Poll: How do you run your Sex Life?

[Vern5]

Let's try out this scenario. You go out to a party (friend's house/club/bar) and meet somebody. You hit it off and head back to their place/your place for a bit of fun. So, now that you've both been properly sexed, how do you proceed from that point?

Let me explain each of the options briefly:

1) Hit it and Quit it. You immediately leave, even if you are still a little moist. There's no reason to stick around for any possible awkwardness or you're just not interested in that person. You don't look back.

2) Stick around for Breakfast. You at least cuddle for the night and have some coffee and eggs in the morning before leaving. You don't look back.

3) "Want to hook up again?" You stick around long enough to get a phone number and try to schedule a "rematch".

4) Sex stays in relationships. You actually do not have sex with this person. However, you do ask for a phone number so you can try to build something meaningful out a chance encounter. On date three(?) you rock their world.

5) V-Card still intact. Frightened by just how well the night was going, you wimp out, make your excuses and leave. It was too good to be true. Regrets are optional here.

So think hard now. How would you naturally and honestly react to this situation?

I recommend that you draw upon the memory of a similar real life experience for your most honest answer.

 

[manythings]

I don't go home with anyone. Why is it only "wimp out"? Is the only grown up option to just fuck, in your opinion?

OT: I hate the pub/club/bar scene, it's impossible to get to know a person in a loud, dark pit filled with people shoving past you whie you have to scream at them just to have a vacuous five minute conversation that takes about an hour.

 

[Queen Michael]

I've never had sex with someone before I got to know them well. Of course, that's because the one person who expressed any interest in having sex with me is my girfriend. But what would I have done? I think that I would have gone with the "Wanna hook up again later?" option.

 

[Jonluw]

In the event that I've already gone back to their place, I might get rid of my V-card, but it's not all that likely that I'm gonna get to their place in the first place.
Forever alone and all that.

 

[AgentNein]

Don't think I saw my option on there, but I tend to play it by ear. Fool around, whatever, enjoy each other's company sexually or conversation or whatever, if it goes somewhere it does if it doesn't it doesn't. A lot of the time, someone I fool around with isn't someone I necessarily want a relationship with. Just you know, enjoying each other's company.

So I guess I'd go with numero dos more often than not, stick around, hang out, shoot the shit, mess around, maybe get food, maybe get together again in the future but I don't really plan that junk out. I've been with a girl before, and next time I see her I meet her new boyfriend, and hey that's totally cool! As long as you know, he doesn't feel the need to beat me up or stuff, which is why I don't bring up any unnecessary information unless it can be helped.

Side note, I have had some scary looking guys want to beat on me for those reasons. Never did them wrong, I'd never be with someone who was apparently commited to someone else. Yet I've had guys wish death on me. I just don't get it. Territorial macho bullshit. Just because I've been with someone before doesn't mean I'll ruin their relationship in the future to be with them again, that's an asshole move.

 

[AnkaraTheFallen]

Actually met my current girlfriend at a friends party... after some drinks and talking for a bit we headed back to her place, and now we're happily in a relationship ^.^

 

[Icaruss]

Solo

 

[Dags90]

Well, presumably if I had already hooked up I went with the "stick around for breakfast" option. I don't really consider a nice hookup to be shameful, and you can have sex again before breakfast. Quite enjoyable. If the sex wasn't good though, I'd probably GTFO.

That said, I'd probably go with the "wait until a later date". I'm not a prude but I'd prefer not to hookup 'cause I don't think it's a great way to start a relationship.

 

[Dr. wonderful]

"How do you run your Sex life?"


On Pc, But I play it on the PS3 when I feeling lonely.


Oh...Oh this isn't about homemade games?

Ark~ward.

 

[Ham_authority95]

So far, I've only sex during relationships, but that doesn't mean than I'm not willing to try it outside of one.

I predict that many of my future sexual encounters after highschool will be a one night deal without an intact relationship. Boy will that be fun...

 

[Mister Benoit]

I'd like to say hold off for something solid.

But past experience says otherwise, I have trouble running away from it once I've reached their place or they've reached mine.

Regardless I'll never make the first move, It's all on them.

 

[Krantos]

Serial and devoted monogamist. Never seen the allure of casual sex. I know it's not in "vogue" to be sexually exclusive, but take it from me (same partner for 7 year now) monogamous sex has some major perks.

 

[AgentNein]

Well, presumably if I had already hooked up I went with the "stick around for breakfast" option. I don't really consider a nice hookup to be shameful, and you can have sex again before breakfast.

I'm glad others can see it that way. Hooking up with someone and having mutual fun isn't a bad or shameful thing. No one is suddenly a slut or should feel bad. As long as people are safe and responsible and no one's fooling anybody else on the nature of what they're doing I see about as much wrong with having sex as I do making out, and we can include the entire spectrum in between those two things as well.

 

[Nate Corran]

Uh... V-Card still in tact but hell be damned if it's cause I can't get any. Still haven't found a girl worth giving it up to. Tho i will admit i am a relationship person, so either of the last two.

 

[Smooth Operator]

When active I prefer it to be in a relationship but that doesn't always happen, for the most part tho it's single player mode(alot less fuss that way).

 

[AgentNein]

Serial and devoted monogamist. Never seen the allure of casual sex. I know it's not in "vogue" to be sexually exclusive, but take it from me (same partner for 7 year now) monogamous sex has some major perks.

As much as I am not a monogamist at the moment (nor do I feel the need to be), I totally know where you're coming from. Nothing quite like the sex life of two people who've gotten to know the ins and outs of each other over a long period of time. The comfort there alone is tempting.

 

[steeple]

the same way I run the marathon... I dont...

never had the chance, but Im still young, so who knows/gives a fuck, right?

 

[ramboondiea]

some where between one and two usually. however, if iv notice something disconcerting, chances are im leaving straight away

 

[Blayze2k]

Somewhere in between "Want to hook up again later?"
And
"Sex stays in relationships."

Basically, I'm okay with monogamy, but I don't consider it an ideal in and of itself.
I like to at least have the maturity within a relationship to talk about the possibility of sex with other people,
And it's important to me that my feelings be the important factor for my partner, just as *their* feelings are the important factor for me.
If we can't come to an agreement involving an open relationship, then the relationship can stay monogamous.

And I am open to the sorts of relationships that aren't intended to be "serious."
Although, realistically, I expect that any relationship requires maturity and nothing *I* want is really "no-strings-attached."
Again, I want any sexual partners I have to consider my feelings important, and I consider their feelings important. If we decide beforehand that we aren't going to end up together, that's fine. We can still be friends, love each other, and enjoy sex together.

 

[FamoFunk]

1 or 2, depends on the situation, if it really is just sex then 1, I'm/they're off.

If it's more planned to stay the night for lots of ex, then 2. Two is always good.

Actually, 3 could come in to it, too, either by getting a fuck buddy or even a friendship (which has happened to me a good few times)