Poll: girl problems

[Legion]

taking the people who have responded with "talk", where and how would you do it? pub or park? try to kiss her at some point or just talk? etc..

That is impossible to say because we don't know you, or what your relationship with this girl is like. There is no "one-size-fits-all" way of telling somebody you like them.

I don't suggest trying to kiss anybody unless you are almost/definitely certain that they'd want you to, and it doesn't seem like she is aware of your feelings for her so that could go horribly wrong.

Perhaps try sitting down with her and telling her? Or when you are out together sometime ask her out on a date or something? Honestly, there is no real way that any of us can say what you "should" do for the reasons I said before, the best we can do is offer a few suggestions.

 

[Jonluw]

Bah, there isn't much to lose by telling her, is there?
Why not just tell her? Of course, that's easier said than done, but I figure that's the best route.

Edit: Why should the decision to tell her how you feel depend on whether she feels the same way about you or not?

 

[Latinidiot]

Like, say, going to uni for a month. If she appears uninterested, nothing lost. If she appears willing, well then, buy everyone on this thread a beer, and we'll celebrate.

love this, particulary the last sentence. lol to you sir.

You just make sure it's cold.

 

[Latinidiot]

taking the people who have responded with "talk", where and how would you do it? pub or park? try to kiss her at some point or just talk? etc..

That is impossible to say because we don't know you, or what your relationship with this girl is like. There is no "one-size-fits-all" way of telling somebody you like them.

I don't suggest trying to kiss anybody unless you are almost/definitely certain that they'd want you to, and it doesn't seem like she is aware of your feelings for her so that could go horribly wrong.

Perhaps try sitting down with her and telling her? Or when you are out together sometime ask her out on a date or something? Honestly, there is no real way that any of us can say what you "should" do for the reasons I said before, the best we can do is offer a few suggestions.

That's it, ask her out on a date. It's a very low risk way to learn if she wats a relationship, and if she might want to start one with you.

 

[MikeOfThunder]

Just go for it! If you geniunely like this girl then just ask her to go get a few drinks with you or something. Don't go out with a group of friends or anyone else, make sure it's just you two.

If she says no then you have your answer otherwise winner.

If you try you might succeed, if you don't try then you will NEVER succeed.

 

[HotFezz8]

Just go for it! If you geniunely like this girl then just ask her to go get a few drinks with you or something. Don't go out with a group of friends or anyone else, make sure it's just you two.

If she says no then you have your answer otherwise winner.

If you try you might succeed, if you don't try then you will NEVER succeed.

thanks man :'-)

 

[Sam Warrior]

Im a second year uni student too, my advice would be ask the girl how she feels but dont get to caught up about it. long distance relationships are hard anyway so youd be better off finding someone at uni.

 

[Dimitriov]

If you've got girl problems I feel bad for you, son.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WwoM5fLITfk

OT: But yeah you should probably tell her how you feel. I have personally learned the long and pointless way that not telling someone how you feel never really leads to anything. Just go for broke.

 

[TheYellowCellPhone]

Get up and get out. Unless you want to stay in the friend zone.

 

[Simon Pettersson]

Tell her how you feel, and if she don´t have any mutual feelings then give it up.
You can still be friend with her and maybe wait for her to like you, but from my own experience it don´t always work out so don´t get your hopes up.

 

[AnkaraTheFallen]

I know this would be hard... but if you really feel something for her you should say something... if you just find her hot then you should just leave it.
I know everyone is different, but personally I'd feel terrible if I didn't tell them. But I understand that you are friends and don't want to lose that as well. Sorry if I haven't really helped you.

 

[tahrey]

Man up, have one last go. If it's a no, drop the issue and go get drunk. You've another year to two years at university left for heaven's sake, that's plenty of time to find someone that isn't a vapid teenager... may have more brain, shared aspirations, mutual interest (both in each other and other things) etc.

Plus, although 18 is just about within your non-creepy-age-gap zone, you'll still have been postgrad for 2-3 years by the time she's doing finals, should she also go to college, and there's a very low chance she'll end up at the same one as you. 5+ years of a very fragmentary relationship... if you think the fire burns strong enough on your side, and might on hers, it could work. Otherwise - forget it.

 

[lettucethesallad]

You should talk to her. If you haven't said anything to her about it, chances are she doesn't get it. Really. Maybe she's not convinced you're into her, and wants to cut her losses too. Point being, if you talk to her you have a shot. If you give up you have none.

 

[Technicolor]

If you've got girl problems I feel bad for you, son.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WwoM5fLITfk

OT: But yeah you should probably tell her how you feel. I have personally learned the long and pointless way that not telling someone how you feel never really leads to anything. Just go for broke.

That was literally the 1st thing I thought when seeing this thread. NOW I CAN'T STOP. yeaaaaaay....

 

[honestdiscussioner]

Try to get her just the two of you. Try some subtle touches that linger just a little too long, for example, give her a hug the first time you see her, and let you hand stay on the shoulder just a moment longer.

 

[googleback]

I've been in exactly the same situation before. It was driving me mad but eventually I told her how I felt. It didn't end well but in retrospect I feel much stronger for doing it. I would have been stuck in some hideous what if scenario forever. Tell her, even if she turns you down you'll feel better in the long run for stepping up.

it's either that or go crazy thinking about what might have been.

 

[VulakAerr]

Where's the option where you tell her what's going through your head and seeing how she responds to that?

Either this time or some time in the future, you'll learn that life is too short to dick around playing emotional games or trying to judge somebody else's feelings. Just ask. If it's not meant to be, you can start the healing process more quickly. If it is, then you'll be happy you mentioned it.

So yeah, go for it. But be straight with her. If she's into playing games, you don't want that anyway.

P.S. I haven't voted. You should add that option. "Do I be open and tell her exactly how I feel?"

 

[Smooth Operator]

Well your grammar is terrible and I can hardly tell what's going on, but obviously you need to talk to her before taking any rash action.

If I understood the situation correctly then she most likely moved on already and talking will yield nothing of value, so after that find someone new and better, lesson to learn is: not everyone fits together.

 

[Aetera]

Judging by what you've written, I'm almost certain that you've been friend-zoned. Us girls typically won't joke so openly about our past sexual history with someone that we're romantically interested in. It seems slutty to do so. Girls only talk like that with friends that they're comfortable with. Unless she's a huge, pushy, shameless slut, in which case, avoid. Either way, sorry dude.

Third option: she's incredibly immature and has no idea what she's doing/the implications of her actions. Did she just turn 18?

I'm sorry if this came out harsher than I meant it to be. It's 7:42 AM here, and I haven't slept, so I'm probably not doing so well with that whole "tact" thing. I meant for this to be nice and helpful. D: