Poll: Do you feel uncomfortable around people who are attracted to the same sex?

[DarkShadow144]

Read the title wrong and put yes, but I have no problem with it.

 

[thegingerone]

The only reason I've ever found to be uncomfortable around gay people is when they were being super inappropriately sexual for the situation. I would've had the same problem if it were straight people behaving that way, but I've never seen that under the same circumstances.

 

[Andy Shandy]

I have no idea. Never had a friend who was gay, or at least they never told me as much.

I would assume that I wouldn't be, unless they were "OMG LOOK AT HOW GAY I AM! AM I NOT JUST FABULOUS!"

 

[Psykoma]

Uncomfortable being around gay people? Nope.

But there are situations where I may be uncomfortable with what they're doing.

-When the talk turns to sex, I get uncomfortable. But that might just be the "I'm a virgin and extremely nervous about sex" part of me, because I get the same level of discomfort when hetero people talk about their sex too.

- When they -very- insistently tell me about how I should be doing my hair, my makeup, my outfits, because how it's going now is "sooooo not working". Pretty uncomfortable.

- When I would occasionally go to a gay bar with some class friends, one time a gay guy (a friend of a friend) came up to us, then hugged me and grabbed my butt, he seemed shocked when I looked pretty pissed because "Hey I'm gay, it's okay because there's nothing sexual about it!" (Yeah no, it's still not okay).
Those types of guys, whether drunk or just idiots, who I believe are a miniscule minority of the gay community (considering how my friends and the other people nearby in the bar were taking him to task over it), would make me really uncomfortable.

I get uncomfortable pretty easily :/

 

[PureChaos]

Not at all, I've had a few homosexual friends over the years. Doesn't bother me in the slightest

 

[The White Hunter]

Well, no, but then I'm bi, so I don't really care, I find them attractive you know?

 

[darksuccubus]

No, although I admit that I've only met 2 lesbians/bisexuals so far. I guess guys are under a bigger pressure when it comes to these things, I didn't have any problems with their sexuality. My mom had, she was afraid that I might be "influenced" but that's another level of stupid and prejudice I'm too lazy to disocuss

 

[StriderShinryu]

Not at all. A few years back, I can't say I would have been 100% certain simply due to lack of experience but one of my friends recently came out and I find that, if anything, our social interaction is better than it was before simply because he seems more comfortable with himself. I've also been around him and his boyfriend and haven't felt odd about any of it at all.

 

[DugMachine]

No, my best friend is a lesbian and I never feel uncomfortable when they're around. Although, I am a bit uncomfortable if I see two dudes just making out in public but I feel the same way about female/male PDA so I guess not when I really think about it.

Even been hit on by guys before. I take it as a compliment, just means even the same sex thinks I'm sexy

 

[RhombusHatesYou]

No, gays/lesbians/bis/whoever are just people so they why would they make me more uncomfortable than anyone else does?

The 'OMG, gay guy/girl is hitting on me' issue amuses me because to me it's no different to having anyone else you don't find attractive hitting on you... and the fucking carry on... jesus fuck, people... Imagine if everyone who rejected you made the same song and dance about it. Get over yourselves.

 

[Heronblade]

Meh, don't even care if I get hit on. I take it as a compliment, politely say no thanks, and move on.

Only problem I ever had was with one fellow (who appeared to be rather drunk), who kept going after I made it clear I wasn't interested, (and probably wouldn't have been even if I was bi/gay)

 

[RhombusHatesYou]

I take it as a compliment, just means even the same sex thinks I'm sexy

If anyone ever comments on it to you, the best comeback is "My sexiness transcends all boundaries."

 

[Mr F.]

It would certainly make being bisexual hard.

Heh.

I have met homophobes before. I despise them. Fear of the unknown is no excuse to be a ****. And no matter how you spin it, being homophobic makes you a ****.

 

[Mr F.]

Captcha screwup = Double post.

 

[Adultism]

Yes, but not for the reasons you're probably thinking. My lack of contact with openly gay people is a result of the tiny midwestern town I come from where open homosexuality was scorned. I've had a few gay friends, but not many.

I have no illusions about my privilege giving me the ability to forget that not everyone has the sexual orientation that I take for granted. I am also well aware that my gay-dar is hilariously bad. It generally doesn't even occur to me that someone might be gay until they explicitly say so.[footnote]It's even worse for lesbians. I've had an unfortunate tendency to find myself more attracted to quite a few women who are not interested in men without even realizing they might not be straight.[/footnote] So the first time I find out someone is gay, I have this uncomfortable moment where I mentally backtrack through everything I've said around them and think to myself, "Oh my god, did I say anything offensive?" Not that I have a habit of saying things that should be offensive to homosexual people, but like I said, I know I'm pretty privileged and oblivious in this regard. Once we meet and get along for a couple of times I usually get past that discomfort and start seeing them as normal people.

It's something that I've been trying to work on, particularly when I consider the possibility that I may have homosexual students. Particularly since a large portion of my students are Muslim men from Saudi Arabia, they may be students who feel strong pressure to conceal their homosexuality. They may even say anti-gay things in order to put up an appearance of being straight.

Ahahaha, I love it when I tell a man that I am into men and I've seen them do that before. "I'm sorry I said fag" Well as long as your not being hateful towards gays its all cool. When a friend of mine calls someone a ****** I don't take offense to it because they probably didn't mean homosexual.

 

[Chairman Miaow]

Homophobia and Racism are horribly insidious. I hate my upbringing because I was raised in Norfolk in the UK and I didn't even see a black person until I was 13.

I would be lying if I said they don't make me feel uncomfortable, but every time I do, I slap myself and tell myself to stop being an idiot, because there is nothing wrong with black or gay people.

I'm just glad I wasn't raised in the same way as my mother who grew up in South Africa during apartheid. She really hates racism, and doesn't like talking about living there because of it, but after a few conversations with my grandmother, I found out that on the plane to England, she cried because she had to sit next to a black man.

 

[LazarusLongNL]

Solely based on their sexuality? Of course not.... then again i did't grow up any kind of culture that bore ill-will to people based on their sex or sexuality. I do feel uncomfortable around gay/bisexual people if their personality rubs me the wrong way. For instance, i used to work with a person who would, quite crudely but i lack other terms, be called rather "fruity?". A very, feminized young man who never did me any harm yet the way he moved, talked and behaved in general sort of crossed wires in my brain saying "watch out, he's not normal!". But, and goes to show that the whole thing about books and covers is true, that feeling never passed, upon explaining why i was less "sociable" with him then my other colleague's he simply understood, accepted it and we went on from their. The 'feeling' subsided slightly over time mind you, but funnily enough plenty of straight men, and woman, give me the same feeling. When their behavior is just to out of place for me to accept.

Any-hooooow, my 2 cents.

Come one, come all i' say. Just don't get drunk, kiss me in the middle of a freaking party and then go "oops... tee-hee"..... .... yeah........ that happened.

 

[RhombusHatesYou]

I found out that on the plane to England, she cried because she had to sit next to a black man.

I would have cried at being forced to go to England.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

I only feel uncomfortable around really, really camp men. Because they're annoying, and don't seem to understand the concept of personal space. That said, I've met some incredibly camp straight men before, and they were just as irritating.

 

[Headdrivehardscrew]

Absolutely not.

There are things I have trouble putting up with, such as pee games inbetween courses at posh restaurants, smearing poop all over the walls of the residence during prolonged sex and drugs and rock n roll sessions or turning the own home into a caveman drug den. As long as things are civil, we get along just fine.