Poll: Is it ok for parents to spank their kids?

[spartan231490]

YES!!!!
Anyone who says no is being ignorant. There are massive numbers of people who were spanked and grew up to be totally functioning adults with healthy, happy relationships with their parents. It is obvious and demonstrable that spanking your child does not necessarily ruin their lives.

I'm not saying that everyone should spank their kids. I'm not even saying that there aren't better ways to discipline a child then spanking. I don't claim to be wise enough to know either of those things, but claiming that it is so bad that it's not even acceptable is ignorant and over-dramatic.

Personally, I believe that sometimes the best punishment is a spanking, I know that it worked on me better than anything else would have, and I've seen it work on my niece and nephew when nothing else will.

 

[Roganzar]

Yes it has its uses.
For example I would rather spank my son for trying to stick a fork in a light socket then have to take him to the emergency room.
Spanking is far less pain and trauma than say electrical burns. You shouldn't use spanking to often or it loses its impact (oops pun). Also, shouldn't be used when the parent is annoyed with the kid, only when the child has done something wrong. You know same as wacking a dog in the head with a newspaper for peeing in the house.
As an actual parent I have some experience with this.
Additionally, wrong forum.

 

[yuval152]

No,I also think it's illegal.When I was a kid and i did something bad,even the smallest thing my dad would will hit me and belive me it didn't do me any good,they only thing it made is quite,anti-socalist and to hate my dad.

FYI I had the potenial to be an expert Tennis & basketball player and an educted student but eventually I hated my dad so much,that I didn't want to do anything that will make him happy or pleased so drasticlly.

Could you be a little more clear on that, if hit you because of something like accidentally breaking a cup then that's not discipline that's abuse if was for stealing or hurting someone or something I would call that discipline. But for wetting the bed or like I said breaking a cup then that's just abuse.

He wouldn't use physical unless it's neccessry but verbally.....now that's a diffrent story.

 

[Al-Bundy-da-G]

Yes, obviously all kids are like that nowadays. The days in which teachers and some parents got rid of their aggressions by taking it out on children by means of violence were much better, we should go back to it.

Honestly, I dont think the school you visited as a child punished you for doing shit by smacking you, because if it had been common practice, you wouldnt have that backward ass opinion.

Actually my school asked my parents for permission to spank me. They agreed, and so the first time I hit someone or pulled a girls hair teach pulled out the paddle, after a few light taps (didnt even hurt more scary than anything) i apologised and that was that. No real harm, but the kids that misbehaved without being spanked were sent home came back the next day repeated history.

 

[gmaverick019_v1legacy]

Incidentally a note for a couple of people in this thread and that will enter: A family member getting drunk and landing a twenty hit combo on you whenever you cried is NOT the way children are normally disciplined..

is it bad that i laughed out loud at this part?

OT: QFT, there is a difference between a swift slap on the ass to a beating within an inch of the childs life, learn the difference, it is THERE.

as a kid my parents tried all effective means, i could've cared less if they took a toy away or put me in timeout, that just means i had to wait a bit longer to do what i wanted, which to a child that is no problem at all, but when my mom or dad gave me the look, and told me a swift smack to the ass was comin, you bet your fucking ass i did everything in my power to avoid that situation again.

as of right now, i have 14 cousins on my moms side of the family, roughly all ages from 2-8, and the only two that don't get a swift smack on the ass and only get "timeouts" and "missed opportunities" are the only ones that act up and cuss all the time, hell last night one of the two went "Goddammit you piece of shit, that is fucking wrong" and all the other kids looked in fear for the child, but they didn't get a spanking or anything so they were confused and jealous.

 

[AngryMongoose]

No. A full, legal court procedure which tries to account for every piece of evidence, assumes innocence, and allows the accused a trained professional to speak on their behalf isn't considered fit to deal out violence as punishment. A drunk, frustrated man with too many belts and a vendetta certainly isn't.

If it's reached the point that you feel absolutely necessary to hit your child, you're a shit parent. There's no way around that.

 

[TriGGeR_HaPPy]

I remember when I was a kid and my dad or grandad took the belt off and belted round the back of the legs with the buckle when I talked back. Or off came the shoe and a crack in the same place for being a tit.

Teachers throwing big wooden board cleaners at our heads for talking in class.

No one thought twice about it being a bad thing because it worked. We learned to shut the fuck up and do as was asked of us.

Have a look at kids today.

***** and moan if mummy or daddy won't get the latest i-phone for them.

Sometimes a smack is needed.

This, pretty much. When my siblings and I were younger, and we misbehaved, we got a stern talking to, or some other punishment. But if we ever took something too far, we got a smack. And, hell, I don't blame my parents for it at all. Taught me that being impolite or downright rude had the opposite effect that I wanted, and I'd even thank them for it if the topic ever came up.

