Poll: I like a girl but what should I do about it?

[Cowabungaa]

When you see an opportunity to greet and introduce yourself, take it. Nothing fancy, no pick-up lines, nothing of the sort. Just introduce yourself, try to get to know her, make you known to her, and see (and hope) if there's a click between you two.

However, this does require pretty big balls. The fact that it's simple doesn't mean it's easy.

Forget about it. According to your profile, you're fifteen. Teenage romances rarely work out. You'll probably break out of your shell when you're older, by the time you get to university or something like that. Until then, your hormonal imbalances will affect you badly - unless you're strong enough to resist them.

Just because of the reasons you listed you should not forget about it? Why? Simple; practice is important, especially with relationships. Hell, if anything, because teenage romances aren't long term and not that serious they're the perfect opportunity to practice. It's basically what they're for.

 

[thedeathscythe]

Letting nature takes it's course basically means you're going to sit idly by and nothings going to happen. I know this is an easier route, but it's definitely not the one you want, am I right? It's essentially the same as forget about it, which I don't believe either of those are options for you since you seem to be wanting us to tell you how to go about getting her.

In my opinion, chat it up with her once in a while. Try and talk for 5 minutes and get her to laugh and have a good time, but be sure to leave. Don't stay for 10 or 15 minutes, or do, but what I'm trying to get at is, you should stay long enough for her to enjoy your company, but leave so that you haven't reached any awkward silence or maybe rung out the conversation too much. Say you gotta run and finish some errands or something. This way you're giving her a sample of yourself, and not a whole bowl (if I'm gonna use ice cream as an analogy). Be sure to give her a couple samples here and there and one day just ask go ahead and ask her on a date.

It sounds easy, but it really is man. Treat it like you're asking your friend to come see a movie with you or go to the park or something. You wouldn't feel nervous asking your friend to hang out, so try and treat it the same way. If she says no? Just say "damn, I figured I'd try" and then move on. I don't even ask why most of the time, I don't want to seem like I'm prying/that it really effected me. Movies are easy dates, but they're really passive so I like to mix it up and go bowling or go to a park or something. If the girl games, which has only happened once, we gamed and it was awesome. There's a local bar in my city that holds stand up comedy almost every single night, week nights is amateurs and the weekends (busier times) is more established comics. Go to a comedy club or something, or a museum. There is literally thousands of things you can do, so I think if you asked her to something other than a movie, she might be more inclined to go.

 

[MrAkuma201]

Do it what is the worst that can happen but watch what you say.

 

[YourMom]

You should ask people on 4chan.

 

[Uber Evil]

To paraphrase/ quote Zapp Brannigan "The quickest way to a girl is through her parents. Have sex with them and you're in."
For srs: Yeah just talk to her and stuff. Even if it doesn't last just be happy that you got her (unless she ends up being a total *****, then I can't help you.)

 

[Sandernista]

MORE INFORMATION NEEDED.

But I guess, do something about it?

 

[JUMBO PALACE]

Talk to her, become her friend, and see if she's interested in you too. If you think she is, ask her out. Easy equation to assemble, sometimes difficult to execute.

 

[IxHADOUKENxI]

Shyness and more pressingly fear of rejection are what kept me alone for so long but eventually I just toughened up, thought to myself so she says no, big deal forget move on Trust me mate getting told no is better than making yourself alone...and heck there's just as much chance she will say yes...
All the best and Good luck mate

 

[FalloutJack]

This is a huge dillema as I don't know what to do or even if I should do anything?
Help fellow Escapists! HELP!! (BTW I am REALLY shy!)

The whole of my opinion leads towards asking her about it. However, I will say that taking gradual steps towards that moment is key. If you're too fast, you could annoy her or creep her out. We don't want that, so I suggest this...

If you don't know her that well, find some reason to get into friendly conversation, think ice-breakers at a party. My opinion is that you should be at least a little humorous, so that even if you two don't have a connection, she can take refuge in your colorful wit.

Try to be a listener. I know we guys have trouble listening to things, but when I girl starts talking about things in her life to you, that means she's letting you into her life a bit at a time. Act naturally, show the right reactions to the good and the bad. If something bad has happened, be sympathetic and try to give some helpful advice. She should at least appreciate that you're trying.

