Poll: Do you match the gamer stereotype; are you lonely or not?(for girls only)

[Marter]

(Guy Talking)

I'm not happy with it, as the girl I have feelings for is currently in a relationship. I don't know how she feels about me either.

 

[Generic_Dave]

This man is very wise. I don't think I can add anything else except my personal experiences. The few gamer girls I have met have no trouble getting any action. That said anyone with a pulse can get action if you find someone desperate enough but thats not the point

My ego thanks you kind sir! You are most gracious.

Youre welcome. Its nice to see a good arguement instead of people submitting to stereotypes

Sometimes stereotypes of this type can serve a purpose, in this case, it seems like a good way to confirm that you're not alone. That others feel how you do. Especially since the gamer-grrrrl demographic is small enough that its mostly over-looked. I myself was quite surprised at the number of girls/ladies who frequent this site enough to be members , while reading a forum today about what girls wanted in men (like this one it was girls only, but I'm a GUY and I HAVE to click things).

But it is also good to realise that feeling like an outsider, lonely or down on yourself is normal and in some cases *gasp* healthy! We're bombarded with images of happy people, with happy lives, like that is a reality. People aren't perfect, we're not all supermodel gorgeous (I'm barely corpse gorgeous), and we can't be stable all the time. Sure where is the fun in total stability?

To coin a phrase the sweet ain't as sweet without the sour.

 

[DividedUnity]

This man is very wise. I don't think I can add anything else except my personal experiences. The few gamer girls I have met have no trouble getting any action. That said anyone with a pulse can get action if you find someone desperate enough but thats not the point

My ego thanks you kind sir! You are most gracious.

Youre welcome. Its nice to see a good arguement instead of people submitting to stereotypes

Sometimes stereotypes of this type can serve a purpose, in this case, it seems like a good way to confirm that you're not alone. That others feel how you do. Especially since the gamer-grrrrl demographic is small enough that its mostly over-looked. I myself was quite surprised at the number of girls/ladies who frequent this site enough to be members , while reading a forum today about what girls wanted in men (like this one it was girls only, but I'm a GUY and I HAVE to click things).

But it is also good to realise that feeling like an outsider, lonely or down on yourself is normal and in some cases *gasp* healthy! We're bombarded with images of happy people, with happy lives, like that is a reality. People aren't perfect, we're not all supermodel gorgeous (I'm barely corpse gorgeous), and we can't be stable all the time. Sure where is the fun in total stability?

To coin a phrase the sweet ain't as sweet without the sour.

I see what you're getting at but stereotypes are a fickle mistress. People seem to think that if one or two criteria apply to them then they must change themselves to fit in. I don't get why people dont like being different but its their choice. Theres nothing wrong with not feeling lonely as long as you're not pretending to be something you're not. Yeah the female gamer demographic is suprisingly big if you look closely. I agree with your point that it is sometimes healthy to feel lonely because it makes you strive to change it. People can become all too comfortable doing one thing as long as others do it eg. thinking that being alone is ok (which it is for a short amount of time) for long periods and never strive to change it.

I know people aren't perfect and I've made some royal screw-ups in my life that I'd give anything to change. Honestly I'd give anything for stability. My life is like a bi-polar cat in a tumble dryer. Id rather just settle down even if it does mean being alone if it means I dont have to deal with the problems.

 

[Generic_Dave]

I see what you're getting at but stereotypes are a fickle mistress. People seem to think that if one or two criteria apply to them then they must change themselves to fit in. I don't get why people dont like being different but its their choice. Theres nothing wrong with not feeling lonely as long as you're not pretending to be something you're not. Yeah the female gamer demographic is suprisingly big if you look closely. I agree with your point that it is sometimes healthy to fel lonely because it makes you strive to change it. People can become all too comfortable doing one thing as long as others do it eg. thinking that along is ok (which it is for a short amount of time) for long periods and never strive to change it.

I know people aren't perfect and I've made some royal screw-ups in my life that I'd give anything to change. Honestly I'd give anything for stability. My life is like a bi-polar cat in a tumble dryer. Id rather just settle down even if it does mean being alone if it means I dont have to deal with the problems.

Indeed, like everything, application should depend on circumstance. Generally stereotypes are bad, as they tend to be negative.

