Poll: Girlfriends: Are they worth the effort?

[stone0042]

Generally speaking, yeah, it's worth it. Just make sure you weed out the crazies first

 

[Pegghead]

Well you don't have to make it your ultimate goal to find a significant other, maybe one day it'll just happen...or maybe you'll be perfectly fine living alone. Personally I relish the thought of having a significant other of the opposite persuasion (I.e a girlfriend) but that's my stance on the whole thing.

 

[AdmanUK]

I love my girlfriend to peices to be honest. She is basically me in girl form though so I don't know what says about my egp =p but seriously there is very little difference between males and females in my experience, it's just people being so sure that there is a difference that creates the illusion of differences. The difference between love and friendship? Meh it's difficult to explain. The Hewbrews probably have it right in that they have three different words for love 1) I love cheese for example 2) I love my best friend 3) I love my wife. So in a round about way of saying it, definatly worth it, but only if it's what you want. So if you want to have someone who'll always be there for you, do anything for you and take care of your more primal urges and genuinely feeling that you would do the all of the above for them, then go for it =)

 

[E_nchanted]

Well relationships are a bother at times, you'll have to cut down the time gaming, hanging out with friends, getting drunk and doing all kinds of things that make life worth living but being able to wake up next to a loved one is defiantly worth it

 

[Call4Duty]

It seems nowadays, that everywhere I go on the internet people seem eager to "advise" me (or the reader) to get a life, to get laid or to find yourself a girl. I am now in my late twenties and never had a romantic relationship (euphemism for never got any) and it's not that I'm terribly upset about it or anything, but I feel sometimes I'm missing out.

One of several reasons I'm alone is, that I could never bother to get my lazy ass out there and talk to a woman. I just don't get it, what is the big deal? In High School I occasionally had a crush on a girl, but even then I would never have thought something like "I would do anything for that girl".

So I ask: Is having a girlfriend really worth all the effort, is this sex thing really so much better than Rosie Palms, is the jumping through hoops for a woman, the nagging and annoying talks and everything that rewarding at the end? Or are people exaggerating?

This post is obviously targeted at male readers, although women are certainly invited to share their insightful opinions about the value of romantic relationships. And yes, this is the right website for this question, being a nerdy gamer and all.

With reference to the bolds:
1) A good relationship is more symbiotic than "I would do anything for her." It's probably more along the lines of "I would do most things for her because she would do most things for me."
2) YES.
3) Nagging and annoying talks don't happen. Unless you have a nagging and annoying girlfriend. Sometimes there will be fights, but if you're fighting about stupid shit she's probably a *****, or YOU'RE a huge dumbass, or I guess she might be PMSing (but NEVER ask if she is)


Disclaimer: All this said, I've only had one girlfriend, and we've not been dating too too long, so take my opinions with a grain of salt.

 

[TheNamlessGuy]

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[BlumiereBleck]

They are. Now quit trying to be a poser.

 

[AVATAR_RAGE]

It seems nowadays, that everywhere I go on the internet people seem eager to "advise" me (or the reader) to get a life, to get laid or to find yourself a girl. I am now in my late twenties and never had a romantic relationship (euphemism for never got any) and it's not that I'm terribly upset about it or anything, but I feel sometimes I'm missing out.

One of several reasons I'm alone is, that I could never bother to get my lazy ass out there and talk to a woman. I just don't get it, what is the big deal? In High School I occasionally had a crush on a girl, but even then I would never have thought something like "I would do anything for that girl".

So I ask: Is having a girlfriend really worth all the effort, is this sex thing really so much better than Rosie Palms, is the jumping through hoops for a woman, the nagging and annoying talks and everything that rewarding at the end? Or are people exaggerating?

This post is obviously targeted at male readers, although women are certainly invited to share their insightful opinions about the value of romantic relationships. And yes, this is the right website for this question, being a nerdy gamer and all.

You will find someone, just don't let her pass you by. I am not gonna lecture you seeing as how you discibed your self sounds allot like me. Though i do think the term "romantic realationship" is thrown about too loosely these days.

