No, you're a horrible person! Stay with someone you don't care much for and be miserable like the rest of us dammit!
Poll: Dumped a girl. Help? Please?
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Sorry but not really a lot of information to go on to give an honest opinion.
You did tell your ex that you felt differently about the current relationship so yay for you, you then went and dated someone who you were more physically attracted to which is sorta a dick move so a boo for you. You say you are happier with the new girl which is all that really matters seeing as you can't really be in a healthy relationship if you do not feel happy in the relationship.
You did tell your ex that you felt differently about the current relationship so yay for you, you then went and dated someone who you were more physically attracted to which is sorta a dick move so a boo for you. You say you are happier with the new girl which is all that really matters seeing as you can't really be in a healthy relationship if you do not feel happy in the relationship.
Yes it was acceptable. It's better than A- Stringing her along. B- Having another girl on the side or C- just grinding your teeth and dealing with her.
Also, of course her friends aren't going to like you for it. Their HER friends. That's their job as her friends is to hate you because you broke up with her. If it was the other way around I guarantee they'd be telling her "It was the right thing to do, don't feel bad, you were out of his league anyways" while your friends would be on the "She was a ***** anyways" side.
Also, of course her friends aren't going to like you for it. Their HER friends. That's their job as her friends is to hate you because you broke up with her. If it was the other way around I guarantee they'd be telling her "It was the right thing to do, don't feel bad, you were out of his league anyways" while your friends would be on the "She was a ***** anyways" side.
I simply must try this "asking" thing. It sounds lovely.cookyy2k said:We tried that with my fiancee's best friend... best weekend ever.Liquidacid23 said:the proper course of action would have been to check and see if she was up for a 3some first... you never know unless you ask
Sorry, I accidentally clicked 'No' by mistake. I meant to say what you did was acceptable, and I was answering your last question in your post that you weren't wrong.
Girls always side with their friends, so don't feel like a bad person because of it. Obviously they'll see you as one, but rarely is this the actual case. You would have been unhappy if you'd stayed with her, and it would probably have ended up worse if you ended it much later and confessed to liking someone else for such a long time.
Girls always side with their friends, so don't feel like a bad person because of it. Obviously they'll see you as one, but rarely is this the actual case. You would have been unhappy if you'd stayed with her, and it would probably have ended up worse if you ended it much later and confessed to liking someone else for such a long time.
As far as I'm concerned, it's better to tell the truth than to lie. Did she want you to be unhappy with her? You did the logical choice: tell the complete truth and take the happier option.
You did nothing wrong, we have about as much control over who we are into as we do over the beating of our heart. You made no permanent commitment to this girl, I think it would be more cruel to simply string her along while having feelings for someone else.132635 said:
It's one hell of a gamble, the potential winnings are large indeed but the losses range from awkwardness to perpetual lonelynessEaston Dark said:I simply must try this "asking" thing. It sounds lovely.cookyy2k said:We tried that with my fiancee's best friend... best weekend ever.Liquidacid23 said:the proper course of action would have been to check and see if she was up for a 3some first... you never know unless you ask
I did something similar my sophomore year of high school.
Ended up regretting it a ton, because the new girl kept stringing me along and toying with my emotions, and I ended up doing the same to the old girl. We were all a bunch of immature twats back then.
Still...it'd be wrong to continue dating someone if you have feelings for someone else, and I know how real those feelings can be first-hand. You did the right thing, though I can't speak for your delivery.
As for her friends? Fuck 'em, but recognize that OF COURSE they're going to defend their friend over you, the dumper. That's common sense and says nothing about you as a person.
Ended up regretting it a ton, because the new girl kept stringing me along and toying with my emotions, and I ended up doing the same to the old girl. We were all a bunch of immature twats back then.
Still...it'd be wrong to continue dating someone if you have feelings for someone else, and I know how real those feelings can be first-hand. You did the right thing, though I can't speak for your delivery.
As for her friends? Fuck 'em, but recognize that OF COURSE they're going to defend their friend over you, the dumper. That's common sense and says nothing about you as a person.
It was better that you broke up with the first one without cheating on her. Sometimes relationships just don't work out. And you have been only dating for, what, five months at the most. I think she will get over it.
It's expected no matter how nicely you broke up with her. When she gets over it she'll be glad you told her before anything happened with this new girl. You can't help falling for someone else although I would give yourself a little time before starting a new relationship with her.
It's not your choices, they're always up to you. It's all in how you handled it. From the brief description it sounds acceptable. And if you're young, then it's more than expected.
No need for that until marriage .ThePenguinKnight said:
OT: Pat yourself on the back , you did the right thing . I would have done the wrong thing and made sure i had a new girlfriend to replace the old one ... Just in case .
Also right and wron are completly subjective , do want you want ( as long as you don't break any laws ) as long as you are happy ( or happier).
I think whether it was the right thing depends on how long the period of time was between suspecting things weren't going to work out, and making the decision to end it. I imagine (and hope) that you spent some amount of time waiting to figure out if it wasn't just a passing thing and it was really what you wanted. I say that not only because that makes it more palatable to most other people, but because I've known people who've dumped their girlfriendsin the past and regretted it - it's something you want to think through - but if you don't like what you see in that future, then you've got to do what you've got to do, and I respect you for having the guts to do it. Also hoping you made an effort to be compassionate, because... that's good and all.
Did you do the right thing? Yes
Was it poorly handled? Most likely
Somehow I have stayed friends with both of my exes and their friends, god knows how. My current girlfriend is good friends with both of my exes too. Weird...
It is normal for you to be "hated" by her friends though, all you can really do is suck it up and hope it all blows over soon.
Was it poorly handled? Most likely
Somehow I have stayed friends with both of my exes and their friends, god knows how. My current girlfriend is good friends with both of my exes too. Weird...
It is normal for you to be "hated" by her friends though, all you can really do is suck it up and hope it all blows over soon.