Poll: Dating an ex's Best Friend, Right or Wrong?
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Dude. I'd be so choked. not so much with her, though i would cease and desist all contact, but I'd beat the living crap out of my buddy.KeithA45 said:
Man Code Section 7 paragraph 9 specifically address this point -
When a man wishes to date and/or sleep with another man's ex, he must first obtain permission from the involved man party or allow 6 months to pass. If the allotted 6 months has passed and permission has not been obtained a punch to the face is still warranted and considered acceptable. No permanent damage can be done, however.
Burn them BOTH! They may be my over reactive obsessive tenancies but non the less it is fun non the less. If mine did that I'd kill him, not her, I love her way to much for that. 389 days and counting.
I agree with this, except for the last bit. Fine, friendship is definitely more important than girl/boyfriends. However, if the person in the middle is fine with it then it's always a good idea, if you both feel that way. I'm a romantic at heart so I don't like seeing couples split up, but if the middle person is fine with it then go for it. In the OP's case, then I'm not sure about the situation without knowing each person, but the friend should have been honest from the start though.Geek@Heart said:
give it til the other person stops talking about them in a good-sized(like 20-30%) of their conversations.
An ex's best friend: No
A best friend's ex: Yes
Thats the general rule I follow. I suppose it just depends on what the footing was for you and your ex breaking up. With guys I've noticed we have the tougher challenge of having to win over the girls best friend. Which can be difficult at time, women usually don't have to worry about that as much.
I admit that it can make things awkward and annoying. There's nothing worse than being, not only a third wheel but more of a busted spare tire (no offense) in certain social events.
I've been in the exact same predicament as you before and really the best advice I can give is to just try and ignore it.
A best friend's ex: Yes
Thats the general rule I follow. I suppose it just depends on what the footing was for you and your ex breaking up. With guys I've noticed we have the tougher challenge of having to win over the girls best friend. Which can be difficult at time, women usually don't have to worry about that as much.
I admit that it can make things awkward and annoying. There's nothing worse than being, not only a third wheel but more of a busted spare tire (no offense) in certain social events.
I've been in the exact same predicament as you before and really the best advice I can give is to just try and ignore it.
You have every right to be upset.KeithA45 said:
If you were OK with them being together there wouldnt be problem.
But if it bothers you then you need to talk, to both of them.
if the two of you are still friends (you and the ex that is) then surely you would want her to go out with someone nice/ atleast someone you know ( better the devil you know right?), then you should be happy it's your mate, not some dick/asshole/prat. if you're not friends with her your mate should have better judgement than to do that.
Was this mate of yours good friends with your ex before the two of you broke up, like basically he was as good/almost as good friends with her as you? because if so then i reckon it's a matter of whom he chose, although that's not to say he doesn't want to stay mates with you.
edit- probably good to mention that you don't choose whom you like. they cant help it they liked each other, but your friend should have told you before hand.
Was this mate of yours good friends with your ex before the two of you broke up, like basically he was as good/almost as good friends with her as you? because if so then i reckon it's a matter of whom he chose, although that's not to say he doesn't want to stay mates with you.
edit- probably good to mention that you don't choose whom you like. they cant help it they liked each other, but your friend should have told you before hand.
(JOKE PART)Rule 3 of Man Law: If your best friend is dumped by a girl it is a 6 month waiting period till she can be touched. If he breaks up with her it?s a 6 day waiting period.
If your friend violated this rule, he's attributed the title of man-*****. Therefore, you have the right to treat him like a ***** for a period of 3 months or an offering (from him) of free beer.
Note* Don't take the joke seriously.
(Serious part)Besides, do you still "love" her?
A. No, then you shouldn't really give a shit until she says your deep secrets
B. Yes, then you're in deep shit.
Either way, it's best you say something, but don't make a scene out of it.
If your friend violated this rule, he's attributed the title of man-*****. Therefore, you have the right to treat him like a ***** for a period of 3 months or an offering (from him) of free beer.
Note* Don't take the joke seriously.
(Serious part)Besides, do you still "love" her?
A. No, then you shouldn't really give a shit until she says your deep secrets
B. Yes, then you're in deep shit.
Either way, it's best you say something, but don't make a scene out of it.
Depends on a few factors. If, for example, you and your ex had called it off a year ago, and were both completely ok about it, then sure, it's fine. (Though your friend really should've given you a heads up when they first got together.) If you still have feelings and/or are shagging said ex, then hell no, your pal shouldn't be hittin' that.
If they are ex's, then there is no problem with it. If your friend has a problem going out with their ex, then that shows that that person still has feelings for that person, and shouldn't have broken up with that person, if the break-up was their won fault anyways. My point is, if the relationship is over, as in, completely OVER, then there is no problem going out with an ex of your friend.
