Poll: How do you see people that sleep around? (Updated)

[DustyDrB]

I'm fine with people who live that lifestyle, but I'm averse to having a partner like that.

 

[Aetera]

What Palademon said. Why are all the options negative? Biased poll is biased.

They're just people that have learned to embrace sexuality and pleasure without being embarassed by it.

This. I don't see why there should be an obligatory negative attached to people that are comfortable with their bodies and their sexuality.

 

[SergeantAnt]

i said they're just sluts. but this doesnt mean i care that they're sluts. i have plenty of friends like that, and i really dont care if they are. but im not gonna lie and say they're not lol. they usually don't care when i make fun of them for it.

 

[game-lover]

Heh... All right, I concede.

I suppose I was mostly thinking about my reply but as you pointed out, my error was assuming that your reply was including everyone.

But since it's only for a certain few that can be and are just as obnoxious, it's hardly an issue. So carry on!

Your humility is both refreshing and humbling at once. I wish you much sex, good sir.

Lady, you mean...

And... thank you, I suppose.

 

[Dys]

Spoiler: wall

Here's my opinion on this and many other things:

Other people's business is their business.

Not really anything original to say after somebody else takes the only reasonable response...So I quote ftw.

Your arrogance is borderline incredible when all you've basically said is "I don't like your arguments therefore they are invalid." I love how you basically vetoed responding to anything I specifically said. Classy.

You actually ignored his qualifiers. He hasn't changed his argument, you're points are just outside of what he'd said. More so, he acknowledged some people are not responsible and further clarified that he meant only those he deemed 'responsible'.

If a person is SAFE, COURTEOUS and RESPONSIBLE then go ahead and be promiscuous.

I'd agree if it wasn't for the existing risk of pregnancy or STD transmission REGARDLESS of how safe someone is, which is exactly what I said.

Last year 34.2% of single parents were women who were never married to the father of the child (or fathers of the children). A good amount of those (unfortunately no stats on that) will be from "sleeping around", in my experience anyway. Perhaps the US is different.
http://singleparents.about.com/od/legalissues/p/portrait.htm

Every country is different, culture, legaility/cost of abortion and contraception and even the economy are all massive factors.

Also, the risks are fucking minuscule. A responsible woman who sleeps around will be on the pill, which if she's taking it correctly has a failure rate of 0.3%. A responsible man who sleeps around will insist on using condoms, which have a failure rate (if used properly) of around 2%[footnote]both estimates ate failure rate are based on 'the pill' and 'condom' wikipedia articles.[/footnote]. This means that, any two sensible people who have regular, random sex will have something in the region of a 0.006% chance of getting pregnant (I believe that's 6 people in 1 million). Of course, this number can be further reduced by the use of other less common contraceptives.

Don't take this as a dig at you, but don't make general arguments, particularly on an international forum, based on your own opinions. It makes you look very stupid when you claim something based on your own experience and have the exact opposite claimed in a source you provide. Only about 35% of single custodial parents have never been married (this is according to your own source), and it would be absurd to assume that the entire statistic (or even a large portion of that statistic) is made up of mothers who are not or where not (at the time of conception) in a relationship.

As for the STDs, assuming we're talking about responsible people then it's a non issue. A responsible person would be unlikely to contract an STD due to the use of condoms, however in the event that they did get infected with something, they would no doubt do the sensible thing and see a doctor and stop having casual sex with strangers. So, the only way a responsible person could infect another responsible person with an STD is if they didn't know they were infected, which seems like a fairly unlikely turn of events. Sure, it's possible, but given the already relatively low rates of sexually transmitted disease (which I can only assume is common to the entire western world). I just can't see it being a huge problem, especially with the deafening silence from the media (if it was even a remote problem with society the media would be crapping on about the dangers of sex rather than the dangers of binge drinking).

Secondly, We are not talking about the amount of sex a person has, we're talking about the amount of sexual partners a person has. Your failure rates examples are a MOOT/INVALID/IRRELEVANT because it addresses a different issue. If I have sex with 1 person 100 times and 3 of those times it fails, I have gotten someone pregnant the exact same amount of times that I would of if i'd had sex with 100 women 1 time with 3 failures.

That's exactly my point, if you sleep with one person you can't get them pregnant multiple times can you? If you sleep with 100 people you will (statistically) get 3 different people pregnant and/or cause the transmission of STDs.

As demonstrated above, your numbers are way higher than they should be. You would in fact have to have sex over 160,000 to have an expected number of pregnancies of over 1[footnote]Again, this is based on the wikipedia statistics, it may vary by a few thousand off.[/footnote].