 

[Lyri]

Two long years of what? I'm sorry and I don't mean to mock, insult you or anything but how exactly is that a romantic relationship? Even if that one time you met, you went like bunnies... My friends brother in a similar position, yet he has NEVER even met his girlfriend, I constantly tell him it is not a relationship. I don't understand how it can be considered such, except by teenagers (young ones, 14) who don't know anything yet anyway.

No offence taken, I can appreciate your opinion as most people share it.
It doesn't matter if you live close or not if you love someone, and I don't expect you to understand until you're in that position.
It was only 2 months ago we met for the first time, it was worth everything we'd been through.

It may not be what you may consider a relationship but it is what it is. I mean no disrespect of course, but being together is more than just "Being together".

 

[Hafnium]

Totally worth it, as long as you have a girlfriend that's not terribly demanding (they can be found, mine for instance doesn't give a shit about valentines, expensive restaurants and constant gifts). Voted "Dude, mellow out" still, because it's not the end of the world to be alone.

If you're not a ladies man that can just pick up women, use online dating. It's not really considered desperate anymore, and you have a chance to let your personality have an influence it doesn't in normal dating, where looks and social ability is somewhere around 90% of it.

I was once asked out shortly after falling down a flight of stairs.

Don't give people ideas!

 

[Looking For Alaska]

Having someone that you love and that loves you and that you can laugh and share your thoughts and dreams with is one of the best things in the world. Oh, and the whole sex thing is pretty nice too.

This is all my opinion though, if you don't want a girlfriend then you shouldn't have one, you should do what makes you happy.

 

[ParkourMcGhee]

I didn't like my last girlfriend but I have yet to fit into my uni properly.

I'd say girlfriends are good as long as you don't have to put too much effort in, that criteria is down to you. My turning point was not having any time myself, pleasing her 24/7 then getting cheated on with another girl but there you go.

What I'd say is you definitely should put yourself out there on the market for girls to see, and who knows you might find one that suits you as much as you suit them!

 

[Turbulenssi]

Once you find the right one then yes its all worth it.

 

[kawaiiamethist]

You could just sleep around and not concern yourself with the whole relationship business.
But I wouldn't recommend it.

Ease yourself in by chatting to sisters and female friends of your friends. And if that option isn't open to you, chat to some girls online. You may find we're not quite so intimidating.

 

[Daveman]

if it takes effort you shouldn't be doing it. you should just enjoy each others company.

not that I'd know at all. I think the thing is I'd love to have a girlfriend but I just don't know any girls I like that much.

 

[Funkysandwich]

Yes, it is worth the effort. If it's the right girl, it won't be "nagging or annoying" Those are attributes that people I don't like have, why would I want my girlfriend to annoy me? Doesn't sound like a good relationship.

My turning point was not having any time myself, pleasing her 24/7 then getting cheated on with another girl but there you go.

Details?

 

[DancePuppets]

It'll depend entirely on the your own outlook on life really. Just be yourself, have fun and try not to hurt anyone else in the process. If you want to try a relationship then go ahead and try talking to women that you don't know, maybe you'll find someone interesting, maybe you'll just end up having a bit of fun and enjoying that for what it is or maybe nothing will come of it. Just do what you feel, if you don't feel the desire to have a member of the opposite sex (or same sex depending on the person) to love and love back then its not really a problem. I have, in hindsight, mostly enjoyed the relationships I've been in even when they've ended badly and so hope to find someone new eventually (although right now I'm trying to write a thesis so it may not be the best time).

 

[Hafnium]

You could just sleep around and not concern yourself with the whole relationship business.
But I wouldn't recommend it.

Ease yourself in by chatting to sisters and female friends of your friends. And if that option isn't open to you, chat to some girls online. You may find we're not quite so intimidating.

Much research does show that women like "bad boys".
How you would go about sleeping around with a bunch of women, when the problem is getting to women in the first place?
Besides, most one night stands are had by those "bad boys" (or dumbshits, whatever you call them )

And yes, talk to women and get a feel for how to do so without coming across as an idiot, it's usually a completely different approach than talking to male friends. It also helps to have a funny bone, just not if it's a nerdy one, you need extreme luck for that to work.