Poll: Girlfriends: Are they worth the effort?

[Razvex]

Well like everything in life, there is pro's and con's. I mean, the whole 'One person for you' thing is a bit of a stretch in my, perhaps, not so humble opinion.. But if you find someone you get along with and accepts you (and vice versa for them) and all that other nice jazz, then you won't get the "bad stuff" usually.

So personally, yeah, I'd have to say the companionship thing just pips out the not having anyone thing. But hey, I guess as long as one finds themselves in a place they're happy with, then go nuts I say.

I'm still new here so I'm trying not to step on any toes in my first week

 

[House_Vet]

SirDeadly pretty much just ended the thread.

Seconded, also sex is better (in my experience) if you really care for the person you're with and vice versa.

 

[Contun]

I doubt we would be here if they weren't...

 

[Shockolate]

The OP pretty much sums up my opinion. I wouldn't mind having a girlfriend or sex, I'm not really busting my balls to "get some".

 

[Parallel Streaks]

Dude, give up girls, go gay. It's where it's at. We have an entire ISLAND just for us. How chill is THAT?

(I'd just like to state I used the word chill ironically, please don't flame me).

 

[FightThePower]

Depends on the girl, really.

 

[LooK iTz Jinjo]

So I ask: Is having a girlfriend really worth all the effort, is this sex thing really so much better than Rosie Palms, is the jumping through hoops for a woman, the nagging and annoying talks and everything that rewarding at the end? Or are people exaggerating?

You left out the fact that they always bring you sandwiches and never leave the kitchen, except for the bedroom, never work and don't drive. Honestly if you are going to assume and stereotype at least get it right.

All the nagging, the jumping through hoops, that is one of two things:
1) A controlling ***** - stay away.
2) Marriage - Well you're not ready anyway.

If you manage to actually find a girl who you can relate, loves you etc. you might find yourself in a great and happy situation, failing that, sex is good.

God damn people, get over yourselves.

Having a partner who you love and loves you back just as much in return is pretty much the most awesome thing you'll ever get in life.
My Girlfriend lives in the states, it's been a long two years and we've only met the once but I wouldn't change a thing.

Totally worth the effort.

Two long years of what? I'm sorry and I don't mean to mock, insult you or anything but how exactly is that a romantic relationship? Even if that one time you met, you went like bunnies... My friends brother in a similar position, yet he has NEVER even met his girlfriend, I constantly tell him it is not a relationship. I don't understand how it can be considered such, except by teenagers (young ones, 14) who don't know anything yet anyway.

 

[JMV]

Once you find the right girl, you'll never want her to leave. So yes, it is worth the effort.

Couldn't agree more. It may take a long time to find her or you may never find her, but it sure is worth it. Sure, you can do plenty of things with your life, but sharing it with someone, or even just sharing a small, intimate part of yourself, is one of the best and most satisfying things you can ever hope for. It sure does suck sometimes, don't get me wrong, but some time will go by and suddenly, you'll come to the realization that your life just wouldn't be as good without your girlfriend (or whatever).

The nagging and annoying talks part is just blatantly ignorant. That totally depends on the girl you find and surprisingly enough, you may turn out to be the one who's annoying. Don't trust television to give you advise about women. Seriously, it's just idiotic.

Doing everything for them is something that annoys a lot of men, but honestly, if you love the girl enough, you'll do everything you can to make her happy and that will make you happy too. Yes, you might not be able to constantly indulge in your solitary hobbies, but most of the time they won't be missed. And yes, this will probably make you happier than you ever were. But, maybe, just maybe, there's a slight chance you are better off alone. Some people just aren't able to be in a relationship... but they are missing out on a beautiful thing, trust me.

And the sex part... well, go find out.

 

[DoW Lowen]

Yeah.... sometimes.

What?! That's the only honest answer I can give. It's all circumstantial. And remember it's a two way relationship, the guy can be as worthless as the girl in so many situations.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

It's not that important.
I mean, yeah, there are people that say it is THE MOST WONDERFUL THING EVER. And it is. For them.
Not everyone wants the same thing. I, personally, am completely uninterested in both screwing and the drama that comes with it.
Some people want the drama, but none of the fuckin'. Some people want the fuckin' without the drama. This does not make them wrong or anything. There is no wrong or right when it comes to this. It is all just... things that you want.

If you aren't interested in a relationship, then just go have lots of casual sex.
I mean, you'd disgust me for it, but what do you care what I think? I am just a random anonymous internet prick.

 

[SextusMaximus]

Depends on the woman, I say... Oh! and I believe "gnever getting any" is a euphemism for not having a relationship, not vice versa.

 

[zen5887]

I'm pretty darn happy with my Girlfriend, and she is very worth the effort.

Having said that, if you think that having a girlfriend is all about jumping through hoops just to get some then maybe you shouldn't have a girlfriend..

 

[Shycte]

If it is the right girl, it is worth going though fire and high waters for her.

And yes, sex is just that great.

 

[pjm]

SirDeadly pretty much just ended the thread.

Seconded, also sex is better (in my experience) if you really care for the person you're with and vice versa.

Intimacy, it's what woman are after, and once you figure it out, you'll want it to. It makes sex way better.

 

[Snork Maiden]

Dude, give up girls, go gay. It's where it's at. We have an entire ISLAND just for us. How chill is THAT?

(I'd just like to state I used the word chill ironically, please don't flame me).

I'd totally commend you for using chill. Chill is qual.

 

[Dragon_of_red]

Yeah, i find relationships are worth it, they're a nice change of pace to everything and its good to have someone who you know will make you smile when you see them or talk to them, its quite nice really.

 

[King of the Sandbox]

Bah, if the person you're in a relationship with takes work, you're doin' it wrong.

My girlfriend, now wife, is like my best friend. We basically hang out, play video games, go to movies, touch each other in our swimsuit areas and occasionally playfully argue about her being an otaku and me being a video game fanboy.

So, to answer your question, yeah, it's totally worth it. As long as you don't waste time on people you have to compromise for.

 

[catalyst8]

Thomas, you seem to have a weird idea of what a relationship involves since your post implies that a heterosexual partnership is sex in exchange for 'nagging and annoying talks'. I don't see how you can be quite so ignorant of humans if you're actually a member of the same species & have genuine experience interacting with them.

Certainly you seem to objectify women to the point of misogyny which, I suspect, is where your confusion (assuming your post is genuine) stems from. Have you considered the fact that other people are your equals regardless of their sex?

 

[Red Bomb]

Im a girl and even I think we are not worth half the effort you guys put into us and relationships. But saying that, I hate ANYTHING that is high maintenance, let alone just relationships.

I have a boyfriend but I like my space and wouldnt be too bothered if we split up. We are both adults so I know there will be none of that stupid teenage spitefulness that goes on after.

 

[Estocavio]

I find relationships to be more of a bother....but that is because I'm a loner.

Couldnt have put it better myself.