Poll: Forever Alone... Or Friend Zone

[PsionicAtlas]

"its coming close to two years since my last relationship... hell since my last kiss"

"Believe it or not I am pretty good at attracting girls"

Not to be a douche or anything but.. Read aloud those to sentences and tell me why they do not belong in the same context.

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Seriously, grab your bros, go out and just enjoy yourselves. It is the most fun you can do with your weekends.

I know they seem like they shouldnt be in the same paragraph, but Ill try to explain more thoroughly. I could at any time go to a club and hook up with any random girl but I dont really want that right now, that was when I was in grade 9 thinking that making out was a big deal. Im in grade 12 now and all of the girls I have been talking about have only talked to me for a couple weeks (which is good right? most of the people here say dont take too long to ask someone out), before they start something with a guy theyve just met, and say that we should still be friends (and its always the date before I think of asking them out).

I wish I could go out with "my bros" but I only really have one guy bestfriend right now who Ive known my whole life (I used to have a group of "bros" that I hung out with, but someone in the group didnt like me and just started making up rumors that ultimately got me stranded with no one). The rest are just acquaintances that are either always like "Yeaaaah man we should chill" but then that never happens because they are extremely unreliable, or are just total douche bags that I wouldnt want to hang out around anyway. So my weekends usually end up with me just sitting at my computer playing minecraft and periodically checking facebook only to see that the guys who said "Yeaaaah man we should chill" but then said they were busy that night are actually posting pics of the party theyre at or something.

(my best friend has been trying since grade 9 and is still trying, he's 22 now).

From what I gather about your situation, here's the same advice I gave to my best friend.

That doesnt exactly make your advice seem convincing lol

Lastly, you're in high school, there is no rush at all. Be patient and just enjoy yourself and life. If you try to speed ahead you're going to find yourself looking back at a lot of wasted time.

Im in grade 12 now and looking back at all the opportunities that have been crushed, and the things I could have had. I would be enjoying life if I had friends that actually invited me out to places theyre going, or didnt lie about being busy. *read above paragraph about "I wish I could go out with "my bros"..."

Gah this quote is getting excessively long lol, well my best friend doesn't exactly listen to me, and it wasn't until last year that he admitted that I might be right, probably should've clarified that.

For the second part. Why do you think you need a lot of friends? You should be happy that you got one that's a good friend who stuck with you. That's really hard to find, trust me. Personally I got two best friends, and maybe 3 other really good friends. Other than my best friend the others I met after high school.

On a last highly upbeat note, You're almost outta high school! Congrats!!!!!! You're getting through the shitty part of life. And just because you're outta high school doesn't make my point about "you're still young" any less valid. You still have a LOT of time. Don't get caught in the societal kind of set up where it feels like you should be in a relationship at that age. You're coming into the best years of your life and it feels like crap, trust me I know,(I think mostly everyone here understands that). Just enjoy your time and what you have and it'll feel a lot better. Also I'm writing this after just waking up so I might edit this due to lack of clarity, or if you respond Ill also correct myself.

 

[Stasisesque]

Would you want to date someone whose social life consisted of "checking Facebook" and "bitching about people not wanting to hang out with them"? You're (most likely) being overlooked because... in the nicest way possible really honestly not trying to offend... you sound a teensy bit pathetic.

I dont know if youre trolling or being completely serious but it's not helping either way. I only go for girls that I have very few mutual friends with since Ive given up on the girls in my school because I know that they think Im a loser, because of this:

I used to have a group of "bros" that I hung out with, but someone in the group didnt like me and just started making up rumors that ultimately got me stranded with no one.

Which pretty much destroyed my social life, not just with the group, but with everyone else as well... Yeah highschool is like that. So its not really fair of you to blame the fact that I have a pathetic social life now all on me. Also I dont "***** about people not wanting to hang out with me" to people I know, because I know that would just make things worse.

I'm being completely serious. Everyone has problems in their lives, everyone goes through the highschool torment - it's only a choice handful who never experience anything like this in their teenage years, and even they have their own problems.

My point is you sound pathetic, not that you are pathetic. You, in an ideal world, need a more positive outlook on life. Sure, some people won't like you and as a teenager, you never want to be the outsider - so you'll usually pretend to like someone you don't, or worse - turn others against them. This doesn't last beyond highschool in the majority of cases.

You simply can't blame the girls for not wanting you by saying they're not attracted to "nice guys", it's borderline offensive. Men and women are attracted to people they find interesting, have something in common with and so on. Your "nice guy" attitude is a crutch, you're not being a "nice guy", you're being the dependable guy with nothing going for you. Now, I'm certain you have lots going for you, but you can't expect everyone to immediately discover what they are - you've got to get yourself out there and make yourself a catch.

You said yourself girls do fall for you, but you never answered my original question - do you immediately realise you have feelings for them, or do you politely decline? Your problem works both ways, people will fall for those who don't want them - it will happen a lot (especially in school, there's so much choice). This doesn't make the girls some sort of crazed masochists who only want to date bad boys, it makes you not their type. Either change who you are and go after them again, or improve who you are and find someone who actually is attracted to you. Please, please - stop blaming the girls.

 

[Jedoro]

Which one's the "Don't Mind Waiting" option? I've been single for four years now, but I'm sure there's a lovely lady out there for me. I mean hell, I'm 20 years old, not some old man in my mid-life crisis.

 

[Russian_Assassin]

Because FUCK friend zone!

I do have lady friends though, but, naturally, I secretly want to bone them silly. I have not tried to do so yet, so it doesn't count as being in the friend zone. Or does it? I don't know, too lazy to think.