Poll: I like a girl but what should I do about it?

[Singularly Datarific]

If you're a teenager, then don't worry about it. You are still finding out about yourself just as much as you are about others. For something like this to work out, your identity MUST be solid, so what the other person knows as you doesn't wobble. The same works the other way, too. What may attract you now could be a phase or experiment, or otherwise dropped as she discovers herself too.
As much as it sucks to say- just be a friend. It never hurts to be non-awkward around people.
Whatever happens, you can learn from it.

 

[TheLastSamurai14]

Forget about it. According to your profile, you're fifteen. Teenage romances rarely work out. You'll probably break out of your shell when you're older, by the time you get to university or something like that. Until then, your hormonal imbalances will affect you badly - unless you're strong enough to resist them.

I'm sorry to say something like this, as you really do have a valid point, but please don't make such a generalization. I was thirteen when my girlfriend and I started dating (we had met each other a year earlier) and our relationship is still going strong five years later. I know you said that they can work out in rare instances, but you should really give more credit to couples like me and my girlfriend. I have a bunch of friends that have had relationships as successful as mine, for example.

Just wanted to clear that up.

 

[silent_noir_67]

Introduce yourself, get to know her, and be yourself.

Exactly.
I'd say build up a friendship with her first, at least for a little bit. Just so you can know a little bit more about her (You didn't mention if you're already friends but I'll assume not), then maybe ask her out for real if things go well and she shows signs of being interested back?

Although we only have half the story (if that). internet forum posters from around the world shouldn't really be making a huge impact on what you decide to do.

 

[imnot]

Well seeing as you proberly already got a good answer im going to make some stupid suggestions!
Kidnap her!

 

[slightly evil]

Become a friend for a little while, ask her out after a few weeks.
You either get a girlfriend or a good friend. Win all round.
Most importantly don't make too big a deal over it, you'll just get shot down or put her off.
Oh, and don't lie or anything. The best idea is to moderate your honesty

 

[KingsGambit_v1legacy]

You may not realise it now, but life is too short for not knowing and wondering "What if?". If you remain shy and don't ask her out there are only two things you can be sure of. One, you won't go out with her and Two, you'll never know if you could have had you asked.

I'm not saying ask immediately, that's your choice. You might well be best served by getting to know her a little first, make her laugh and give her the chance to see you in a fun context. But you should ask. Either she will say yes and you'll go on a date or get her number, or she'll say no and at least you know for sure and can move on. Just ask, it's better to be the guy who tried than the one to shy and never did. If you don't, you've already lost the battle. Don't waste time, time waits for no one and life really is too short to waste it.

Good luck, let us know how you get on.

 

[A-Heart-Of-Gold]

You said that you are really shy but there is a part of you who wants to be with her then that part of you will take over and make your shy side look like a tiny electron of your personality!

Go for it ask her out but not straight away get to know her first and be more confortable around her then do it. She will also be more confortable around you and will probably say yes!

 

[Burs]

If you're a proper nerd at the age of fifteen, you should pretty much inherently have experience at dealing with rejection. I've never actually asked a woman out, and I'm 22, yet I would inherently expect rejection and therefore have learned to observe female body language a lot more closely than I would be expected to in the circumstances.

Right you've never asked a girl out and you're giving advice to a 15yo telling him not to even bother trying. -.-
Being a "proper nerd" doesn't mean that you become a reject of society, hell how would you catergorise a "proper nerd"; I've D&D'd a fair few times in my dim and murky past I have an extensive games library, I think there are more then a few sci-fi films I know off by heart. Does this all make me a "proper nerd" I believe so but I've still managed to keep friendships and had a few relationships with both geeky and non-geeky girls.

OP: go for it Learning is what being a teenager is for! if she says yes make it last as long as its comfortable ^.^

 

[Brandon237]

I don't mean to sound rude but really there shouldn't be any debate about it. if you like her than you NEED to go talk to her even for your own closer. Really what's the worst that could happen? if you go and talk to her and she rejects you or is rude to you it'll hurt for a bit but you'll learn and grow.

besides she could have a thing for you as well, if you don't go talk to her you'll never know and chances are you'll regret it for quite a while (at least until a new girl comes along, they always do).

