Poll: If Your Significant Other Cheated, Would You Help Raise The Baby

[tehweave]

Okay... You've put me in a moral dilemma here.

1. A child is a permanent lifetime responsibility. It's a commitment I would have to live with forever.
2. The child is not biologically mine, therefore beyond being friends with the kid, I can't have any proper connection.
3. If an ex of mine ever cheated on me, I would absolutely break up with them.
4. Since a baby is in the picture, that changes things because the baby needs someone to take care of it.

So that's the problem. I had feelings or love the woman in said scenario, but not only did she cheat on me, but now a child is inside of her that isn't mine.

If I stay, I resent her and have no feelings for the child for the rest of my life.
If I go, I'm the biggest asshole on the planet, and I also believe in karma, so that would come back to bite me.

But despite all that, yes, I would go. My number 1 rule in relationships is: You cheat, I leave. The baby isn't mine, and yes, I'm leaving behind a pregnant woman who will very much need help, but rule number 1 applies. And yes, I will feel like a heel for the rest of my life.

 

[Mr Cwtchy]

Leave, without a doubt.

I hate children, so raising one would be akin to thirty years of waterboarding for me. Besides that, seeing the child every day would be a reminder of my SO's betrayal.

 

[hamster mk 4]

I am married and can not imageine a life without her. So I would stay and help. I would also probably bring up her unfaithfulness as the ultimate trump card in any argument. People raise step children all the time. The only difference is I would know this hypothetical step child from birth.

 

[Kpt._Rob]

I'm gonna go with "hell" and "no". Even if I decided to do the "noble" thing and stay, there is absolutely no way that a situation like that would spawn a happy family. That is a recipe for disaster.

 

[The Austin]

Fuck no, why the hell would I sacrifice the rest of my life to raise another mans' bastard child with a woman who cheated on me and didn't even have the decency to use a condom?

I wouldn't, that's why!

 

[Girl With One Eye]

I would leave, it would be his problem not mine.

 

[Rarhnor]

If she made the baby without me, she can raise it without me.

 

[Cheery Lunatic]

I voted "Female, no matter what".

Honestly, it depends on how sorry he was he cheated though. If he was honestly repentant on cheating, I'd help raise the baby. It's not the kid's fault the father's an ass, and he/she shouldn't be blamed. It needs a mom.

 

[child of lileth]

No. Why the hell would I raise someone else's kid. Adoption is one thing, but if my partner cheated one me, and had a kid with someone else, and expects me to take care of their for them, there's no way I would. I'd never talk to them again either. I refuse to take responsibility for something that has nothing to do with me.

 

[Jadak]

Maybe if the girl was raped or something (immaculate conception? hah) But why would anyone care for a child fathered by another man with a woman who cheated on you?

 

[reg42]

Fuck no. I mean... Just no. It was her dumb fault to get pregnant, so why should I give a toss, especially after cheating on me.

 

[gl1koz3]

I'd give two options to her:

1) fuck
2) you

Which is like stating the obvious.

 

[findler]

HEEEEEEEEEEEELLLLLL NO! Gotta file that one under "definitely not my fucking problem".

 

[Valksy]

Being a gay female it would be pretty obvious that my SO would have cheated if they showed up pregnant. And I would not be hanging out to see what gender the baby is, I would be out the bloody door like a shot. If a relationship is over then bloody say so, I can't stand all the cheating and sneaking around bullshit that some people indulge in. Life is not a soap opera. Just say something and move on.

 

[Ironic Pirate]

Ahem.

Uh, I don't know, it would depend on what my significant other was like, and if it was a drunken one night stand. That I could tolerate.

 

[amucha98]

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[Totenkopf]

No tolerance or mercy for disloyalty and traitors.
I'd leave her.

 

[hyperhammy]

Maybe... but probably not. Actually, Hell no! If she's dumb enough not to use a condom then she can take care of her child by herself.