Poll: cyber bullying

[Mu74n7]

I've only ad a problem with the pricks who are 80000000 Miles/kilometers/I.Q. points away from me...everyone close to me is scared shitless that i will burn their house down so this didn't become that. So it never became much of a problem to me. However if i do see pointless flaming i will throw my steal pipe in...adn at the abuser's scrotum/ovaries...whatever you have.

 

[m_jim]

Lets say that there was a man who devoted his life to charity. He worked and worked and worked to save the lives of children in Africa. If it wasnt for his sacrifice then many little children would die. Now lets say he gets a cut on his hand but does the stupid thing of leaving it bare. Now while preforming a check up on a child with aides some saliva from the childs mouth is put into the cut in his hand and the man contracts HIV and dies two years later. Did he deserve for that to happen him? Well I don't think so.

So if one little 12 year old (lets use MGG for an example) is picked on by people older then him and bigger then him and there is no way for MGG to fight back because if he tells someone (apart from his forum buddies) then he will be picked on even more and the bullies could just deny the actions and MGG is way to samll and weak to fight back himself. Does MGG deserve that being for weak?

Honestly, I think this analogy is a bit out of the blue. MGG isn't trying to cure AIDS. And I don't think folks (myself included) razzed him because he was "small and weak." That post, and a number of others, were exceptionally poorly written, and when people called him on it, he responded in an all-caps manifesto. People responded by posting a fairly well-written, cohesive story of "heroes" battling a "troll." So, yes, it was mean. But you can't expect people to play nice just because you are a teeny-bopper. That's beyond the age where youth is a Get-Out-Of-Jail-Free card.
I don't think that bullying is the fault of the victim, in general. Nor do I think it should ever go beyond a good-natured ribbing. However, if one acts with immaturity, in real life or online, one must expect a response. And if one does NOT, then that individual probably should not be playing around on the internet.

 

[Lonely Tau]

Good late evening everybody,

Let it be said that in my experience with internet bullying it comes from two sources, having been very, very mistaken for somebody else,and being a Moderator on a forum dedicated to 40k (I run the Enclave, which is pretty much equivalent to this board we're in right now, the off topic section).

Now in the case of mistaken identity, apparently I was a black guy that was doing none too heterosexual things with another individual of the same. Fortunately for me and not for them, My family is from Norway, and as you could guess, pretty white. I managed to get the whole cock up sorted out and clear whatever charges that were false against the good bloke whom I was being mistaken for. I have not heard much about this past this event but now that the man in question is actually an alright buddy of mine (we always mess around in Spanish ) I can only assume that I'd be hearing about it.

Another good case of internet bullying was on the forums I moderate, Tau Online. This one bloke who posted in the hobby boards, admittedly noobish, but almost always contributing something new to a project or idea. Then we had another person, this guy more of a n3wb, or as I call them, a total dickwad, was specifically following and flaming the member to the point where if I knew where he lived, I'd have personally gone to his house and slapped him. However I didn't know where he lived or who he was, so I had to be content with abusing my power and smiting him every time he posted on my boards. I'm not sure what became of the case, but I know one member was banned (the bully) and another hasn't been on since whatever happened.

Now on the subject of internet bullying, there are two parties that I often times seem to see the need to point out, which are what has been pointed out to a degree here, the side that thinks Cyber Bullying is a stupid concept, and the group that thinks that it's very real. I would have to say that the idea of the most viewed Internet Bullying is a load of BS and chips, and I'll quote whomever said it: "Internet Bullying: Because somebody is too much of a pussy to call you a name face to face, they put it on your myspace." Now in a sense this is the stuff that can just be ignored, but as the other cases show where it becomes less of a cyber bullying, and more of a widespread attack under the guise of cyber bullying. Once something moves off of the internet and onto the plain of the real world, it should no longer be considered cyber bullying.

 

[josh797]

dude! why the hell isnt there a block button in real life. that way- oh you hate me and wanna fight me? BLOCK!... wow this guys is so irritating BLOCK!... boss is looking at you in that way that you know means he has something for you to do? BLOCK!!!! hell yeah that would rock!

 

[Mr Wednesday]

I think that some people here on the Escapist are very Close Minded.

Agreed.

Cyber bullying is often a part of larger bullying "campaign" for loss of a better term. That kind of crap can be nigh-inescapable, especially for the young.

