Poll: How do you see virgins?
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This poll is just plain silly, virgins are people, not some strange subhuman subsection. You shouldn't let thoughts of sex rule your life, it's just sex, not the end of the world.
When I think of virgins I usually think of someone who is simply too young to have had sex. Of course, they're not the only virgins, but not having sex for various reasons like religion is odd to me.
The same way that I view anybody else. Why sticking one body part into somebody else's body part is such a big freaking deal never ceases to amaze me. It doesn't take away your innocence, or even make you any more mature in any way. It simply means that you've been given permission to share each other's orifices for a brief period of time.
I see virgins as......... people. They just haven't had sex. They may one day, or they may never.
What about people who have never run a marathon?
... or owned their own business?
... or received an award of some sort?
... or completed a university doctorate?
It's seen as no big deal if you haven't done any of the above, yet having sex is somehow so important, and a much lesser achievement in life, it must be said.
I tip my hat to those virgins in this forum who are comfortable with their lot. Showing great maturity.
What about people who have never run a marathon?
... or owned their own business?
... or received an award of some sort?
... or completed a university doctorate?
It's seen as no big deal if you haven't done any of the above, yet having sex is somehow so important, and a much lesser achievement in life, it must be said.
I tip my hat to those virgins in this forum who are comfortable with their lot. Showing great maturity.
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Depends upon age and circumstances. I don't see any problem if you're under 25, have a medical condition or abstain for religious reasons. I would feel a bit sorry for someone though if they late 20's or older and wanted sex but never had had any...
My argument is pretty much summed up here:
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/politics/magical_cups_bloody_brides_virginity_in_context
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/politics/magical_cups_bloody_brides_virginity_in_context
Just because society is oversexualized doesn't mean i have to be.
Who cares if someone did or didn't have sex yet.
It might be shocking to some people that posted here(seeing some of the replies) but not everyone out there sees sex as the best thing in the universe.
Who cares if someone did or didn't have sex yet.
It might be shocking to some people that posted here(seeing some of the replies) but not everyone out there sees sex as the best thing in the universe.
I don't view virgins as being any different from any one else, it's not a big deal.
My only problem is when they don't realise it's not a big deal.
Like those who complain constantly that they are one or those who are too proud of it and feel the need to mention it every ten seconds, even when it's not at all relevant.
You haven't had sex? That's great, I really needed to know that.
People who have had sex and do the same thing are equally irritating.
When it's relevant, that's fine but when it's mentioned for no reason I don't understand what people are trying to prove.
My only problem is when they don't realise it's not a big deal.
Like those who complain constantly that they are one or those who are too proud of it and feel the need to mention it every ten seconds, even when it's not at all relevant.
You haven't had sex? That's great, I really needed to know that.
People who have had sex and do the same thing are equally irritating.
When it's relevant, that's fine but when it's mentioned for no reason I don't understand what people are trying to prove.
I'm not but I have a few friends who are. Whether that affects how I feel about them depends on what kind of virgin they are.
There are two major kinds I've encountered. The first are the laid back, "I haven't had sex yet but meh" types, I can respect that and it doesn't affect my opinion about them one bit. Some people choose not to have sex, others just haven't met the right person or had the opportunity come up. Fair enough.
The second are the self-entitled, "Why won't anybody love me?!" kind. They want sex, not a relationship but just sex, with anyone, anywhere, just so they can say they have. They might even be mildly attractive, heck I've seen worse get laid. But their attitude and constant passive aggressive demand for attention drives people away and makes them socially inept. What bugs me the most however is their sense of entitlement. They always blame others for their situation, it's never them. And they think that just acting nice around women should result in sex, they treat them like objectives instead of human beings and call them greedy or selfish when it doesn't work. There's no reasoning with them, I've tried both the touchy feely don't-hurt-their-feelings approach, and the tough love hit-them-with-reality one too. It all just bounces right off of them, it's like talking to a brick wall. They refuse to change, they sit there and expect the world to change for them.
The ironic thing is that the people in the first category always end up having sex, and often getting into awesome relationships. But I know people from the second category in their mid-thirties who still haven't been laid, and instead of wising up they just whine even more, until they've alienated and worn out the pity of every person who tried to help them.
There are two major kinds I've encountered. The first are the laid back, "I haven't had sex yet but meh" types, I can respect that and it doesn't affect my opinion about them one bit. Some people choose not to have sex, others just haven't met the right person or had the opportunity come up. Fair enough.
The second are the self-entitled, "Why won't anybody love me?!" kind. They want sex, not a relationship but just sex, with anyone, anywhere, just so they can say they have. They might even be mildly attractive, heck I've seen worse get laid. But their attitude and constant passive aggressive demand for attention drives people away and makes them socially inept. What bugs me the most however is their sense of entitlement. They always blame others for their situation, it's never them. And they think that just acting nice around women should result in sex, they treat them like objectives instead of human beings and call them greedy or selfish when it doesn't work. There's no reasoning with them, I've tried both the touchy feely don't-hurt-their-feelings approach, and the tough love hit-them-with-reality one too. It all just bounces right off of them, it's like talking to a brick wall. They refuse to change, they sit there and expect the world to change for them.
The ironic thing is that the people in the first category always end up having sex, and often getting into awesome relationships. But I know people from the second category in their mid-thirties who still haven't been laid, and instead of wising up they just whine even more, until they've alienated and worn out the pity of every person who tried to help them.
It's idiotic things like this topic that force so many people to have sex at such a young age. Now whether or not your first time is really that important I would have no idea as I am still a virgin myself, but making people feel like crap just because they haven't partaken in the meaningless act of sex is pathetic.
If you judge someone negatively purely because they are a virgin, then you deserve to be stabbed in the face.
If you judge someone negatively purely because they are a virgin, then you deserve to be stabbed in the face.
I don't have a negative view of them, seeing as I am one. Just not really high on my list of priorities, really. Though one of my party members was very surprised to learn I was a virgin. As he put it: "I'd figured you'd have a silver tongue at least once."
There is the third kind that pisses me off the most. It's the kind that thinks been a virgin makes them better than everyone else.That Hyena Bloke said: