Poll: Girlfriends: Are they worth the effort?

[Biosophilogical]

Okay, from what I can tell of this thread (I haven't read more than the first page), it sounds like people are saying that the OP should find a girl he can be best friends with and have sex with, because the responses tend to go "If you can relate to her/ Friends can hurt too/ If you get along/ whatever".

Now my interpretation may be a little skewed, what with being sixteen and never having been in love, but unless love = Best Friend + sex, I'm a little lost as to what it is that makes people want it so much.

 

[Dr.Helios]

yes they are, Erin is the best friend I have ever had and I find that you can never be as open with friends as you are with a girlfriend. Just my two cents though.

 

[Davey Woo]

I don't think girls are worth the effort at all. I've given up on them.
But I haven't gone gay.

 

[randomrob]

Relationships are fantastic. What better pursuit is there than the pursuit of a person to be happy with and spend your life with?

 

[JanatUrlich]

Find a girl that's not an annoying ***** and you'll be sorted.

Trust me, there are some out there. I can't fucking stand a lot of girls haha. Too much drama!

 

[DancePuppets]

Much research does show that women like "bad boys".

Us, "nice guys" don't do all that badly, the main thing is confidence, which many self-described "nice guys" don't appear to have that much of but "bad boys" in general do. A "nice guy" with confidence ultimately does better in both short and long-term relationships than "bad boys" because in a short-term thing the fun part is all the better if both parties are giving their all and respectful of each others wishes and desires, and in something more akin to an actual relationship a "nice guy" is generally a better boyfriend as they actually care about their partner and are less likely than an under-confident "nice guy" to get jealous over silly things.

Also, i apologise for the sheer number of finger-quotes throughout that very short paragraph!

 

[odanhammer]

Its like asking , do you like ice cream or would you rather have some yoguart.
Relationships are filled with great and bad times. But usually the great times outweigh the bad ones, to understand why i think its important that everyone has even one good relationship in there life , its that we as humans naturally chose to select a mate at one time or another.

Rosey plams might seem good right now , but eventually you'll want more. Girls might seem silly even in your 20's. Trust someone that was like you at one time. The right girl will come by one day , that one that likes things you do , and rolls with the punches. Don't just go out and pick at random. You shouldn't be treated like crap or just through hoops for a girl.
It should just be natural, it should be you wanting to do things , not feeling like you have to.

 

[Lullabye]

You know, I would be totally for it if finding someone decent wasn't harder than *insert game reference of choice here*. Seriously, I've had 2 girlfriends ever. total. that's it. One I loved to death, she moved away and I hope I see her again one day. One taught me the reality of the world and was a complete *****. So screw it, games are my only love as of now. Not saying good things can;t happen, but seems unlikely for someone like me.

 

[ad4m101]

-snip-
getting cheated on with another girl but there you go.

That not getting cheated on that a opportunity.

OT - just try find a nice girl, then no nagging or anything like that and yes Sex is allot better then "Rosey Palms" thanks for giving me a new phrase tough.

 

[Kortney]

I tried, I really did try, but I just don't think I'm the right person for any sort of relationship. It's not that I don't think girlfriends are worth the effort, it's that I don't think I'd be the right guy for any girl, so I might as well just remove myself from the whole equation so that some lassie doesn't make a mistake with me, as girls have done with me in the past.

Yes kiddies, my genes are so inferior that they're stopping me from breeding.

Eh, I'm happy without a relationship. Leave it to the people who know what they're doing, I say.

Enough of that shit.

I just looked at your profile, you're only young. There is someone out there for all kinds of people, and just because you haven't found someone who you are good for doesn't mean you never will. End of story.

 

[blxtnsq]

I think we're pretty worth the effort. You guys on the other hand...
I kid.

But if you're in the mindset that you need to 'get yourself a girlfriend because everyone else has one or is telling you too' then you aren't ready for a relationship. Just hang in there until someone who really amazes you comes along, otherwise don't bother.

 

[Dodgy]

In your late twenties?! Jezus.

You have some serious issues there man, I think you should talk to a professional about this instead of a poll on the forum of a gaming website. Seriously, you'll be much happier.

 

[Kailvin]

Breaking it down to science here. In the orgasm chemicals are released reguardless of how its caused. So masterbation equals that. After that comes the pleasure. Sex may be more pleasurable however its not something you can do as frequently and also takes no pleasure work. Now taking masterbation into account you can spend the extra time playing video games which if you have fun doing also causes your brain to secrete the chemical that causes pleasure. So on that account id have to call masterbation better. However i admit i am still a virgin, however i highly doubt 20 minutes of sex can equal an hour or more of video game time. However there is one human reaction that makes it worth it. Being that we evolved from chimps, we crave "Social Status" to be the alpha male or female. Based on the society we live in having a girl/boyfriend is an increase to that status. When faced with pure science we see that each side has its advantages and disadvantages. Relationships however require upkeep. There in is the deciding factor if its fun upkeep. IE playing video games, cuddling together through an enjoyable movie. Then i would say its a logical choice for a relationship however if your upkeep is appeasment IE submitting arguments to your signifigant other to keep him/her content. Then no its not worth it. Learn from history if you have to appease someone it wont work. It did not work in the 30's for hitler and sure as heck wont work for your relationship.

