Poll: Female babysitter charged for having sex with 14-year old boy.

[dyre]

lolwut, 14 year old being babysitted? My money's on the parents knew about the ongoing relationship, were okay with it, and only reported it when they found out their kid got drunk

on another note, I don't think my sexual maturity changed that much between 14 and 19. Maybe sexual maturity differs between guys and girls, in which case just "reversing the gender and making the judgment accordingly" might not be an accurate way to do things

 

[Pandabearparade]

Do you honestly think 20 year olds of any sex should be fucking that?

I'll honestly say that this was my fantasy as a 14 year old boy. Is it a sexist double standard? Yes. Absolutely. But I just don't see the reason for jail time, here.

 

[are.you.the.god.its.me.vader]

...but she's hot

She could have anyone! Why choose a spotty faced 14 year old?! Where were all these sex crazed girls when I was a kid?

 

[Rodrigo Girao]

Give up, this kind of thing kills rationality in people's heads. It's the new witch hunt.

 

[bakan]

Come on, does no one read the BIG RED EDIT and just rant about how a boy got raped when it was consensual?

Okay, so abusive relationships don't exist? I'd rather not assume just because it had been going on for a while that everything was good.

And why do you assume everything was bad?

 

[duncants]

I really don't see the problem, kid and girl both probably had a good time (hell, she even bought him booze) This has nothing to do with the gender or the fact that she's hot.

In Holland this is not really illegal any more, I think. A judge set a precedent a while back by not punishing a 20 something year old guy for having sex with a 14 year old.

I mean seriously I would have given my left arm to have sex with a 20 year old when I was 14. Sex is not dangerous and a 14 year old is perfectly capable of making this choice.

 

[RivFader86]

So Person A (An adult) has provided alcohol to Person B (A 14 year old). Person A then proceeded to have sex with Person B.

Now, I don't recall statutory rape being anything less than illegal, and I certainly don't think gender has anything to do with the matter.

Anyway, I look forward to reading about her being let off the hook based purely on her ownership of a vagina. That will just make my day something special.

It's not so much about the gender of the offender but the gender/age of the victim...come on man think back to when you were 14 and what you would have done to get an attractive older girl to sleep with you^^

Not a thing. Now, I know that I am apparently an oddity in this matter (sex is totally icky to me), but that's not the point- it's that, were the genders reversed, even in a completely consensual situation, the guy would go to jail, no questions- even if the girl was 100 percent down with it.

Probably...but i'm not denying that there is a double standard when it comes to sexual assault i'm just saying that people (not you in particular...yours was just the one i chose the quote because it was "near me" at the time ;P) shouldn't look at this case as plain and simple (person A did this to get person B to do that) but find out what really happened and then form an opinion about the degree of the punishment, which wouldn't change that he was a minor obviously but if they really were in a relationship and the boy is just ashamed to have his sex live dragged out into the public you can't really treat here like a pedophile...and as i said before seeing a picture of the boy would help a lot..who knows maybe he looks nineteen and no one would be surprised that she was attracted to him...hell i know 24 year old dudes that look like 14 why not the other way around^^

 

[Instinct Blues]

She shouldn't go to jail for this, but she needs to be put on the sex offender list because what she did was wrong. I don't care how good looking she is it probably will end up scarring that poor kid for life. I mean he probably won't be able to have a normal relationship after this being used by girl.

Wait wait wait... you want a girl that had sex with her boyfriend (accord to all the edits) to be put on the sex offender list. So she is limited to where she can live, where she can go etc for the next 40-70 years of her life...

Insanity.

In America, she isn't even a legal adult in many terms... yet you want her to be prosecuted as one. THAT is the double standard.

She's 20 years old and in America when you're 18 years old you can be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law. If shes going to be manipulating and seducing 14 year old boys I'd say she is a sexual threat to minors. The only thing she can't do in America is legally drink and rent a car I wouldn't quite say thats not a legal adult in many terms. She's over 18 and thus can be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law. If the situation had been a 20 year old man seducing a 14 year old girl there would be cries of outrage asking for a public lynching and castration. But no its a 20 year old women sexually assaulting a 14 year old boy and instead of help this poor kid is getting high fives.

"It's very difficult for a 14-year-old boy to make decisions about sex and the decision shouldn't be imposed on him by someone who is significantly older," Real said. This quote from the article really sums up my point quite eloquently.

Also the age of consent, at least in my state, is 16 years old so she broke the law no matter which way you try to skew it. She can have a 14 year old boyfriend thats perfectly fine, although a tad strange you'd think she'd want someone more her age and not be preying on those much younger, stupider, and more influential.