A little basic human empathy is not an awful lot to ask.

 

[General Ma Chao]

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[Easykill]

I never considered cyber bullying that serious, but from the stories people have up I guess you can say that I've been bullied in the past, both physically and verbally, and just didn't really care. This means I probably just can't relate to the situation and I retract all earlier comments(there might have only been one).

 

[Erana]

I, myself, tease people, but I do no more than I would face-to-face. Then, if I accidentally go to far, I feel guilty and give them pastries. It all works out.
The only time I am actually effected by cyber bullies is on the rate my drawings collaborative art section. You're merrily working along side several others to make a lovely image, then someone comes and erases the whole thing. THAT's what bugs me.
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Anyhow, I don't understand all this 12-year-old bashing. I guess yall have never seen 12-year-old college students before, though. That really messes with your head.

 

[Kukakkau]

never experienced real life or cyber bullying
but yea "cyber bullying" is just children who think that they can say what they want since the keyboard protects them. aka cowardly they would NEVER say it to your face

 

[DreamerM]

Everyone who thinks Cyber-Bullying is exclusive to 12-year-old n00bs: google the name Megan Meier. http://www.thesmokinggun.com/archive/years/2007/1120072megan1.html

And I don't want to have an ages long thread, so I am just going to say "Listen to mshcherbatskaya, she speaks truth!"

It's not just the internet as such. The rumor-mill style attack is old, and almost exclusively female. Not as physically painful as the male standby of shoving the smaller guy's head down the toilet, but in the long-term, can be far more destructive. I was also a target of rumor-mill attacks, and it was only by developing a deep apathy towards the opinions of my fellow human beings that I survived. I expected everyone, male and female, would move away when I sat at a table, that no one would come to my birthdays, blah blah blah, I learned to love books and being all on my own.

The janitor was always nice to me: he called me Matilda because he would show up to clean the messes from lunch and find me sitting oblivious at a bench with a book in my lap.

Wow this is a really boring story.

I'm out dude!

 

[mshcherbatskaya]

This is off-topic, and I realize that cut-and-paste makes everything ridiculously simple, and blah blah blah, but I find the fact that anyone bothers actually spelling out my name to be very flattering.

 

[Anarchemitis]

In the enviroment that has my attention (Star Wars Battlefront) it is vitually impossible to start up an ibully because anything they say will be almost instantly cut short by people who have clearer minds. Thus:

Bully1337: hey u noob us ucksoo bad!!11!
NewPlayer1: oh come on man ive only played this game like 6 times!
Bully1337: why don't you go bakc to oding ur mom?! lololololol
Me: Hey bully. Heads up.
(I totally pwn Bully with headshot missle and a grenade simultaneously)
Me: Maybe you won't suck so bad if you weren't such a jackass.
Bully1337 [Left the Server]

 

[thatstheguy]

I don't see how this sort of thing is actually effective in bullying, I mean it's words on a screen.
That's like me going and sitting down, writing " I hate you, fatty!" On a piece of paper and leaving it in someones mail box.

That's why I never got verbal bullying. I would occasionally run in to that in school. Though I never minded. It's that type of bullying is for people who want to be "cool" but don't have the guts to deliver a knuckle sandwich. So I'd have to agree that cyber bullying isn't that big of a deal. It's not even as bad because there's no voice or expression or emotion to the words so for people who do feel offended by verbal bullying might not be as so with cyber bullying. After all, as Pie said, it's word on a screen.

 

[ace_of_something]

I think a lot of people misunderstand what this means. It's not when a stranger is mean to you on the internet it's when someone you know is.
I know many who work as teachers of middle school age and girls are constantly making blogs, myspace posts, and the like about some other girl they don't like spreading rumors and frighteningly photoshoped images. Things like that..

 

[flare09]

Heh, bullying. I always thought that sort of thing was for the 12 year olds that wanted you to give them something.

 

[Polian Pox]

Dude, Cyber-bullying is retarded! It's true, they don't know anything about you, what you look like, or anything else! It really can't be that bad! I've been bullied ALOT, and that's a problem. I agree with Mairsil the Pretender, the bullied just bottle it up till they go kill somebody or something else stupid, honestly, I've contemplated suicide before, and I'm only 12.

 

[Julianking93]

Yeah, its happened to me before.

On here, too.

I reported the guy and he got banned.

Also happened on YouTube, but I just blocked the asshole.