Poll: girl problems

[Mandalore_15]

Don't do it man. Here's a little advice about girls:

If you get little "flashes" like they're interested, but nothing's happening between you, then nothing ever will. They're basically flirting and leading you on because the attention makes them feel good.

I know that sounds pretty jaded and all, but 99.9% of the time it's true. If you keep pursuing her when she isn't coming to you, you'll just end up feeling like a jackass when it all goes to shit. Forget about it, seriously.

 

[Griffolion]

Just tell her truthfully and honestly. It's no use sitting here telling the internet how you feel not getting anything resolved. If you tell her and she says yes then you've got the girl of your dreams. If she says no, despite it feeling crap, you know for sure where you stand and can move on. Even if she does say no, there is absolutely no reason why your friendship can't go on. I'm saying this from personal experience. I've told girls honestly how I feel and they let me down, but we are still good friends, it just couldn't go any further than that.

 

[Tipsy Giant]

The easiest question to ask is that given the situation reversed would you have acted in the same way she did or would you have handled it completely differently?

I think you'll find if she was as keen on you she would not have kissed someone in front of you because she wouldn't want to jeopardise what you think you have with her.

Sorry mate sometimes women just keep blokes dangling for self esteem boosts, they are called bitches, turn and run!

 

[Pyrokinesis]

*snipped*

Its hard but you have to come to terms with the fact she is young, she is most likely naive and still "exploring" as alot of women do, with lots of other men. If your a respectable lad then youd let her go and bounce of every wall she can and find yourself one who is:

A: More reliable and loyal, one who obviously wants you not just any old boy

B: Is done bouncing around boy town and actually wants a relationship

C: You feel more than comfortable around, one who starts out as a good friend is usually the best. If you can spill your feelings in a normal conversation and not even notice the fact you did then thats perfect.

D: Obviously one that you are happy with, dont be afraid to make female friends not every girl has to be mate material.



well good luck

 

[Mr Wednesday]

My friend, at 21, you are far too old to be asking this on the escapist.

 

[Realitycrash]

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taking the people who have responded with "talk", where and how would you do it? pub or park? try to kiss her at some point or just talk? etc..

Don't try to kiss her. Talk with her. Speak with her if/when you meet her IRL somewhere. Read her bodylanguage. If it seems that she isn't in to you, move along. If she does, confront her.

 

[mikespoff]

from what you've written here, she's not into you.

She may be interested in having you as a drinking buddy or someone to call when she needs a lift and is fighting with her boyfriend.

Sorry if that sounds harsh, but that's honestly what I see in the situation that you've described. If you were my friend, this is what I'd tell you to help you avoid a lot of pain and wasted time.

 

[pearcinator]

'Friend-Zoned'

Happens to me all the time...dreaded friend-zone!

Cut your losses and give up is what I voted.

 

[HotFezz8]

If you've got girl problems I feel bad for you, son.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WwoM5fLITfk

OT: But yeah you should probably tell her how you feel. I have personally learned the long and pointless way that not telling someone how you feel never really leads to anything. Just go for broke.

That was literally the 1st thing I thought when seeing this thread. NOW I CAN'T STOP. yeaaaaaay....

this made my entire day :-D i got 99 problems but a ***** ain't one :-D

 

[Murais]

Get her off the pedestal and just ask. Your chance of failure varies if you ask, whereas if you don't, your chance is always 100% failure.

Man up, strap your balls on, and ask her out with some modicum of confidence. The friend zone doesn't mean no, it just means that you're going to need to be tenacious.

 

[tmillerofde]

I feel for ya guy, having feelings for a girl who acts like she barely knows you exist. But the fact is she's only 18 and she likely isn't even sure what she wants herself. She's going to go through a small army of guys until she does find one she wants to be with. If you want to be one of the bodies on the pile then hey more power to ya. My advice is just go back to school and devote your time to your studies so you can get a good job and get some confidence in yourself and then maybe you'll attract a more mature girl who deserves you as much as you deserve her.

My 2 cents...

 

[HotFezz8]

My friend, at 21, you are far too old to be asking this on the escapist.

SLAP - your never too old to ask for help or a extra opinion.

'Friend-Zoned'.

yeah fucking looks like it.

If you like her ACT like you like her and DO something about it. Why haven't you asked her on a date? Why haven't you kissed her? Why haven't you told her you liked her?

I'm guessing this is the first girl you like? After she made the first move, why would you also expect her to make the 2nd move? You are the older male, act like it!

painful (very painful) but true. and no, but my last (and first) gf was long term and she came onto me. so whilst i was good at the relationshipy parts, and i was comfortable moving on her knowing the chances of failiure (and therefore rejection) were zero, this whole phase is new to me.

ill follow the mixed advice ive got, meet her after work, walk her to a pub or something, chat, tell her i like her, gauge her response, and if its either mixed or positive fuck it ill go for it. i don't hold much hope.

 

[pearcinator]

If you are motivated towards making her like you I say back off a bit for a while...let the friendship fall a bit and then jump on her like a horny dog!

Although it doesnt work for me lol

 

[Venereus]

Been there. I'm pretty sure she knows how you feel, so she's just being an indecisive *****.

Kill it with FIRE!

 

[quantumsoul]

Forget her. She probably reconnected with her ex. Girls do this a lot. I know you like her but there's plenty of other girls for you to really like. I think you also took to long to move forward with her. Don't waste some much time texting. You want to date girls not chit chat in text. Other guys will move in if you're slow.

I wish luck with the next girl.

 

[mechanixis]

Tell her, and ride the momentum of the subsequent rejection firmly into moving-on territory.

It's loose ends that make it difficult - do your best to tie them up in one decisive move.

 

[ComicsAreWeird]

Nothing to lose. Just tell hr how you feel. If she´s not into you, you can always get another girl.

 

[matt87_50]

sounds like a job for Scott Pilgrim...