Poll: Could you overlook gender?

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Ekonk

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I think one could become friends 4 life as well. But if real love is involved than you're practically 'going gay', sooooo... I don't really get this thread. There's no difference between being straight and suddenly falling for a guy and being gay. This thread is asking 'if you fell in love with a dude, would you get yo freak on?' To which the answer is of course yes, if you're really in love.
 

Adventurer2626

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I'm pretty sure it would stop at the best friend mark for me. Homosexuality is just not something I could get in to. I could befriend just about anybody (caucasian, asian, african-derived, middle eastern, male, female, other, robot, doesn't matter) but I reserve the right to be picky about my mate.
 

smurf_you

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Kinguendo said:
smurf_you said:
Kinguendo said:
Could you overlook gender? Erm, heterosexual means you are attracted to the OPPOSITE sex. There is no choice in the matter.
There have been cases of people being entirely straight and falling for someone of the same sex... it's rare but it happens, happened to one of my friends anyway.... was dating girls for years, meets this guy and they wound up being together, but he finds no other guys attractive, just him....

anyway back on topic... being pansexual I do tend to fall in love with the person not the gender....
Then your friend is gay. You cant be heterosexual and date a guy, thats not how it works. He is either gay or bi... but certainly not heterosexual.
again.. he only find that ONE guy attractive.... everyone else he finds attractive are girls, sometimes it's about the person not the gender
 

luckycharms8282

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PayJ567 said:
Don't think I could. That's for more people who fall in love with People not genders. I am not one of those people. I can't say I would happily date a man regardless of how awesome a person they are. I would go out drinking and do various other man tasks like change tires but I wouldn't actually have a relationship with another man.
Yeah, b/c that's what men do together...change tires...yea
 

Bruin

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No, because I know me, and I know I wouldn't be happy with anybody not a woman in the first place. No matter how desperate things have gotten I've never considered "switching sides".
 

Acier

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Cynical skeptic said:
Not really, no. I have strong attractions to femininity. The only males with strong feminine features are ten year old boys... and they don't stay that way long and only look that way in the first place because prepubescents are essentially androgynous.

Yes, I know about drag queens and "traps," they rely entirely on makeup, clothing, high contrast, camera tricks, and surgery, look horrible in the absence of even one, and don't even look that great when the moons of Jupiter align properly with the moons of saturn in conjunction with their photoshoot.
EClaris said:
You mean "sex" not "gender"

Sorry just a minor pet peeve of mine, they aren't interchangable.

Sex, I couldn't, I don't have enough physical attraction to females to sustain a relationship.

Gender? I could probably handle it, dating a feminine male could be cool, but I highly doubt it would last long term
Sex and gender mean the exact same thing. What you're confusing for gender are gender roles.

Transgenderism is a completely redundant term, thus, completely meaningless.
Well "sex" and "gender" are interchangable in casual speech, they certainly aren't when it comes to a technical context (same thing goes for thunder and lightning). I am quite aware what "gender", "gender role" and "sex" are.
Someone who Androgynous is not a hermaphrodite and vice versa. And your argument than "transgender" is a meaningless word is somewhat undermined by the fact that you don't appear to know what "trans" or "redundant" mean by your writing.
 

Ironic Pirate

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They can stay my damn friend.

What I look for in a relationship is a female friend anyway, I couldn't care less about sex.
 

Zenn3k

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Kialee said:
Search bar approved with a few different attempted phrases, but I can't promise anything. I don't trust that thing.

Anywho, for the sake of argument, I've assumed that you are heterosexual and of either gender. (If such is false, go ahead and substitute the exact opposite of what I'm about to drone on about, and if you are a dog, bark woof bark.) Age of consent, healthy, and whatever else floats your boat to avoid strange questions.
For whatever hypothetical reasons you find most agreeable, you haven't had much luck on the dating front. Attempts at the opposite sex either end up less than ideal or fail spectacularly. During your dating escapades, you meet someone of your own gender (or opposite, if you usually prefer the same sex) and you become friends.

As time goes on, you realize that this friend is, more or less, your dream individual with the wrong set of genitalia. Perhaps they're really into the same obscure movies and games you are, maybe they have your dream car, maybe their hips are just really nice, I'm not certain what you're into - take your ideal partner template and apply it to a same-sex friend. Unless it's part of your fantasy, it can be assumed that this person is either homosexual or open to the following idea. They also have no hardcore addictions that would cause relationship problems, and are financially stable with no debilitating diseases.

So, Escapists, would you try to form a relationship with someone you normally wouldn't, given the idea that they are quite literally the perfect person you've been searching for?
If you are heterosexual and meet a person of the same sex that follows this criteria, you simply made a fantastic friend for life.

My best friend and roommate (who I have known since 8th grade) and I are basically identical people (except he has a lot more luck with the ladies), I would never (as a straight male) consider a relationship with him, that would just be weird and creepy.
 

DoctorObviously

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I can't say I'll overlook the gender. I mean, I have nothing against homosexual people, if they are happy that's good. I won't bother them as long as they don't bother me. But to have a relationship with them... no.
 

Mcupobob

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Yeahhh no, I would be psyched to have a friend that awesome. But I just wouldn't have it in me to you know bang them. Or the disiere.
 

Kinguendo

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smurf_you said:
Kinguendo said:
smurf_you said:
Kinguendo said:
Could you overlook gender? Erm, heterosexual means you are attracted to the OPPOSITE sex. There is no choice in the matter.
There have been cases of people being entirely straight and falling for someone of the same sex... it's rare but it happens, happened to one of my friends anyway.... was dating girls for years, meets this guy and they wound up being together, but he finds no other guys attractive, just him....

anyway back on topic... being pansexual I do tend to fall in love with the person not the gender....
Then your friend is gay. You cant be heterosexual and date a guy, thats not how it works. He is either gay or bi... but certainly not heterosexual.
again.. he only find that ONE guy attractive.... everyone else he finds attractive are girls, sometimes it's about the person not the gender
Ever heard of this thing called "friends"? I have tons of friends I like that I dont want to bang, it is most certainly about gender when it comes to sexuality... thats what defines your sexuality. Your friend is dating a dude, your friend is gay or bi.
 

Sterling|D-Reaver

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No because I would feel like that was giving up. while I don't believe that our futures are set in stone I do believe we are directed through life, (I'm obviously religious, but for the sake of this Q I'm leaving out whether I believe homosexuality is right or not) and as such if a person is a good friend that does not in turn make them an ideal partner for that sort of relationship.
So basically no, I would use there friendship for advice and help getting a partner if really wanted one so bad.
I should also point out that I would be fine as a loner as long as I had an outlet for my ideas/thoughts/gifts most of which are spreadable through the internet. :)