Poll: Dating an ex's Best Friend, Right or Wrong?

[Irridium]

date her best friend

or just talk to your best friend about it, it doesn't sound right, but then again I don't date my friends girlfriends. If they broke up, there was a damn good reason for it, and it usually wasn't a problem with my friends

 

[True Nero]

i can see why it would bother you, but it's their decision. not yours.

hate to admit it, but i'm slightly in the position your friend is. best friend broke up with a girl that he treated like crap (there's the difference) and i was there to help her feel better. when word got out to my friend that we were dating, he flipped a s**t because he thought it was against a "code" when no more than three days earlier he was telling my gf that he felt nothing for her and she was a phase.

 

[phwbt]

Well, the man code dictates that before dating a friend's ex, you are required to ask permission first, and he is required to give it.

Too true. Unless you don't give a shit about your friend. Then you're a douche not worth being friends with anyway.

So, to respond to the OP, your friend should have talked to you first and is being quite the douche for acting like you should just "get over it". He should have talked to you about your opinion of the situation first or, at the very least, told you he was interested in dating her before he actually started dating her.

 

[cleverlymadeup]

the only thing he should have done is probly come up to you sooner and that's out of respect, not any stupid bro code or man law

frankly any "law" that states you can't be happy by dating a friend of an ex is stupid and wrought with jealousy. it's a law that couldn't be more childish if it was wearing a pair of diapers and sucking on a pacifier.

the only reason why you're upset with it is because she's basically lost to you and you feel a bit of jealousy that her and your friend might find some happiness cause you wanted to get back together with her. i say wish them well and cast your line into the sea and hope to catch another fish

 

[KeithA45]

the only thing he should have done is probly come up to you sooner and that's out of respect, not any stupid bro code or man law

frankly any "law" that states you can't be happy by dating a friend of an ex is stupid and wrought with jealousy. it's a law that couldn't be more childish if it was wearing a pair of diapers and sucking on a pacifier.

the only reason why you're upset with it is because she's basically lost to you and you feel a bit of jealousy that her and your friend might find some happiness cause you wanted to get back together with her. i say wish them well and cast your line into the sea and hope to catch another fish

No you're basically right. I think for each person its either that they thought they'd get back together or its some form of jealousy, atleast on the ex's part. The friend is another story

 

[SultanP]

I'd say that there might be something wrong with it. But it seems to me that something that truly brings happiness is so rare to come by these days, so in a way it would be wrong to deny them a shot at happiness. Think about it, if they date, you get hurt. If they don't, I bet they both get hurt, and you might too, knowing that you are in their way. So I guess the "math" says it's allright.

 

[Iron Criterion]

I would say its wrong, because my ex carla who I went out with for three went out with my best mate almost straight afterwards, which made me really bitter. I didnt want to confront my mate and tell him how I felt so I stayed at home drinking all the time because it upset me to see them together.

However I cant really talk as i've slept with my mate's current girlfriend several times now, once at his 18th birthday party lol