I know what you mean, I used to feel like that. Like the walls were closing in, I used to sit on my bed and rock back and forth trying to keep the tears at bay, while my mind spun and skull pounded. Sometimes for no reason at all. But I just found coping mechanisms, talking to friends is always a big one, some talk to docs, but in my experience they are too willing to try to solve a problem with a prescription. Some people go for alcohol and drugs (legal or otherwise) but that usually inflames rather than soothes (not that I have anything against alcohol or drugs, we're quite good friends) but if you they tend to exacerbate emotions rather than improve your mood, funnily enough gaming is one of my coping mechanisms. Nothing like killing things to blow off steam. But I think mainly what it comes down to is figuring out what is important to you, and going for it. And plus, the fact that things get better is always something to look forward to.

 

[DividedUnity]

I see what you're getting at but stereotypes are a fickle mistress. People seem to think that if one or two criteria apply to them then they must change themselves to fit in. I don't get why people dont like being different but its their choice. Theres nothing wrong with not feeling lonely as long as you're not pretending to be something you're not. Yeah the female gamer demographic is suprisingly big if you look closely. I agree with your point that it is sometimes healthy to fel lonely because it makes you strive to change it. People can become all too comfortable doing one thing as long as others do it eg. thinking that along is ok (which it is for a short amount of time) for long periods and never strive to change it.

I know people aren't perfect and I've made some royal screw-ups in my life that I'd give anything to change. Honestly I'd give anything for stability. My life is like a bi-polar cat in a tumble dryer. Id rather just settle down even if it does mean being alone if it means I dont have to deal with the problems.

Indeed, like everything, application should depend on circumstance. Generally stereotypes are bad, as they tend to be negative.

I know what you mean, I used to feel like that. Like the walls were closing in, I used to sit on my bed and rock back and forth trying to keep the tears at bay, while my mind spun and skull pounded. Sometimes for no reason at all. But I just found coping mechanisms, talking to friends is always a big one, some talk to docs, but in my experience they are too willing to try to solve a problem with a prescription. Some people go for alcohol and drugs (legal or otherwise) but that usually inflames rather than soothes (not that I have anything against alcohol or drugs, we're quite good friends) but if you they tend to exacerbate emotions rather than improve your mood, funnily enough gaming is one of my coping mechanisms. Nothing like killing things to blow off steam. But I think mainly what it comes down to is figuring out what is important to you, and going for it. And plus, the fact that things get better is always something to look forward to.

Yeah I had a patch like that. Then I found alcohol. It may not be the best solution and it gets me into some wierd situations but it works. Until I can leave the country in 2 years it;s all I have.

 

[Generic_Dave]

Yeah I had a patch like that. Then I found alcohol. It may not be the best solution and it gets me into some wierd situations but it works. Until I can leave the country in 2 years it;s all I have.

Ah the oddness of alcohol related missions. Never quite sure where you are, or how or why you got there. Ah, my jager-bombs never fail.

I don't know you from atom man, but it's not all you have. Even if you had nothing else, there's a community here that can be of great support, sure what else is this thread if not some measure of support. I read tons of sites for news, for my gaming, for anything really, and I never really join them or if I do, I forget about it, in a week. This place is different though, for every asshole there's fifty good people and that's why I stay.Though you still have to find someone you can be completely honest with, which everywhere is a challenge.

I don't want to sound preachy, its hard for me, I'm that type. I see a problem or something unfair and I want to fix it (tis why I'm a socialist and a green and possible one of the reasons I enjoy gaming so much). But you should take advantage of all avenues if you need to.

Anyway, kinda hogging the thread here and I have a year end exam tomorrow that I am not ready for. I'm too old to be doing exams! Sigh.

 

[DividedUnity]

Yeah I had a patch like that. Then I found alcohol. It may not be the best solution and it gets me into some wierd situations but it works. Until I can leave the country in 2 years it;s all I have.

Ah the oddness of alcohol related missions. Never quite sure where you are, or how or why you got there. Ah, my jager-bombs never fail.

I don't know you from atom man, but it's not all you have. Even if you had nothing else, there's a community here that can be of great support, sure what else is this thread if not some measure of support. I read tons of sites for news, for my gaming, for anything really, and I never really join them or if I do, I forget about it, in a week. This place is different though, for every asshole there's fifty good people and that's why I stay.Though you still have to find someone you can be completely honest with, which everywhere is a challenge.