Thats basically the definition of a sex offender, so yes I think she should be put on the list to keep other potential victims from harm. I really don't think thats going overboard at all. Since if this was a man who had tricked a much younger girl into sexual acts he'd be tossed in jail and people would be wishing they could hear his pained cries as hes raped by his cellmate over and over again. This is a double standard that needs to be stomped out quickly because women are capable of being sex offenders.

TLR- She belongs on the sex offender list because she can be prosecuted as an adult and she committed a sexual crime. Therefore she should be put on the sex offender list its really that simple. This wouldn't even be a discussion if the roles were reversed.

 

[Alumatine]

I really don't see the problem, kid and girl both probably had a good time (hell, she even bought him booze) This has nothing to do with the gender or the fact that she's hot.

In Holland this is not really illegal any more, I think. A judge set a precedent a while back by not punishing a 20 something year old guy for having sex with a 14 year old.

I mean seriously I would have given my left arm to have sex with a 20 year old when I was 14. Sex is not dangerous and a 14 year old is perfectly capable of making this choice.

Ah... I love the dutch. Laws tempered by context and reason.

 

[Piorn]

I can't speak for anyone else, but at age 14, I would have been more than ok with this.

 

[Hagi]

Come on, does no one read the BIG RED EDIT and just rant about how a boy got raped when it was consensual?

It was not consensual.

The boy is 14. He's a minor. He is incapable of giving consent.

This is the law of Connecticut:

The general age of consent in Connecticut is 16. This applies in most normal relationships.

However, if any of the following apply, then the age of consent becomes 18:
Where one person is a guardian, or responsible for the general supervision, of the other. See C.G.S. § 53a-71(a)(4).
Where one person is an athletic coach or an intensive instructor (e.g. piano teacher) outside of a school setting, and the other is being coached or instructed. See C.G.S. § 53a-71(9)(B).
Where one person's professional, legal, occupational or volunteer status gives him/her a role of supervision, power, or authority, over the other's participation in a program or activity, and the older person is at least 20-years-old. See C.G.S. § 53a-71(a)(4).

As a 14-year old he can not give consent. No matter what he says it's not consensual.

She's a criminal. Simple as that. Should she go to jail? Probably not, she's only 20 and did something very very stupid. But she should definitely be given either a heavy fine or long community service.

Sex without consent is never excusable, and this was not in any way or form consensual.

 

[Astoria]

I don't care how attractive she is, you break the law you go to jail. If this was a 20 year old guy and 14 year girl you wouldn't be saying let him off because he's attractive. Whether the kid wanted it or not doesn't matter. A 20 year old should know and follow the law. ***Also, it's kinda sad that she can't get anyone her own age.***

***INSERT CHILDISH ADDITIONAL SENTENCE TO VALID POINT HERE***

That girl could get someone her own age... without trying... maybe she really loves the kid, maybe the kid loves her. I don't know, you don't know, the cops don't know, his mother doesn't know... noone here knows. How can you make close minded final statements based on facts that you've made up in your head?

This entire thread is full of narrow minded opinions and assumptions. This is how hate groups start.

I'm not saying she did the right thing or that he did, but I'm saying that this isn't black and white and noone knows anywhere near enough information to make a valid judgement... only submit opinions and ideas.

And that's what people are doing? What I've posted is just my opinion the same as everyone else.

 

[mizushinzui]

It's quite difficult to say weather it was wrong without knowing everything about it.

Was this in the UK or the US? Was the relationship consensual? (I know you said they were in a relationship but this could still have been forced) There are a lot of deciding facts that we still don't know.

either way technically she broke the law, and weather they should show leniency with this woman is the only real question. Either way she still needs to be punished.


p.s. not all 14 year olds look as young as that, besides should how they look affect things? It's mental state that's the real reason for ages of consent surely.

 

[Suijen]

She should get rehab. We have norms in society, and 18+ cannot do it with anyone 18-. And no funny 17 1/2 business either.

What I don't agree with is calling it rape. If the guy, or girl, knows what sex is then they're making an informed choice.

 

[Darks63]

Even though im guilty of it to this thread truly shows how people have double standards about underage sex.

 

[Jmurray21]

I picked execution for giggle.
Honestly though she should go to jail.

 

[chronicfc]

Was going to go easy on the babysitter but the words "got him drunk" did not sit well with me, if he had came onto her then it's still wrong, but less so. I say extensive rehab.

 

[Rodrigo Girao]

either way technically she broke the law, and weather they should show leniency with this woman is the only real question. Either way she still needs to be punished.

When the law is wrong, it must not be enforced. Everyone should know about jury nullification!