Poll: Is being shy bad?
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All the times I forced myself to venture out of my shell and ultimately came to hate and regret what I found lead me to say that being shy and withdrawn can be a good thing.
On the other hand all the brilliant things I've got to experience only because someone else urged or straight up pushed me into it lead me to say being shy can be detrimental.
I suppose it all comes down to whether or not you're the kind of person who regrets the choices they made or the ones they didn't
On the other hand all the brilliant things I've got to experience only because someone else urged or straight up pushed me into it lead me to say being shy can be detrimental.
I suppose it all comes down to whether or not you're the kind of person who regrets the choices they made or the ones they didn't
Pretty much this.Zhukov said:
I mean, it's basically a form of social anxiety. It's debilitating, so of course it's bad.
Shyness, like any form of social anixety, is bad. If no one wants it, I don't see how it could be a good trait.
My social anxiety has affected my ability to get a job, to keep a job, and live my normal life. I quit my job because of social anxiety because when I'd get home after being forced to interact with people in situations where I literally had zero power, I would sometimes cry myself to sleep.
Now, I think you mean something a bit less severe, like just someone who is hesitant to come out of their shell a bit with people, and again, I would call it a bad trait, but it's not a trait people should be shamed for. At least for myself, it's literally a mental condition I have little control over. I can improve for certain (I have been for years, slowly), but no matter what when it happens, it's like a malfunctioning instinct in the back of my mind telling me that social situations are something to be feared.
My social anxiety has affected my ability to get a job, to keep a job, and live my normal life. I quit my job because of social anxiety because when I'd get home after being forced to interact with people in situations where I literally had zero power, I would sometimes cry myself to sleep.
Now, I think you mean something a bit less severe, like just someone who is hesitant to come out of their shell a bit with people, and again, I would call it a bad trait, but it's not a trait people should be shamed for. At least for myself, it's literally a mental condition I have little control over. I can improve for certain (I have been for years, slowly), but no matter what when it happens, it's like a malfunctioning instinct in the back of my mind telling me that social situations are something to be feared.
Being passive, less confident, less assertive can impact your life negatively in many ways. Oddly enough though many people mistakenly believe the opposite, according to the extensive data on how criminals single out potential target, they found that shy people are more likely to be targeted because the criminals see them as "an easy target." The more passive someone is, the less likely they are to fight back, make loud noise and to report the crime. Take Rape for example:
Thea easier it is for the perpetrator to tell that you are shy the more likely they are to target you over someone else. It is also difficult for shy people to make the necessary networking connections that they need for work, or assert themselves accordingly to advance themselves in their careers. People, for the most part, are usually much better off long term in numerous areas of their lives to benefit from trying overcome their shyness than to allow it to keep them afraid to assert themselves.
https://hubpages.com/politics/Through-the-Eyes-of-Criminals-Ways-not-to-be-Singled-Out
Thea easier it is for the perpetrator to tell that you are shy the more likely they are to target you over someone else. It is also difficult for shy people to make the necessary networking connections that they need for work, or assert themselves accordingly to advance themselves in their careers. People, for the most part, are usually much better off long term in numerous areas of their lives to benefit from trying overcome their shyness than to allow it to keep them afraid to assert themselves.
Preferring your own company and/or the company of close friends is fine. Lacking in the ability to engage in social behavior, in contrast, is a problem, and frankly a fairly severe one in a lot of contexts. I encourage introverts to learn to overcome their concomitant shyness, not to change them into extroverts, but simply so that when they want the ability to be social, they can.
Aside from some people finding it cute, no. There's a reason for classes and courses being held for people to get rid of it, or at least reduce their shyness. Being able to take initiative, look people in the eye, express yourself clearly and hold conversations with strangers are qualities that will help in all walks of life. I'm almost inclined to say that less qualified, but more outward going people are more likely to land the job than more qualified, but demure and shy ones.
Yes. Being shy is bad. And you should never tell children they are shy. Because then they will continue being shy and it could develop into asocialism.
No but can get ridiculously annoying if they either do it cause they think it's cute all the bloody time or just refuse any kind of face to face interaction.
No no. What I meant was, say you no someone for a while and in a relationship with them. At first the shyness is fine cause you both just met and getting to know each other. Fast forward months or half a year later and the person is still shy and barely saying a word to you in person and only giving one word answers. They talk more via messaging than they do in person. It can be annoying at times.Ezekiel said:
I agree that shyness is not good because it prevents you from getting certain opportunities, but what is wrong with being asocial? Asocial refers to the lack of motivation to engage in social interaction, or a preference for solitary activities. I don't see what is wrong with that if you know how to properly interact with other humans.Lufia Erim said:
If you strive for human interaction, then yes.
It's not terrible or anything and it can be endearing, but I recon you're not talking about the average bout of shyness.
It's not terrible or anything and it can be endearing, but I recon you're not talking about the average bout of shyness.