I don't want to sound preachy, its hard for me, I'm that type. I see a problem or something unfair and I want to fix it (tis why I'm a socialist and a green and possible one of the reasons I enjoy gaming so much). But you should take advantage of all avenues if you need to.

Anyway, kinda hogging the thread here and I have a year end exam tomorrow that I am not ready for. I'm too old to be doing exams! Sigh.

Oh I know exactly where I am whe im on a mission and exactly what i'm doing. Perhaps thats the problem. Yeah we've kinda hijacked this thread slightly. Anyway I'm quite happy drinking and taking what ever else I find but thanks for the offer. I have exams tommorow too lol. Two hours long

 

[Yureina]

I'm 22, very introverted (not on forums as much), non-existent social life, somewhat neurotic, and i've got a very resigned view about how the future is going to turn out. But... I don't really think that's a "gamer" stereotype and is instead just something that fits my typically reclusive personality. I just happen to play a fair amount of games as well. But, this course is probably not very likely to continue for much longer. I'm ~5 weeks away from finishing college, so you could say the next weeks and months of my life may prove quite decisive. I am fairly optimistic that things will get better in a few years though. We will see.

Just so your not suprised in a few years, life won't get magically better when you leave college. Very introverted types like myself are really not welcomed into the big wide world much... Prepare to be ignored, shat on, silenced and extorted a lot... It'll take you a few years to learn you'll need to put on an extravert business suit on if you wanna get anywhere... So umm, good luck...

Well... i'm not going into business, so that probably does not really apply as much. I'm not sure what it is i'll be doing, but I am fairly certain it will not involve the corporate world. I do expect to run into a few obnoxious types, but I'm not too worried about them. There's the doormat introvert type who gets pushed around and exploited by others and there's the types that people avoid making trouble with because when they do try to start problems, they end up recieving far more than they bargained for. I belong to the latter category

Thanks for the concerns, but I really am not too worried about those types. I'm almost looking forward to adding their names to my long list of people who were stupid enough to start trouble and paid dearly for it. Really, I think the challenges of the "everyday" sort, such as building a lasting relationship, are what the real problems will be. :/

 

[BlazeTheVampire]

I live with my boyfriend, where our general argument is who gets my computer for the day, because he wants the Starcraft 2 beta and I want to play something else on it. I work for GameStop and also manage a small gaming lounge on our university campus, and I'm not a hideous shut-in. So I guess I don't fit the stereotype? (Yes, that is me in my avatar, I was the White Mage for Halloween)

 

[Angerwing]

I'm 22, very introverted (not on forums as much), non-existent social life, somewhat neurotic, and i've got a very resigned view about how the future is going to turn out. But... I don't really think that's a "gamer" stereotype and is instead just something that fits my typically reclusive personality. I just happen to play a fair amount of games as well. But, this course is probably not very likely to continue for much longer. I'm ~5 weeks away from finishing college, so you could say the next weeks and months of my life may prove quite decisive. I am fairly optimistic that things will get better in a few years though. We will see.

Just so your not suprised in a few years, life won't get magically better when you leave college. Very introverted types like myself are really not welcomed into the big wide world much... Prepare to be ignored, shat on, silenced and extorted a lot... It'll take you a few years to learn you'll need to put on an extravert business suit on if you wanna get anywhere... So umm, good luck...

I don't think it's because people hate introverted people. That seems like an unfair assumption. It's just that after school and college, you won't be constantly forced into social situations with people, and if you don't make the effort to maintain social interaction, others aren't going to keep it up for you for your whole life.

I'm introverted by the way, I just disagree with your conclusion.

 

[Yureina]

I don't think it's because people hate introverted people. That seems like an unfair assumption. It's just that after school and college, you won't be constantly forced into social situations with people, and if you don't make the effort to maintain social interaction, others aren't going to keep it up for you for your whole life.

I'm introverted by the way, I just disagree with your conclusion.

