Poll: Do geeks tend prefer geek mates?

[tetron]

Heh heh romantic D&D sessions, yeah that sounds nice. I'd love to date a female me, so geek all the way.

 

[Samurai Goomba]

Well, yeah. Shared interests matter. Some people think they don't, but it makes things easier when you want to figure out something to do with your bf/gf. That kind of surface compatibility isn't EVERYTHING in a relationship, but it is important. I'd date somebody who didn't share my interests, but I better really enjoy spending time with them, y'know? 'Cause I mean, if somebody doesn't have any of your interests, what are you gonna do?

...Yeah, okay, but assuming you want a relationship that goes beyond the Spring Break level, what are ya gonna do? Non-geeks don't "get" things like needing/wanting time to read/play games/watch anime, because they don't get the appeal.

I'm dating a moderately geeky girl (not a huge gamer, but she's into a lot of other things I like), and I think it helped the most at first, when we were kind of uncomfortable around each other. Sitting down to watch Star Wars, or Futurama... It kinda put us both at ease, y'know? When I'm doing something I'm comfortable doing, it helps get past the awkward stage of getting to know somebody romantically. At least, I think so.

 

[PurpleSky]

Hell yeah, can't wait for the next date.

 

[Zeromaeus]

I don't typically socialize with non-geeks, so that's that.

 

[jibjab963]

I like my girl friends being hardcore gamers. To me nothing is as sweet then haveing a nice looking girl next to me playing Halo 3 and yelling at a little kid. I also like it when they know what im talking about half the time.

 

[Lem0nade Inlay]

Where are the options for 'I am a not a geek and don't/do date geeks?'

Why would you want that option? Your avatar is a love heart with the Lambda symbol and a crowbar going through it, don't try to call yourself a 'non-geek'.

OT: I don't really care either way. As long as they're not idiots...

 

[Naheal]

I look for people that I mesh with.

Mmm, maybe. I would say on average people often look for other people like them in terms of friendship or companionship. Though some people go for opposites, and what one likes in another person may disprove all of that entirely. What I liked about my girlfriend was she was very sweet and kind, but shy when I met her. I wanted to know what was behind those pretty eyes, who she really was. In a way it was because she was like me, but also different.

Kinda like what she found. Unfortunately, it's fairly rare out here.

 

[Funkiest Monkey]

Yeah, I'd date someone if they weren't a geek like me.

 

[MelasZepheos_v1legacy]

I am a geek and while I would be fine dating non-geeks (and have) I prefer having someone with whom I have a point of reference for conversations. I don't mind if they have the same encyclopedic knowledge of Firefly or whether they just liked watching the Sarah Connor Chronicles but there has to be something we can geek out about. (I have a passion for all forms of media, music, film, gaming, books, but I would be fine dating someone who is only a film buff, or an avid reader, but I couldn't date someone who didn't care about any of those things.)

It's just about having something in common. COntrary to popular (Hollywood) belief you can't have a relationship where you don't have certain points at which you both come back to, and since being geeky is such a large part of my life, a potential partner would have to have at least some entry into that, though not necessarily be a geek themselves.

 

[Cowabungaa]

I'd say that people in general want to be with people like them. In the case of a romantic relationship even more so, 2 lives being so close together, sharing so much.

I couldn't imagine being in such a serious relationship with someone who doesn't get who I am, and being a nerd is a big part of my personality.

 

[Sebass]

I don't really need a geeky girl. Tbh I don't know if I would want one .. But I have no experience with a geeky girlfriend so yeah. I would like it if my girlfriend gamed a little more though .. Doesn't have to be 'a gamer', as in: emerged in the gamer subculture (forums, online play, etc) but she never wants to play anything except guitar hero =(

 

[Queen Michael]

Only geeks.

 

[Arawn.Chernobog]

Fine with dating "non-geeks", but the relationship isn't going to last long if the other side isn't willing to share my hobbies.

 

[Amphoteric]

By mate I'm assuming you mean sexual partner.

 

[Ironic Pirate]

Well, it'd be nice, but it's not like I'd turn someone down because of it.

 

[StarStruckStrumpets]

I don't really care, but if a girl is into me and she's a gamer...

It'd be a heavy point in her favour.

 

[SomeBritishDude]

Just because someones a geek doesn't necessarily mean they're for me. That being said, when I meet a girl who's into Zelda or plays D&D I have to hide behind something waist high.

But I can't be picky, geek girls are thin on the ground. Most of my friends don't share the same hobbies as me, just simular personalities, or their completely different but fun to be around. I don't see why it should be different with a girl.

 

[Fraught]

Where are the options for 'I am a not a geek and don't/do date geeks?'

Someone on this website who isn't a geek?

Anyway, I don't really care either way. Of course it's always appreciated to have a girl who shares my hobbies (of which videogaming isn't really the biggest), but there are many things I usually have in common with these so to say "non-geeks". It would be always nice to have a girl who plays videogames, I don't know, is knowledgeable in the same areas as me etc, but it's by no means going to hinder me when they don't share almost any of my geekier habits/hobbies.