Being shy is no excuse unfortunately, I was pretty danged shy in high school until I stopped caring what other people thought about me. I started talking to girls I was interested in and believe it or not I was getting dates with new girls on a weekly basis.

just go out there and have confidence in yourself, breaking out of your comfort zone might not be easy but it's something we all have to do at one point in our lives. If it doesn't work out take a little bit to sulk but move on (the best advice I could give someone who is just starting out dating: MOVE ON if you get rejected!) why would you want to be with someone who isn't interested in you anyway?

This is exactly the advice you should take. It works, and you feel like a man for it. Just go out there and talk to her, be friendly, but DO NOT lay it on thick, and do not try to get too witty or anything, and then ask her out, that is it. If she says yes, YAY! If no, you can move, feel like a man for being brave anyway, and may have acquired a new friend in the process, YAY!

@RAKtheUndead: Why are you always so bitter about romance?
OP: Do not listen to his advice on it. It is generally not on the neutral to positive side of these things and is going to leave you feeling lonely and rather cowardly.

 

[Zenn3k]

Do nothing!

Then you can totally regret it for the rest of your life! Its awesome!

Just talk to her like a regular person, introduce yourself, smile...if she smiles back, you're golden.

 

[Instinct Blues]

Talk to her and get to know her and then when you feel comfortable then go ahead and ask her if she'd like to go out with you. If she says no its no big deal because there are plenty of other girls out there.

 

[kortin]

Talk to her. Don't hesitate. Life is way too short for hesitation.

 

[BlackWidower]

Details would help. Do you know this person as a friend, or is she just some girl at the bus stop down the street?

 

[wax88]

go for the kill dude! kidding...but seriously, just ask her, you know as you would normally. no need for anything fancy. relax(i know how hard that can be) go up and introduce yourself.

do not make the same mistake i once did: IE wait too long to do anything, and in the end she ends up with someone else. the perfect time never does come. so have some confidence in yourself! You dont want to spend time in the future wondering why you didn't do anything, or what could have been. take action and dont regret it. life is too short, seize the day. Just make sure you dont do it in like a creepy way like stalking of cos. girls hate that.

also, im assuming you dont know her. if you happen to be her friend, that may be a bit tricky. in that case, best to know a bit more(any mutual friends you can use to gather information?) on whether she'll likely want to go further with you. the prob with a friend is that if she does reject you, it's gonna be difficult to be friends in the future and the question becomes are you willing to risk the friendship for love instead-it becomes a bit of a gamble. im not saying it's not possible to continue being friends after that, heck i've managed to build back a frenship from such an akward situation, but suffice to say it'll be difficult to do so, and even at best, both of u will be in a very akward situation for at least 2 weeks- 2 months.


Anyways, do keep us updated on your situation and i wish you all the best.

 

[Terrara]

Tell her. There is still the mental image that it should be the guy who "proposes" or well, talks in your case. But I do hope that you have same interests and you know her well and this is not the type of stalker-ish relationship, because you may have imagined some of her features. I'm not bashing you, its what all do - idolise

 

[standokan]

You can do it but only if you're willing to put yourself out there and go for it, if you're unable to beat your shyness, then you're doomed. And don't worry about failing, it's great experience for later and it helps you grow on these skills (like confidence etc).

 

[Hagi]

My advice:

Clear your head a bit from your infatuation, meditation or masturbation should both do the trick, and think about whether or not you two are genuinely have potential (similar hobbies, interests etc.) or if she just has a really really nice rack (nothing wrong with that).

If you two really have potential then without a doubt go talk to her, you may be missing out on something great. Even if it isn't likely to last past high school.

If she just has a nice rack, even if it's really really really really really nice, I'd be more doubtful. It's very possible that you'll make a bit of a fool out of yourself while acting under infatuated logic and that's likely to cause at least some regret. You may have to consider just forgetting her. There's nothing wrong with going for short-term relationships because the other partner has an awesome rack but they're generally better suited for slightly more mature people, I don't think 15 is the age to start getting into that. Plenty of time later, and plenty more fish to do it with.

 

[scorptatious]

snippity do da

Damn! I knew I was doing something wrong on the last girl I liked.

OT: Just go talk to her and be yourself. If she doesn't like you, don't feel too bad. There's plenty of fish in the sea.