I didn't agree either. Introversion is not the sole cause behind a person's social situations turning out to be unfavorable or hostile. There must be something else at play that leads to that because I have not dealt with many seriously hostile situations for well over 7 years now (probably better than ALOT of people can say), and the ones I have dealt with have always ended in my favor. People don't try to cause me problems unless they are desperate for trouble, are stupid, or more likely both. I may be introverted on a personal level, but I have never seen that temperment be cause for another person to try to be looking for trouble with me. There is always something else going on that sparks someone else towards trying to be a jerk.

 

[MelziGurl]

My partner and his mates refer to me as a gamer, but yes I'm engaged and our lives are actually quite normal

 

[Kortney]

I'm kind of lonely, but not for "gamer stereotype" reasons.

 

[theamazingbean]

Male. While pussy is fairly easy to come by in this society, I do wish I could find someone to actually love before i grow old and die alone and unloved.

 

[sky14kemea]

Female. You need more Poll options please. Maybe one that says "I'm alone but I don't want to be with anyone right now. I'm happy by myself." ',:/

Seriously, I don't get this new agey thing where everyone needs to have someone \o/ You kids are crazy.

And get off my lawn D:<

 

[Generic_Dave]

I'm 22, very introverted (not on forums as much), non-existent social life, somewhat neurotic, and i've got a very resigned view about how the future is going to turn out. But... I don't really think that's a "gamer" stereotype and is instead just something that fits my typically reclusive personality. I just happen to play a fair amount of games as well. But, this course is probably not very likely to continue for much longer. I'm ~5 weeks away from finishing college, so you could say the next weeks and months of my life may prove quite decisive. I am fairly optimistic that things will get better in a few years though. We will see.

Just so your not suprised in a few years, life won't get magically better when you leave college. Very introverted types like myself are really not welcomed into the big wide world much... Prepare to be ignored, shat on, silenced and extorted a lot... It'll take you a few years to learn you'll need to put on an extravert business suit on if you wanna get anywhere... So umm, good luck...

Well... i'm not going into business, so that probably does not really apply as much. I'm not sure what it is i'll be doing, but I am fairly certain it will not involve the corporate world. I do expect to run into a few obnoxious types, but I'm not too worried about them. There's the doormat introvert type who gets pushed around and exploited by others and there's the types that people avoid making trouble with because when they do try to start problems, they end up recieving far more than they bargained for. I belong to the latter category

Thanks for the concerns, but I really am not too worried about those types. I'm almost looking forward to adding their names to my long list of people who were stupid enough to start trouble and paid dearly for it. Really, I think the challenges of the "everyday" sort, such as building a lasting relationship, are what the real problems will be. :/

Introverted, but kick-ass. You my dear, rock! Cookie for you!

Female. You need more Poll options please. Maybe one that says "I'm alone but I don't want to be with anyone right now. I'm happy by myself." ',:/

Seriously, I don't get this new agey thing where everyone needs to have someone \o/ You kids are crazy.

And get off my lawn D:<

I'm sitting on your lawn waiting for the next pre-new agey chick to come along.

Yeah, something I left out of my copious posts earlier...I'm single and happy...

 

[LiftYourSkinnyFists]

Female. You need more Poll options please. Maybe one that says "I'm alone but I don't want to be with anyone right now. I'm happy by myself." ',:/

Seriously, I don't get this new agey thing where everyone needs to have someone \o/ You kids are crazy.

And get off my lawn D:<

Sounds about right, you summed up what I feel too!

 

[TheFacelessOne]

I'm male, and I blow that shit sterotype out of the water with cruise missiles.

Expect for the virgin and "lives with his parents at age 20-something," mainly because I am underage for both of those.

 

[Blue Musician]

No one loves people with alexithymia (google it please, I will not describe it). And since I'm one of those people, I think I will have a difficult time with finding a girl that will love me. Anyway, I do not fill all those stereotypes, since I'm still an underage, but also I take think calmly...

 

[Yureina]

Introverted, but kick-ass. You my dear, rock! Cookie for you!

Thanks. What flavor is the cookie? Actually, it does not really matter.

No one loves people with alexithymia (google it please, I will not describe it). And since I'm one of those people, I think I will have a difficult time with finding a girl that will love me. Anyway, I do not fill all those stereotypes, since I'm still an underage, but also I take think calmly...

That's... very serious. I hope you can find a way to deal with that in some way. Seriously, I mean that.