductive as a cold dead fish.
And yes man can be just as seductive as women, its just that in most cases they have to use different techniques, for most women just experience seduction in other ways than men.
Seduction is all about mindgames, flipping the right switches in ones imagination.
At best in combination with some attraction and the right mood and setting and of course the most important thing, confidence.
If men couldnt seduce there would be much less cheating girlfriends.
And yes man can be just as seductive as women, its just that in most cases they have to use different techniques, for most women just experience seduction in other ways than men.
Seduction is all about mindgames, flipping the right switches in ones imagination.
At best in combination with some attraction and the right mood and setting and of course the most important thing, confidence.
If men couldnt seduce there would be much less cheating girlfriends.
First sensible post I've seen here. Men can be seductive but usually not from looks alone, which is a good thing for most men since most men don't have the looks anyway.Fetzenfisch said:a lot of the people on her seem to confuse seductive with attractive. But these are two very different things. There are people out there that are very attractive in most peoples opinion but still can be as seductive as a cold dead fish.
And yes man can be just as seductive as women, its just that in most cases they have to use different techniques, for most women just experience seduction in other ways than men.
Seduction is all about mindgames, flipping the right switches in ones imagination.
At best in combination with some attraction and the right mood and setting and of course the most important thing, confidence.
If men couldnt seduce there would be much less cheating girlfriends.
Seduction is a skill that can be learned, it is all about confidence and experience. I am sure most of you old enough to go to bars have seen the guys that all the girls drool over, these guys have mastered this art. It is not too difficult to do either, but it takes a lot of practice.
But one interesting difference between male and female attraction is that a male that knows how to seduce / attract women is so much rarer than attractive women. As such the man who knows what he is doing has A LOT of choice and he has a way stronger effect on women than a pretty girl has on a man.
If you live in any large city you will as a man meet attractive girls every damn day, attractive men however do not come around often.
If you want to learn how then I would recommend you check out either
http://www.charismaarts.com
or
http://thedarkhorseguidetohappiness.wordpress.com/
Here is a post about how to learn it efficiently,
http://thedarkhorseguidetohappiness.wordpress.com/2011/06/29/efficient-learning-pickup-point-of-view/
It's true what they're saying that men have different sorts of advantages to them, but I still think those advantages are more difficult.
For a man to grab attention, you have to change your whole mannerisms and always act a certain alluring way, have a fascinating personality with lots of things to talk about, sing, be outgoing, etc.
Women accidentally grab attention by walking down the street in clothes they randomly picked out.
Also, both genders consider this: If you were on a college campus or something (somewhere where you would not expect homeless or lowlifes) saw an average-attractiveness male guy, apparently just rejected, sitting on the ground against a wall, head in his hands and looking very lonely, and you have some spare time, would you honestly consider going out of your way and talking to them? Think realistically, considering you don't know this guy at all.
Now, consider the same situation if it's a mildly-attractive young lady.
Women are more easily able to attract attention, as far as logic can tell me. Once in a while you get handsome figures like the Old Spice guy or Richard Hammond, but even then the allure only seems to get them so far; seems like many wives wouldn't leave their husbands to run off with them.
For a man to grab attention, you have to change your whole mannerisms and always act a certain alluring way, have a fascinating personality with lots of things to talk about, sing, be outgoing, etc.
Women accidentally grab attention by walking down the street in clothes they randomly picked out.
Also, both genders consider this: If you were on a college campus or something (somewhere where you would not expect homeless or lowlifes) saw an average-attractiveness male guy, apparently just rejected, sitting on the ground against a wall, head in his hands and looking very lonely, and you have some spare time, would you honestly consider going out of your way and talking to them? Think realistically, considering you don't know this guy at all.
Now, consider the same situation if it's a mildly-attractive young lady.
Women are more easily able to attract attention, as far as logic can tell me. Once in a while you get handsome figures like the Old Spice guy or Richard Hammond, but even then the allure only seems to get them so far; seems like many wives wouldn't leave their husbands to run off with them.
Maybe this is just because I wasn't much hit on in highschool, but nowadays I get very very bamboozled by a handsome fellow paying attention to me. Not even handsome, really, just charming. I'm not saying I run off with them at their slightest whim, but I get all lightheaded and scatterbrained and basically wind up like a teen comedy nerd faced with the head cheerleader.
No kidding. Although I still can't understand what women see in men's bodies save our potential gene's for a decent kid down the line... fuck, just him talking to me at my bedpost would get me giddy.Billska said:
OT: They can, yes. But I don't think as spontaneously and effectively, however. Women seem to have more ability to be able to seduce in a situation with very little talk over body language, whereas men usually have to engage in careful dialogue more often in order to score some sort of positive reaction.
Or at least, in my experiences this is true.
Oh yeah, but its often more by way of smooth words than body language and physical appeal. Though both apply for both sexes.
What way are you?Count Igor said:
I would say men are just generally more eager/willing to have sex, so seducing is much easier. That being said, considering the guys many girls get with, I have to assume that yes, there is some sort of magical factor I'm completely oblivious to, but it seems to mostly occur in assholes.
Pretty unattractive.Kurokami said:
Oh yes, they say I'm not, that I'm quite good looking, but it's just them being nice (But untruthful)