Sparrow said:
I'm just curious as to how you, the Escapist public, would respond to this. Would you instantly call them out on it? Would you respect their opinion even if you don't agree with it, or alternatively, if you do agree with it? Would you try and change them? And ultimately, would it affect your friendship to the point where you would consider no longer being friends with them?
I'd need more data to answer the question.
The world has an abundant supply of people who talk shit about race. Not all of the really
mean it, which is to say that not all of them actually behave in ways that reflect the nonsense coming out of their mouths; sometimes the nonsense is just learned stuff they picked up from their environment growing up, or stuff they're saying to fit into a certain setting, or stuff they heard somewhere and are repeating without thinking. To talk shit isn't ideal, but that's something you can deal with over time by occasionally asking your friend if they really believe what they just said, asking them why they believe it, showing them some of the contradictions. That's an okay approach.
Someone who's dedicated enough to
act on racist guff, though -- who gets uncomfortable if people of The Offending Race are seated near them in a restaurant, or who treats people shittily specifically because they're from The Offending Race, or who'd have a huge problem with someone of The Offending Race dating a member of their family -- yes, that's a dealbreaker. I'd give it a couple of shots at talking it out, very seriously, but after that I wouldn't associate with them. (And yes, that's a call that I've had to make in a couple of cases.)