Poll: Do you want to get married?
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I do wanna get married, but only to the right person. And I felt like I have now found that person.
My ex-girlfriend was with me for 2 years. She and I had always talked seriously about the day I'd propose to her, and I felt like that's what we wanted. We had a daughter together. She chose to take the child to Germany for five years, and those five years started last week. It wasn't until then that I realized she was manipulating me and playing with my feelings. Hell, she even told me she got pregnant on purpose just to make sure I'd stay with her.
Lesson for the kids: if you don't really feel like the relationship you have is really what you want, tell the person before it's too late.
On the plus side, there's this other girl I REEEEEALLY like. She trusts me with all her secrets, she shares all my interests, she's smart, funny, pretty, and a beautiful voice to boot. One look at her and I see a future.
Another life lesson: Wait for the right damn person.
Okay, off the soap box now.
My ex-girlfriend was with me for 2 years. She and I had always talked seriously about the day I'd propose to her, and I felt like that's what we wanted. We had a daughter together. She chose to take the child to Germany for five years, and those five years started last week. It wasn't until then that I realized she was manipulating me and playing with my feelings. Hell, she even told me she got pregnant on purpose just to make sure I'd stay with her.
Lesson for the kids: if you don't really feel like the relationship you have is really what you want, tell the person before it's too late.
On the plus side, there's this other girl I REEEEEALLY like. She trusts me with all her secrets, she shares all my interests, she's smart, funny, pretty, and a beautiful voice to boot. One look at her and I see a future.
Another life lesson: Wait for the right damn person.
Okay, off the soap box now.
Perhaps. The whole getting married thing would entail me finding someone who I would actually wanna spend my life with in the first place, the likes of which is an event that in it's sheer volume of unlikelihood may cause a natural disaster just for it's occurrence.
Also, I'm 16. I got time yet.
Also, I'm 16. I got time yet.
As my pastor always said: There are 3 rings in marriage. An engagement ring, a wedding ring, and the suffeRING.
I want to get married. But I think I can say that only because I know I will never do anyway. (I have a severe problem finding a human being who is able to hang out with me, let alone being my partner in life).
Still though, I do want to get married. But if I do, I'm never having kids. No little bloodsuckers are going to make my wife fat, and I don't want anyone mooching off of my gaming funds either.
I want to get married. But I think I can say that only because I know I will never do anyway. (I have a severe problem finding a human being who is able to hang out with me, let alone being my partner in life).
Still though, I do want to get married. But if I do, I'm never having kids. No little bloodsuckers are going to make my wife fat, and I don't want anyone mooching off of my gaming funds either.
Honestly, I have never heard of a good reason to get married. There is nothing that people do in marriage that people do outside of it. You can have kids without being married, you can own a home and have joint bank accounts without being married, and there are plenty of companies out there now that let you select a significant other as the beneficiary of your company benefits instead of just a spouse.
Sure there are some slight tax benefits, but I don't see that as a good enough reason to tie yourself to someone forever with the risk that you'll end up spending thousands of dollars on divorce lawyer when if you were just living together one of you could just pack up and leave.
A marriage license is a business contract between two people. How does signing a contract make someone love you more? And if you are the half of that marriage that make more money (typically the man) why do you need to promise your money and property to someone in order for your love to be complete?
I like the idea of having a ceremony in which to people announce in front of their friends and family that you want to spend the rest of your life with someone. Announcing that you have finally decided that you have found the love of your life. That's a great idea, I just don't understand why you also need to go down to city hall and sign a contract saying so.
Why do people have to be married? Why can't two people who love each other just live together, raise a family, and be happy? Why do you need to sign a legal document to be in love?
Sure there are some slight tax benefits, but I don't see that as a good enough reason to tie yourself to someone forever with the risk that you'll end up spending thousands of dollars on divorce lawyer when if you were just living together one of you could just pack up and leave.
A marriage license is a business contract between two people. How does signing a contract make someone love you more? And if you are the half of that marriage that make more money (typically the man) why do you need to promise your money and property to someone in order for your love to be complete?
I like the idea of having a ceremony in which to people announce in front of their friends and family that you want to spend the rest of your life with someone. Announcing that you have finally decided that you have found the love of your life. That's a great idea, I just don't understand why you also need to go down to city hall and sign a contract saying so.
Why do people have to be married? Why can't two people who love each other just live together, raise a family, and be happy? Why do you need to sign a legal document to be in love?
Yes. How can I pass up getting to wear such a pretty dress?
But I view marriage more symbolic and all that. I would not be against a pre-nup though. I might get mad if it was suggested, but I try to never be 100% about ANYTHING, so Id understand.
But I view marriage more symbolic and all that. I would not be against a pre-nup though. I might get mad if it was suggested, but I try to never be 100% about ANYTHING, so Id understand.
I very much want to get married. My boyfriend has made it clear what has to happen before he'll consider it, and I'll wait until those pre-requisites are met ^_^
Good question......I honestly never considered it seriously before.
I don't know.
If I love them enough then sure, but that kind of commitment is kinda scary. Since to me it means confessing your 'true' love for someone, and though I don't mind polygamy or dating multiple people, I would personally be perfectly happy with just one great person.
But then if they betray you.....I dunno....
I don't know.
If I love them enough then sure, but that kind of commitment is kinda scary. Since to me it means confessing your 'true' love for someone, and though I don't mind polygamy or dating multiple people, I would personally be perfectly happy with just one great person.
But then if they betray you.....I dunno....
I am married. The 1st thing that being married changed in my life is that it brought me a strange peace about my future. It calmed that part of my mind that kept wandering if I was ever going to love again or to be truly loved. It also gave me a lot of focus. All the energy I was spending chasing girls, I began devoting to improving my life. It worked.
To all my friend of this list who are not married, I tell this: Marriage starts as a romantic relationship, but it morphs into a very deep friendship/companionship thing. We really became a family. Now, she is my reference of family. Our small apartment is home, even though my folks live in a 1 apartment per floor building, and my bathroom there is almost as big as my whole suite here.
It is not about comfort, or privacy, anymore. Life transformed into a new proposal. I live to make us both happy, and the last thing I want to do is disappoint her.
In short: marriage, although it is not for everyone, can be an enriching experience.
It has its difficulties, but I much rather spend my life with a companion than alone.
And I leave you with a thought: When we are standing tall and everything is going fine in our lives, we tend to think of the idea of getting hitched as a bad move. But we all have our sick days, we all have days of sadness, moments of downs, rather than ups. In those moments, don?t you want to have someone who knows and love you by your side, helping you stand up again and move forward?
To all my friend of this list who are not married, I tell this: Marriage starts as a romantic relationship, but it morphs into a very deep friendship/companionship thing. We really became a family. Now, she is my reference of family. Our small apartment is home, even though my folks live in a 1 apartment per floor building, and my bathroom there is almost as big as my whole suite here.
It is not about comfort, or privacy, anymore. Life transformed into a new proposal. I live to make us both happy, and the last thing I want to do is disappoint her.
In short: marriage, although it is not for everyone, can be an enriching experience.
It has its difficulties, but I much rather spend my life with a companion than alone.
And I leave you with a thought: When we are standing tall and everything is going fine in our lives, we tend to think of the idea of getting hitched as a bad move. But we all have our sick days, we all have days of sadness, moments of downs, rather than ups. In those moments, don?t you want to have someone who knows and love you by your side, helping you stand up again and move forward?