Something important to note. Girls vent, and how, but it's not necessarily your fault when it happens. You gotta take that like a man and try not to be insulted. See if you can find out the cause and then determine whether the game-plan is to help or shield thyself from harm.

The thing to remember here is that you have to inch your way up to things. Maybe somewhere in the middle of all that I said you can let on that you like her as more than a friend or maybe you feel comfortable waiting for more solidarity in the relationship before you make that push. That push is up to you. My advice here is essentially to get you an in and make it so she doesn't just slip through your fingers without at least a token effort.

 

[z121231211]

Since you're asking an internet forum what to do. Forget about it. You already lost.

 

[PatrickXD]

If you like the girl then I'm guessing you talk to her often enough. In which case, just ask her. The worst that she can say is no. I'm guessing you are fairly young (like 14 or so) in which case it will not be the end of the world if the response is negative.

Forget about it. According to your profile, you're fifteen. Teenage romances rarely work out. You'll probably break out of your shell when you're older, by the time you get to university or something like that.

Is it not a good idea to gain experience with dealing with rejection at an early age? Looking at my sister, who is 22 now, she didn't have a boyfriend until she was about 20 and although it only lasted for about 4 months she was really set back by the breakup.

 

[Binerexis]

Since you're asking an internet forum what to do. Forget about it. You already lost.

Have to go with either this advice or just the general 'man up' advice that other people have given. In general, if you have to ask the internet for help with this sort of thing, you need to re-evaluate what you're doing.

 

[Tharwen]

The awkward start of a conversation will be forgotten if the conversation itself is good. Fill awkward silences with anything you can think of, and don't follow her around if she goes somewhere.

 

[rembrandtqeinstein]

The hardest thing for a dude is determining if a chick likes him. Don't listen to what she says, only watch her actions.

Phase 1, phone number

Talk to her however you think is appropriate then say "can I get your number?". If she answers with anything other than digits she isn't interested. You can also give her your number if she asks but if she doesn't don't worry about it.

It doesn't matter what the excuse is, the bottom line is that if she is interested she will give you her number, and if she isn't she won't.

Phase 2, get a date

Wait however long you feel is appropriate, I like 5-7 days, your mileage may vary and it doesn't really matter. Then call her. Only talk if she answers, if you get voice mail just hang up, wait a week and try again. If you can't get her the second time then toss the number, she isn't interested.

If she answers ask her out for a specific event at a specific day at least 4 or 5 days from when you called. "I would like to take you out to dinner thursday night". I would avoid friday or saturday night because it increases the likelihood that she will have other plans (not that it really matters).

If she agrees you are good, if she doesn't agree but gives a counter offer you are good. If she makes an excuse and doesn't counteroffer then she isn't interested, politely end the conversation and lose the number.

If she counteroffers and you are available then you can either accept or play the game a bit. Tell her you aren't sure you are available and you will have to call her back. Wait a day, call her back and tell her you aren't, and give her another offer. If she accepts then great, if she counters then go ahead and accept the second one.

Good luck!

 

[woogit]

Forget about it. According to your profile, you're fifteen. Teenage romances rarely work out. You'll probably break out of your shell when you're older, by the time you get to university or something like that.

Is it not a good idea to gain experience with dealing with rejection at an early age? Looking at my sister, who is 22 now, she didn't have a boyfriend until she was about 20 and although it only lasted for about 4 months she was really set back by the breakup.

If you're a proper nerd at the age of fifteen, you should pretty much inherently have experience at dealing with rejection. I've never actually asked a woman out, and I'm 22, yet I would inherently expect rejection and therefore have learned to observe female body language a lot more closely than I would be expected to in the circumstances.

At fifteen I was embracing my true geek and only then got a boyfriend who shared my views on robots and videogames. But really relationships before university are fruitless.

 

[GameMaNiAC]

Try to give her small hints that you like her and spend some time with her. If she likes you back, pay attention to any hints she might give you.

 

[Vandenberg1]

This is a huge dillema as I don't know what to do or even if I should do anything?
Help fellow Escapists! HELP!! (BTW I am REALLY shy!)

Remember a quote from Courage wolf.... If she doesn't like you its because shes a lesbian... another one is.. Millhouse hasn'tgiven up, why should you?

 

[The_ModeRazor]

Fuhgettaboutit'

That's what I always do. Worked out so far. No girlfriend, no love in sight. Not all of us are made for society.