Stop equating promiscuity to irresponsibility and immaturity

I'll gladly do this when the promiscuous stop being irresponsible and immature.

Why would I say "look it up" and call it a fallacy if I was referencing the fact you're scottish? Google is your friend.

Someone's taking the internet too seriously.

In what sense to promiscuous people behave irresponsibly or immaturely? I've never heard or seen anything to suggest that people who have sex outside of a long term relationship are any less responsible or mature than those who do it within and, unsurprisingly, sex is a huge part of most adults lives. In fact I've read, more than once that bad sex is the reason for most marriages breaking up. I'm not sure how obvious it is to the primarily younger demographics on internet forums, but love doesn't work like it does in a disney film.

How about having kids they cant pay for? Hell I am related to someone who has sex with everyone and "to hell with the consequences." He pays child support to 7 mothers who mothered his kids. He is basically homeless. Hell, look at all the damn trash TV shows showing the exact same thing.

How is someone who blatantly disregards common decency related to anything I've said?

I'm not really sure what I'm meant to answer with...Yeah this relative of yours sounds like a real dick, I agree. Just because some guy is a dick doesn't mean that you should judge completely different people, who are behaving in a completely different way with equal contempt. That would be like hating all people who have children because a small percentage of parents are abusive, it just doesn't make any sense to me.

 

[NoNameMcgee]

Its fine and theres nothing wrong with it. Let people do whatever they want with their lives. Your poll is biased.

 

[Canid117]

meh



that is how I feel

 

[SinisterGehe]

In my opinion they are pathetic flesh driven animals. A sad thing person my opinion, hes/she is compensating for something.

But that is my personal opinion, lust for sex isn't my cup of tea - I would rather have a cup of tea, and a philosophical problem.

 

[Redworld13]

Well considering im one of those people, ill throw my opinion in. For me its cause we dont no any better and/or had a good relationship finish badly. I know for some its just cause they can and they think it proves something. Aslong as kids arent coming out of these "couplings", i dont think there is much of a problem.
But thats just my opinion

 

[similar.squirrel]

They are lucky.

 

[default]

What the fuck???

Negative and unbalanced poll is negative and unbalanced??

As a self-proclaimed semi-sleep-around I can tell you right now I do it only for fun and enjoyment for both parties. What the fuck is wrong in making someone feel amazing and sharing this wonderful part of life with them? As a personal question, why are you so biased? Do your views of sex look down on this ideal?

And PLEASE for the love of god review and edit your poll.

 

[superbatranger]

They are neither good nor bad in my opinion. It's their body, it's their choice. Who am I to pass judgement?

 

[KindlySpastic]

Instinctively it affects my view of them negatively but on an intellectual level I recognise that it is their own choice and that they are no better or worse than less promiscuous people. That said, I hope they get tested for STDs regularly. You never know, right?

 

[Shuswah_Noir]

Other

I don't always consider them sluts, but I do often look down on them as people.

 

[Tddawg25]

I see em as sluts, but i don't really care if they do or not i mean it's they're life

 

[Rockchimp69]

Damn ninja'd about the poll being so limited. Here's my view:

It's their body they can do what they want and it's nobody else's business. I'm suprised the idea of a slut even exists anymore, it's ridiculous. If sex is natural and feels good, then why should we not try and do it when we want? Sexual prudery pisses me off.

No offence intended to people who just generally don't like sex of course. That's different.

 

[Rockchimp69]

In my opinion they are pathetic flesh driven animals. A sad thing person my opinion, hes/she is compensating for something.

But that is my personal opinion, lust for sex isn't my cup of tea - I would rather have a cup of tea, and a philosophical problem.

What's wrong with enjoying something?
What life comes down to in the end is how much fun/pleasure you have. Whether you get that from sex or philosophy is not relevant. There is no "higher" way of living your life.

 

[Ajna]

How about having kids they cant pay for? Hell I am related to someone who has sex with everyone and "to hell with the consequences." He pays child support to 7 mothers who mothered his kids. He is basically homeless. Hell, look at all the damn trash TV shows showing the exact same thing.

Jumping into a conversation I wasn't part of:

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Seriously though, don't use anecdotal evidence in an argument.

Technically it isn't anecdotal, there were statistics on it. 1 in 5 women have children from multiple fathers. The reason? They didn't say. However, they did state it was possible (among race, class, and income).

Also, I was answering his question with a statement of a situation with examples, not a statement with evidence behind it saying "that's how they all act." There is a big difference between arguing and pointing something out that "its possible."

The part I quoted? Anecdotal.