Poll: Girlfriend issues, help me please.

[vento 231]

So, I'm gonna make this short,

Me and my girlfriend have been together for a little over 3 months, and for the last few weeks we have had an issue, arguing a lot. We barely see each other (once a week if we're lucky) and when we are together we get along great. However when we are apart we argue a lot, nothing major, little thing. I think the most serious was because her friend and I didn't get along.Unfortunately these little arguements are daily sometimes we argue multiple times a day.

Since we only get to see each other once in a while (because of her mother) we are arguing about 80% of the time, but the time we are together we almost never have disagreements. I love her, but her crazy mother, who is very mean to me and her, plus her rude friends, and us never seeing each other makes me question if the relationship is worth it. I have options, and can get another girlfriend, I just want to make it work, but I don't know if I even should try. Her past also makes me question us, I would rather not go in to it, but I just over react to it (no drugs or cheating or whoreness or anything like that). I'm a sixteen year old and she's seventeen so we're pretty young. My main question is do you think I should continue the relationship or not, she is very happy with me and us being together, I just am wondering if I should look else where for a "better" love. Not that we don't have a great love, it's just that she is my first actual love, and I don't know if we're missing anything.

Do you think we should stay together or break up? I realize that most of you will say it's up to me and I should just make a decision, but I feel like I want to stay but I don't know if it's worth it in the long run and would really like input from someone outside looking in so to speak. Help please

 

[deletethisone]

...I have options, and can get another girlfriend...

That, sir, made me want to roundhouse kick you in the face. That's pretty low. :<

Anyway. First, when you next see each other, sit down with her and explain your feelings. Don't get defensive about it, just say to her that you feel things aren't too crash hot at the moment between the two of you.

But sounds like you're already planning the break-up speech so...

 

[vento 231]

...I have options, and can get another girlfriend...

That, sir, made me want to roundhouse kick you in the face. That's pretty low. :<

Anyway. First, when you next see each other, sit down with her and explain your feelings. Don't get defensive about it, just say to her that you feel things aren't too crash hot at the moment between the two of you.

But sounds like you're already planning the break-up speech so...

Guess that sounds pretty bad. Just meant that I.. I don't know what I was saying, I just want to know from someone with more experiance if the relationship is fixable or if you think we'llget tired of each other, please disregard that line.

 

[deletethisone]

...I have options, and can get another girlfriend...

That, sir, made me want to roundhouse kick you in the face. That's pretty low. :<

Anyway. First, when you next see each other, sit down with her and explain your feelings. Don't get defensive about it, just say to her that you feel things aren't too crash hot at the moment between the two of you.

But sounds like you're already planning the break-up speech so...

Guess that sounds pretty bad. Just meant that I.. I don't know what I was saying, I just want to know from someone with more experiance if the relationship is fixable or if you think we'll get tired of each other, please disregard that line.

Neh, fair enough. Sorry, it just came off as a little insensitive, but that's just me.

Relationships take effort, and not in making sure you shout the loudest either. If you feel up to it, do the whole sit-down-and-talk thing. Communication - beyond just blindly shouting at each other - is important.

 

[vento 231]

...I have options, and can get another girlfriend...

That, sir, made me want to roundhouse kick you in the face. That's pretty low. :<

Anyway. First, when you next see each other, sit down with her and explain your feelings. Don't get defensive about it, just say to her that you feel things aren't too crash hot at the moment between the two of you.

But sounds like you're already planning the break-up speech so...

Guess that sounds pretty bad. Just meant that I.. I don't know what I was saying, I just want to know from someone with more experiance if the relationship is fixable or if you think we'll get tired of each other, please disregard that line.

Neh, fair enough. Sorry, it just came off as a little insensitive, but that's just me.

Relationships take effort, and not in making sure you shout the loudest either. If you feel up to it, do the whole sit-down-and-talk thing. Communication - beyond just blindly shouting at each other - is important.

Thank you very much, i will tommorrow

 

[Genericjim101]

Talking things through calmly as possible and trying to honestly see it through the other's eyes is the best way to reach a compromise or see where you stand.

 

[Rin Little]

It honestly doesn't sound worth it dude. If you're arguing that much over stupid things then you're definitely not a good match. Especially since you're only three months into the relationship, I'd say leave it behind.

 

[aretelio]

You're sixteen. Don't tie yourself down so young. Trust me, there will be enough fighting and arguing in many, many more relationships to come. Relax, be young.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

Meet up and a have a quiet talk about things. Explain how you feel and you'll be able to sort things out. Just do your best to see things from her point of view. It's much less likely to go well over the phone or whatever, and maybe buy flowers (chocolate, whatever).