Poll: How do you see virgins?

[Monkfish Acc.]

I don't care.
As long as they're not constantly going on about it, they're just fucking people. What they have or have not done is none of my concern.

 

[Mimssy]

I kinda find it sweet when a guy is a virgin. I've been with 2 guys who were. I don't find it pathetic and I don't find them innocent, but there is something intriguing for lack of a better word.

 

[Azrael the Cat]

Depends entirely on how old they are. Obviously (if I wasn't married) I wouldn't be interested in a relationship with someone who was a virgin because at 32 I've got no interest in being with someone who is still learning how to have a relationship (and they'd probably be far too young). I'd would have said the same from about 20 onwards - nothing wrong with the virginity part per se, but it's just that having a good relationship is something you learn through experience and you don't really want to have to be with someone who is still doing that.

Similarly, I'd advise someone who hasn't had much in the way of ongoing relationships not to go out with someone who is or has been married or in several long-term relationships, because 3-6 months down the track you're going to want very different things. You'll be swept off your feet, not realising that things are going to change in a few months time, and not being able to balance the relationship with the rest of your life - usually the younger/less-experienced person ends up losing all their friends or dropping their career, when they really should be seeing someone the same age with the same kind of experience, and learning how to balance that stuff.

 

[SpaceCop]

Why, I just cruise on over to 4chan and there they are...

--Wait, nono, sorry, sorry, sorry, shouldn't make fun.

Seriously, sex is, like pretty much everything else, something everyone sees and values differently--and values differently at different points of their lives--and something people should approach in whatever way is most comfortable for them.

It also has the biggest hype-to-payoff ratio since Daikatana. It can be nice--really really nice, especially if it's with someone you feel strongly about, but it's not the be-all and end-all of anything (uh, okay, except for the continuation of most multicellular life as we know it, I guess), but it's nothing to be too distraught over if you feel you're taking your time to get to it. Don't worry, it'll happen.

And if you're, err, "saving yourself" until you find "the right one", totally cool. But life can have a tough time living up to such a romantic notion. When I was an adolescent I made too big a deal of the whole thing; I was desperate to wait until I'd discovered the love of my life. In the end I had sex for the first time with someone I liked well enough, though we didn't have that cosmic connection I'd hoped for. But ultimately it was a good experience; it removed a ton of the pressures and neuroses surrounding all aspects of love, and it let me get on with both sex and life in general.

 

[Nopraptor]

was one until not too long ago (month?) now have sex regularly (yea!!!!) I really didnt know what I was missing glad I found someone to do "it" with.

more to the point I think everyone will eventually find someone to do it with

 

[Brandon Lum]

It really depends. It's actually quite subjective. A friend of mine isn't, and being a mental imagery person, my mind goes nuts, coincidentally - Nevermind.

I also have friends who are virgins, and some care, and some don't. I've noticed those who do fall into the milestone category more often than not. Those who aren't just don't give a shit.

Me? Well, being seventeen and a virgin, I'm disappointed in myself. Not just because I haven't gotten laid, but because it makes me feel worthless. As in nobody wants to have sex with me because I'm pathetic, lame, (insert something angst in here).

I think that's the problem with virginity for both genders, is that being a virgin sort of a has a non-spoken implication that nobody wants you.

For the people who feel that way about themselves, well, I feel for you.

How do I view them? People. I'd have to know more about them before I start making judgements. It can screw with your head though, I'll say that much.

 

[Cavan]

If this thread has gone into the realms of "OP is stupid/generalising/insecure to ask this question and lets give advice instead" i'd say that you should not be drunk and try it while you're still not 100% comfortable with sex. I know all the arguments of "i'm just having fun" or "I feel less self conscious".

Long story short is you'll end up feeling like you havn't actually gained or learned anything, all those things that feel like worry/pressure will remain and you'll probably feel like you have to be attached to that person even if you only have a very shallow relationship, and likely the act itself meant far more to you than it did to the other person who was also 'just having fun'. Unless of course you're both new to the idea in which case "that girl I hooked up with at the party" sounds like the perfect relationship to me too...

 

[Cavan]

Me? Well, being seventeen and a virgin, I'm disappointed in myself. Not just because I haven't gotten laid, but because it makes me feel worthless. As in nobody wants to have sex with me because I'm pathetic, lame, (insert something angst in here).

Don't rush things, 17 in my opinion is far too young to be expecting these kindsa things of yourself and the people around you.

As of lastnight i'm now 20 xd and i'm amazed at how much more emotionally mature I feel compared to then.

 

[jackpipsam]

does it matter?

 

[Brandon Lum]

Yeah, I get that a lot. I figure I should start listening.

 

[AVATAR_RAGE]

Does not bother me tbh, why should I care if someone is a virgin or not? Got a lot of respect for people who choose to be though.

 

[Mr Wednesday]

How do I see Virgins...

I go to Comicon, that's how

A ha ha ha.

 

[Lunar Shadow]

See as a normal person. That said I do give me brother shit about it, but that's more light hearted and more of a come back when he makes a smart ass remark about the sheer amount of sex I have.( not really that much, but it's all done in the span of the three days I can actually see my gf) About the only thing that changed in losing my virginty is I can't make jokes about having it (lost it 6 months ago) and keep forgetting that.

 

[Corialos]

I would judge them as I would anybody else; by whether or not they're friendly or if they're a total dick (no pun intended).

All virginity means is that you have never had sex. How does the act itself, perpetrated or no, make you more or less than a decent human being?

 

[AWDMANOUT]

I don't think virginity is all that big a deal as people make it out to be. Everyponybody's* always going to be new at something, and it shouldn't be that grand of an event if that thing happens to be sex.

*Been watching ponies all night, sorry. ^_^