I admit i might have never had a girlfriend but I am still able to look at it from a logical standpoint It can or cant be worth it. I don't really care much to go get a girl not for the same reasons as you, more so the fact i do not really care. If you want a girl go get one if your content, then why bother. Charles Darwin's theory of evolution was already killed by our society (The people with the most valuable traits to the advancements of the human race often do not get as much sex) If your asking for advice here because your on the fence it means you want one. Find a decent one who is not a b*tch and your fine. If you have to do things you do not enjoy constantly to upkeep your relationship get a new one. If you have a signifigant other who you get along with great and do not fight with. Great. Your set. And if you just don't care? Well you just fine too. The upped social status is not worth it to you and you dont crave companionship. Thats not a bad thing.

 

[Dodgy]

Well, doesn't matter anyway cos I'm not even going to try!

Lol, that's the spirit!

 

[Lliae]

In regards to the "love= best friends+sex", a good way for the whole thing to develop is to be friends first, then the love and sex bit will happen if it's meant to.

I've often wondered if a lot of relationships have failed because people have fallen in love... with someone they wouldn't be friends with? Two different things after all.

I guess the ideal is to have a friend who's willing to hang out and play games with you, and then happy to make love after. Or before. Depends when Raid starts :3

And TY for the welcome, Hafnium

 

[Kortney]

Enough of that shit.

I just looked at your profile, you're only young. There is someone out there for all kinds of people, and just because you haven't found someone who you are good for doesn't mean you never will. End of story.

Well, doesn't matter anyway cos I'm not even going to try!

Fine! Have fun being lonley then!

ARGHHHHH

 

[xDarc]

So I ask: Is having a girlfriend really worth all the effort, is this sex thing really so much better than Rosie Palms, is the jumping through hoops for a woman, the nagging and annoying talks and everything that rewarding at the end? Or are people exaggerating?

Yes and no. It's fun for a while, but like anything else it will probably just wear on you. The older I get, the more I like just being by myself, or with friends, and not having to deal with the extra stress that I know as women.

On the flip side though, if you've never done any of it, you are missing out. It's fun at times and it's miserable at times. Look at it like doing meth or some other such stupid thing, lol.

You must be rich. No girl chasing and your damn near 30? Good lord if only I'd saved all that money.

 

[Hafnium]

I tried, I really did try, but I just don't think I'm the right person for any sort of relationship. It's not that I don't think girlfriends are worth the effort, it's that I don't think I'd be the right guy for any girl, so I might as well just remove myself from the whole equation so that some lassie doesn't make a mistake with me, as girls have done with me in the past.

Yes kiddies, my genes are so inferior that they're stopping me from breeding.

Eh, I'm happy without a relationship. Leave it to the people who know what they're doing, I say.

Enough of that shit.

I just looked at your profile, you're only young. There is someone out there for all kinds of people, and just because you haven't found someone who you are good for doesn't mean you never will. End of story.

Gotta agree with Kortney here, there is no point to giving up. Not actively looking is fine, but completely throwing away the idea is silly.
In time, you and the people around you will change, and you will meet many new people hopefully. In one or two years, you may think very differently.

Edit: Kudos on the avatar, Pilky-boy is amazing!

Much research does show that women like "bad boys".

Us, "nice guys" don't do all that badly, the main thing is confidence, which many self-described "nice guys" don't appear to have that much of but "bad boys" in general do. A "nice guy" with confidence ultimately does better in both short and long-term relationships than "bad boys" because in a short-term thing the fun part is all the better if both parties are giving their all and respectful of each others wishes and desires, and in something more akin to an actual relationship a "nice guy" is generally a better boyfriend as they actually care about their partner and are less likely than an under-confident "nice guy" to get jealous over silly things.

Also, i apologise for the sheer number of finger-quotes throughout that very short paragraph!

You're right on, confidence is the all-important factor. And yes, especially long term is a different story, but when a lot of guys never get to the short term, the long term doesn't happen either.
"bad boys" do mostly have short term succes, but I still think there is a profound difference in the "romantic succes", if you will, of the two types of guys, which I have (for easier discussion) seperated completely, I know there is much overlap.

There is not much discussion that nice guys are better partners, but people don't always choose the "right" answer, sexual interest is much more primal.