I remember how my parents were complimented on how we were so well-behaved. And I see kids now who aren't allowed to be smacked because is not politically correct or whatever, and except for the occasional set of good kids, most of then are snot-nosed brats who will throw a tantrum whenever they don't get exactly what they want.

Of course a lot of problems with kids can be solved without physical violence. But there are some situations where it's called for.

So, yeah. I voted yes.

 

[Al-Bundy-da-G]

see verbally is different i mean a few stern words is one thing, but you don't go tear the kid down y'know.

 

[Astoria]

As long as it doesn't become abuse it's ok. Most people know where to draw the line.

 

[Cenequus]

No,hell no. The fact that your kid is a demon it's your fault coz you didn't knew how to grew him. Beating him will not make up for your mistakes.

 

[yuval152]

see verbally is different i mean a few stern words is one thing, but you don't go tear the kid down y'know.

I re-edited my post,what I ment to write came out diffrently because of google translate.

 

[Knight Captain Kerr]

No it is wrong. It isn't something you should do.

 

[manic_depressive13]

I'm inclined to say no, but then I don't really have experience with raising kids. I think that unless you have a really perverse child that just runs around acting like a massive dickhead despite repeatedly being told it's wrong, there's never any reason to hit. Children are dumb, but they rarely try to be deliberately harmful. There are plenty of perfectly effective ways of making a child understand they've done something wrong without hitting them. If they are being dicks for the sake of being dicks, it's probably a sign that you need to pay more attention to them, not hit them harder.

 

[Dense_Electric]

No,hell no. The fact that your kid is a demon it's your fault coz you didn't knew how to grew him. Beating him will not make up for your mistakes.

Spanking =/= beating.

The reason children are demonic little Satan kids half the time is because they're not mentally or morally developed, not because "you didn't raise them right" or whatever. They don't understand the wider implications or consequences of things, or why they can't always get what they want right now. The only thing someone under the age of about ten or eleven really understands is punishment and reward. It's the same way you'd train a dog - when they do something right, they get a treat. When they do something bad, a bit of pain goes a long way. You don't have to beat the shit out of your kids, you just have to hit them hard enough to cause a bit of shock value. I was spanked quite a bit as a child, I assure you I turned out quite fine.

 

[General BrEeZy]

yeah. dont over-do it though.

 

[Blow_Pop]

It worked great on me so I don't see why not. Though I also had days where I had to cut my own switch and to this day I still fear the sound of a belt clearing belt loops but all in all I turned out a lot better. Also got liquid soap put on my tongue when I used swear words. Learned not to do that as a child. Or when I back talked. And then there was the spider corner....

I'm sorry but if I ever have kids and they act up they are getting their arses spanked. I believe in disciplining your kids and teaching them respect. Not "oh just let them get away with anything" attitude that most parents around here seem to have.

Edit: I would like to point out every bit of discipline I got as a child was for doing shit I shouldn't have done that I knew better than to do but did anyways. The only actual "abuse" would probably be the going and cutting your own switch part. Though that was more my grandparents that did that. I do not condone beating the shit out of your child for the hell of it. I do condone a smack or two hard enough to cause some pain and teach them a lesson to NOT do something but not beating a child into submission. And I don't resent my parents or grandparents for their discipline. My resentment of them has to do with other things.

 

[Ando85]

Yes. I think there is too much controversy about beating children. A painful spank is a great punishment. Send kids to their room? Their room is full of toys. Timeout for 5 minutes? No big deal.

Kids get away with way too much these days. For example my cousins 7 year old son actually spit on me once. He didn't even get in trouble for it. If I did that when I was a kid I couldn't imagine what kind of trouble I would get in.

As long as the beating isn't extreme to the point of leaving scars or causing injury I think it should still be used.

 

[OmniscientOstrich]

Pretty sure I've seen this thread a few times before and I'm pretty sure someone posted this before:


That about sums up my views on the situation, resorting to hitting your kids to get them to behave just smacks of incompetance and impetuousness.

 

[Cenequus]

No,hell no. The fact that your kid is a demon it's your fault coz you didn't knew how to grew him. Beating him will not make up for your mistakes.

Spanking =/= beating.

The reason children are demonic little Satan kids half the time is because they're not mentally or morally developed, not because "you didn't raise them right" or whatever. They don't understand the wider implications or consequences of things, or why they can't always get what they want right now. The only thing someone under the age of about ten or eleven really understands is punishment and reward. It's the same way you'd train a dog - when they do something right, they get a treat. When they do something bad, a bit of pain goes a long way. You don't have to beat the shit out of your kids, you just have to hit them hard enough to cause a bit of shock value. I was spanked quite a bit as a child, I assure you I turned out quite fine.

Yeah I'm sure you and me think spanking =\= beating(even if not the shit out of them) but that's not what all the blue phones or whatever each country has as child protection services says.

As I said if you are not able to raise your kids you shouldn't have got one.